help? i really need advice...pleasee...

[x__onyx]

Recently [as in yesterday] my boyfriend broke up with me. I know this sounds childish, but I mean this:: it literally broke my heart. There are times I will just be sitting around and I will suddenly have trouble breathing and start gasping for air. It's been rough, even though it's only been a day.

He was the first guy I ever loved, and now...I don't have him. I asked my sister to get me arm warmers, because I figured i'd need some way to cover it up. I feel like hurting myself, and it's really unlike me. I really think that cutting might help me get over it.

Please don't give me the lecture of how many people I will be hurting. I already know this. It's just something I feel like I have to do to get release.


Any help?

[byee]

I'm really sorry for you, this sounds devastating for you. I wouldn't lecture you, or tell you blah blah blah. Loss hurts, period.

You've got a real injury there, treat it kindly and with respect. Do nice things for yourself, do the things that soothe you and make you feel better (dark chocolate always works wonders for me). Be around nice people. Do nice things. Cutting yourself is the last thing you need to do, you're already in extreme pain, you don't need any more!

These things take time to get over, it's easier of you don't do things that create more problems. take care of yourself here.

[thesphinx]

I agree with Sam, it takes time.

[Hyper]

I will give you a lecture.

Honestly what will you achieve? Have you ever seen or known people who are real cutters? You wont just be hurting others but you will be slowly destroying yourself, do you really want to slowly carve away every last drop of yourself? Your self-control your confidence your personality? It may seem I am being overdramatic right?

Isn't it just a cut you make on your body, to ''cope''. But realize this everytime you use that method to cope you shed away the things I mentioned earlier and eventually it will literally devour you and control you untill you can't handle it.

There are other ways to cope, hurting yourself is hating yourself and that only leads to self-destruction it is not a real way of coping it is a way of burning yourself alive and scorching everyone around who cares about you.

Other ways, other ways that all involve love: friendship, family and such but you also have to find the strength within yourself to keep on going and you have to accept help from those who love you.

That may have seemed a bit dramatical but it is as I said, you won't achieve anything with that method of ''coping'', but destroying yourself.

Remember that next time you think of doing something like hurting yourself purposely.

[The Resurrected One]

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...that doesn't help in any way at all, and is, quite frankly, rude.

[schrei jess]

Hun, cutting does not solve anything. It makes everything worse, ten fold. I started cutting when I was 12, and I've only just gotten over it this year, a few months ago. It took a two week hospitalization to get over it. And even then, I had two relapses and I still get the desperate, aching urge to do it again, and it's extremely hard to resist.

You need to STOP now while you're not too far gone to do it on your own. I know it's hard for you but doing this will not help you. You need to talk to someone, do something to get your mind off it, be with friends, whatever makes you happy. Because, to be honest, self-injuring is one of the DUMBEST things you could ever do. I am speaking from experience, and I'm not trying to make you upset, but I need you to understand how hard it is to get out of, even if you think you've got control over it.

If you need someone to talk to, I'm always here for you, just send a PM, or send an instant message if you'd like. Don't cut yourself again, it solves nothing, it only causes more problems.

Also, maybe you should read something I wrote some time before I was hospitalized.

Self-Harm; My Best Friend && My Worst Enemy (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=11095)

[x__onyx]

.....
Thanks for the help.
I'm not proud to say it...but I did try to cut myself last night.
I didn't get too far, but I did make myself bleed.
It didn't hurt too much....

[schrei jess]

Please try to get some help! Don't dig yourself in deeper, like I said, the farther you go, the harder it is to get back out. Please talk to me if you ever need help!