Flirting with a guy

[alex99Ro]

Hi
After I saw an answer from this topic:"Is my friend gay?",I thought about the guy I like.Could you please tell me how to flirt with him a bit without making it suspicios and in the end,to ask him if he is bi/gay/curious?He is quite easy-going and I don't want to break our frienship...

By the way,he is my classmate:D.I don't want the whole class to find that I am bi

[darkie]

Well this is something I'd like to get help from as well :) But personally I'd say compliment him when he does something nice to you, and notice and pay attention to him, and offer nice things to do for him, perhaps?



Gosh this is why I suck at relationships D:

[alex99Ro]

Gosh this is why I suck at relationships D:
Me 2 ;)

[chrisjb2000]

Hi
After I saw an answer from this topic:"Is my friend gay?",I thought about the guy I like.Could you please tell me how to flirt with him a bit without making it suspicios and in the end,to ask him if he is bi/gay/curious?He is quite easy-going and I don't want to break our frienship...

By the way,he is my classmate:D.I don't want the whole class to find that I am bi

but im gay

[alex99Ro]

but im gay
what?

[chrisjb2000]

i want to know how to flirt witha guy but im not bi im gay you see

[alex99Ro]

i want to know how to flirt witha guy but im not bi im gay you see
Quite the same story

[Jake Morgan]

Being autistic i don't understand the flirting courtship ritual concept at all. younger kids seem to manage to not have to do any of this stuff and are just up front with each other. I guess when sexual awareness comes along, all that simplicity in directness goes out the window.

[Croconaw]

I would just flirt like how you normally would.

[teen.jpg]

If you trust him, just ask him. If not, I'd keep it to myself.

[chargersfan]

I wouldn't bother unless you think he might be gay/bi as well. You have to remember there's 2 requirements for something like your situation (or the one I'm in with the is my friend gay) One he has to be at least Bi. Two, he has to be interested in you. In the thread I made I had completely given up on the guy I was talking about until I saw the glimmer of hope, pay attention to his behavior to see if there is any chance that he is actually gay or bi before you start flirting. Because gay flirting when you are in the closet is much more complicated than straight flirting, you have to walk on egg shells and not be to obvious to avoid shit hitting the fan, but at the same time, it's a lot harder to get somebodies attention with gay flirting because they don't expect to see it from somebody they believe to be straight.

[Cece14]

if he is gay or bi, he could be sending clues, just pat attention to his actions

[Magnus Bane]

Just flirt with him how you would flirt with girls.

[Trenton_]

Hi
After I saw an answer from this topic:"Is my friend gay?",I thought about the guy I like.Could you please tell me how to flirt with him a bit without making it suspicios and in the end,to ask him if he is bi/gay/curious?He is quite easy-going and I don't want to break our frienship...

By the way,he is my classmate:D.I don't want the whole class to find that I am bi

Play a game at a party or something that's got some same sex stuff happening and then talk about it some other time and see what he thought. Crazy stuff happens at parties all the time anyway, so it's not a big deal if you if you're doing some stuff so long as it's part of group thing. haha. just they way it is.

As a straight guy, I've done some stuff and had guys after ask me what I thought and I just say it was okay, it's not like I'm into it. It was just a goof.

I'd guess that a closeted bi or gay or curious guy would say something closer to "kind of surprised I was okay with it ... pretty fun I guess".

So you can were that would lead to more convo and away you go.

[Wonder.]

Simple answer: Don't flirt with him, just be nice.

Expanded answer: Anytime someone flirts, it's really, really obvious. Flirting is how you make people avoid you. What you should do is just be nice. Compliment their appearance (RARELY. If you overdo it, it's obvious you want in their pants), laugh at his jokes, start a conversation with him on facebook occasionally, etc. Try to become good friends if you aren't already. If you're going to ask someone their sexuality, you want to have a good relationship with them.

Summary: DO NOT FLIRT. Be nice. Help him when he needs it. Be a friend. THEN ask sexuality. If gay/bi/pan/whatever else means he likes the D, then try flirting and starting a relationship with him.