Girls, i need your thoughts and opinions on this

[Josh Schlacter]

A close friend and maybe even more (i think she may like me and i used to like her) sent me these texts. I really unbelievably want to have sex with her, but I'm not sure if it is the right decision. She's had a bf for a month now. And I'm staring to get feelings for her.
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Her: Hey ;)
Me: Heyy
Her: I want to tell you something, but keep it quiet
Me: Okay sure, promise.
Her: If you seriously ever want to have real sex or what ever, i would honestly sleep with you, if only you wanted too, but I'm always here in case you change your mind :)
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I'm a virgin and she's not, so if i go through with this how would i do it. I'm 8.1 inches long and 6.1 inches around, so do i need to do foreplay or anything? What usually happens, and what should i do? Is there something in the texts that I'm missing,

[Croconaw]

Hm... That's an interesting text. It sounds like she wants to have sex with you for whatever reason. If she still has a boyfriend, then that is definitely a bad thing. If you are starting to get feelings for her, then I'd keep it to yourself. If it is some thing you feel you need to tell her, then nothing is stopping you. However I'd be wary of her, if I were you.

[Unsolvedmind]

All you have to do is make sure your both ready that you really want to have sex and if you guys do be safe and use a condom.

[Josh Schlacter]

Hm... That's an interesting text. It sounds like she wants to have sex with you for whatever reason. If she still has a boyfriend, then that is definitely a bad thing. If you are starting to get feelings for her, then I'd keep it to yourself. If it is some thing you feel you need to tell her, then nothing is stopping you. However I'd be wary of her, if I were you.

I don't think that she really loves her boyfriend. I got the text about a week ago, and i replied saying that i would have sex with her but we'd have to wait a little while. I haven't told her anything how i feel yet.

[BrandonA]

Just wait for the right girl
This girl sounds "slu++y"

[ozzy]

^^ +1

[darkie]

Remember, sex is not love and love is not sex :)

[Loreley]

Just wait for the right girl
This girl sounds "slu++y"

Agree ^

[Josh Schlacter]

Agree ^

Just wait for the right girl
This girl sounds "slu++y"

I've known her for while and we talk a lot, it's not like i met her 2 days ago and she wan't to have sex

[Josh Schlacter]

Remember, sex is not love and love is not sex :)

What about just mutual sex?

[Loreley]

I've known her for while and we talk a lot, it's not like i met her 2 days ago and she wan't to have sex

Okay, but I can't overlook the fact that she has a boyfriend. She seems not to know what she wants. I think she is playing.

[Josh Schlacter]

Okay, but I can't overlook the fact that she has a boyfriend. She seems not to know what she wants. I think she is playing.

Yeah, but i don't think they're actually in love though. I think she was just lonely with her previous break up and needed some comfort. I think so as well. What do you think i should do?

[randomnessqueen]

she has a boyfriend, and she wants to have sex with you for no reason.
doesnt sound like a good idea

[Loreley]

Yeah, but i don't think they're actually in love though. I think she was just lonely with her previous break up and needed some comfort. I think so as well. What do you think i should do?

Personally I think, we can't change boyfriends/girlfriends every time we feel lonely and brokenhearted, and acting like we love them. It shows immaturity for me. It is what she is doing with her boyfriend. So, you said you are virgin. I don't know what most guys think about the first time, but I think it's not a big deal for them. As a girl, I think that your first time must be with someone you really love and she loves you too. I wouldn't do it, she seems that she likes playing, and she doesn't feel anything for you or for her bf.

[Sharona]

Well she doesn't sound like the kind of hot you take home to meet your parents but she wants you in her bad

[princess09]

I think because she has a boyfriend you should respect that and wait for when she is single, for now just say something like maybe we should wait and see how you relationship goes. If you still want to after,I would like to have sex with you . Good luck!

[CharlieHorse]

Just wait for the right girl
This girl sounds "slu++y"

This^^

[darkie]

What about just mutual sex?


If you *do* have sex (and personally I'm against that) do you think you could leave with no strings attached?

...basically this is like you guys being friends with benefits yet she's in a (you might say, quite a burdensome) relationship?

[Josh Schlacter]

Well she doesn't sound like the kind of hot you take home to meet your parents but she wants you in her bad

I guess the way this topic was constructed makes her sounds like a slut. She's really nice.

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[Miri]

If she has a boyfriend, I honestly think that you shouldn't break them up, let alone have sex with her when she's already seeing someone.

If she likes you and is no longer attracted to her boyfriend, then let her break up with him by herself, for her own reasons. Don't make the reason that they break up be because she's cheating on him with you.

[Taryn98]

If you really want to do it then go ahead. But the fact that you are asking our opinion leads me to believe you have second thoughts. If that's the case, you're better off not doing it.

[GigglyAbby]

Yeah, but i don't think they're actually in love though. I think she was just lonely with her previous break up and needed some comfort. I think so as well. What do you think i should do?

I too think that they need to break up before you decide to have sex with her. How would you feel if you were dating a girl and she cheated on you or dumped you to have sex with another guy? You both need to decide whether you're going to date and maybe eventually have sex -- date and have sex on first date- have a one night stand -- or become Friends with Benefits. Keep in mind that dating that begins with sex may be more of sexual relationship than a true dating relationship.