Morpheus
May 26th, 2013, 01:06 AM
Well I'm a senior who just graduated and turned 19 and she's a 16 year-old sophomore. We became best friends over the past year, and I found out about three weeks ago that she had a crush on me, and at that time, I told her about my feelings for her as well that I tried to mask. We started dating and I wanted to make sure we were both making the right decision so I made sure she promised that things would not get awkward if we had to break up because I would rather stay best friends instead of losing a close one. After one week, she broke up with me over facebook because her parents didn't like the fact that we were 3 years apart - but she told me she still wanted to be uber close (I don't see what the big deal is - neither of us wanted anything physical beyond hugging and holding hands. We're both pretty geeky, not mischievous.) After the facebook message, she's acted as if it has never happened and seems less talkative.
It took a few days for us to cool down, but it felt like something had been torn away from inside of me. We talked in study hall and skyped each other just fine after that, but I could tell something was still bothering her.
After graduation yesterday, she's came across as closed off, and I got a lot of one-word responses but she says she's fine.
I don't know what I should be doing right now - does she need space? If so, how much? I'm still heartbroken over the fact our relationship wasn't allowed to work out, but how am I supposed to communicate to her that I still want to be best friends even though she already knows about how important she is to me as a human being? I don't want to lose her.
I don't usually open myself up to people unless we share common interests, respect each other, and we just "click" (which definitely describes how we became close). She's truly only one of the few best friends I have that I would do almost anything for. I don't want this friendship to end. Out of the many things in life I've experienced thus far, this is one of the few that I have cried over.
It took a few days for us to cool down, but it felt like something had been torn away from inside of me. We talked in study hall and skyped each other just fine after that, but I could tell something was still bothering her.
After graduation yesterday, she's came across as closed off, and I got a lot of one-word responses but she says she's fine.
I don't know what I should be doing right now - does she need space? If so, how much? I'm still heartbroken over the fact our relationship wasn't allowed to work out, but how am I supposed to communicate to her that I still want to be best friends even though she already knows about how important she is to me as a human being? I don't want to lose her.
I don't usually open myself up to people unless we share common interests, respect each other, and we just "click" (which definitely describes how we became close). She's truly only one of the few best friends I have that I would do almost anything for. I don't want this friendship to end. Out of the many things in life I've experienced thus far, this is one of the few that I have cried over.