First Kiss (girl's opinion)........and other relationship issues

[staying_alive]

Okay, i had my first REAL kiss today. It was freezing outside, but i did it. And my girlfriend thought it was weird, and moving too fast. AT least, acoording to her friend. Anyway, i love her a lot, i think i might actually be in love, and i try to talk to her about stuff like "if something was really awkward" or stuff that i do, but she just doesn't like to talk about it and she thinks it's awkward. I asked her if she thought that our kiss was awkward. She said "Of course not". that means that she thought it was, but she didn't want to hurt my feelings. Well now i'm freaking out, and i need to know, from a girl's perspective, if talking about stuff like that is weird? :confused:

[Hyper]

I'm not a girl but.. Trust me its the same as asking the guy. There are just some different ''factors''.. Due to guys and girls being a bit different..

It depends on the person obviously.. But I wouldn't talk about it unless there is a need and if she doesn't really honestly talk to you about then bringing it up wont help anything.

[Serenity]

You can't just start a relationship and assume you can talk about whatever you want. You need to get used to each other and comfortable with each other before you try to have really deep convos. If she feels awkward, you're obviously not at that level of sharing yet. Just take it slow and enjoy each other's company. As your relationship matures, so will your span of conversation.

[staying_alive]

i just figured that 4 months would be enough for that level of maturity. we flirt non-stop, and i guess she felt like we weren't ready to kiss yet. i rushed her into it, and i feel like a real jerk for doing that. thanks for the insight.

[Serenity]

So tell her you're sorry and ask her what pace she wants to take it. Every relationship needs set boundaries and guidlines, so establish some with her.

[Lifesreject]

Just tell her you are sorry if she felt rushed but she just needs to let you kn where you stand. And dont worry about how good or bad you are kissing everybody kisses different so there is nothing to defy good and bad and you get better with practise so dont worry.

[whiterecyclables94]

Just tell her that you are sorry for moving to fast....its not really your fault because i assume you guys never talked about how fast you want to move.....Usually people get mixed up or do the wrong thing because of communication....Dont feel like a jerk just be a man admit to your mistakes and try to get on a deeper level of your relationship until she is ready to start kissing

[staying_alive]

thanks everyone. this really boosted my confidence. i'll try talking to her about it. sometimes i feel like we should break up, but she just brightens my day so much. i feel like she is awkward around me sometimes because she still doesn't know how to act and stuff, and it seems like a total communication issue. but i just like her so much..........thanks!