My friends never invite me to hangout, I'm the one always asking. Is this a bad sign?

[Cicero]

So my friends rarely invite me to do anything with them, I'm the one who's always asking and all that. Is this a bad sign?

Like with this one friend, ill text him asking "Hey can we hangout this weekend?" And almost always he'll say "Sure" he's never asking me "Hey can you come over this weekend?" Is this a bad sign? I'm worried that because I'm always the one asking, they don't like me. If they did in fact dislike me, would they say stuff like "Oh I'm busy" or "Sorry I can't"? Do they never ask because they expect me to ask anyways?

[Josh Morgan]

Maybe it's just a pattern that got established. Same thing happened with my best friend. He finally brought it up because he was beginning to wonder if he was just pestering me and I was just being nice. I really didn't realize that he was the only one who always got things going. I guess maybe I thought he liked it that way, if I thought about it at all.

[Cicero]

Maybe it's just a pattern that got established. Same thing happened with my best friend. He finally brought it up because he was beginning to wonder if he was just pestering me and I was just being nice. I really didn't realize that he was the only one who always got things going. I guess maybe I thought he liked it that way, if I thought about it at all.

So your friend is like me? If so, what did you think? I feel like if I understand how you feel, then ill understand how my friends feel. Cause they're the ones planning with their others friends to do stuff, yet with me they don't and I'm the one always asking

[Josh Morgan]

So your friend is like me? If so, what did you think? I feel like if I understand how you feel, then ill understand how my friends feel. Cause they're the ones planning with their others friends to do stuff, yet with me they don't and I'm the one always asking

Well, I wasn't inviting others and not him so I can't relate to that. Usually I take things as they come rather then make them happen. Most of the stuff I do with friends is something scheduled on the grapevine like soccer or general get togethers like movies, sleepovers, swimming and BBQs and stuff like that. With him, I felt bad about the fact that he was always calling me and not vice versa, so I made a point of taking my turn at calling him from then on. Before that like I said, I was just oblivious to it. I suppose you can bring it up with your fiends the way he did to me. In my case it was just pure ignorance.

[Croconaw]

I wouldn't say it's a bad thing. Maybe they are just used to you asking them...

[Wonder.]

I never ask my friends but they don't ever really ask me either. I wouldn't think anything of it. If they ever start constantly saying no and/or making up excuses, that's when you may want to re-evaluate your friendship.

[ItsDarien]

My idea, is that; get them all together in a group in a private place, and ask them about it. Ask them whether they are purposely excluding you out of their fun & games / activities.

~Darien.

[CarolinaDude]

I wouldn't say it's a bad thing. Maybe they are just used to you asking them...

I agree with this. But next time you hang out with him, see if he's actually having fun and enjoying his time with you.

If not, then he might just be acting nice.

If he is having a blast hanging out with you, then he is probably just used to you asking to hang out first.

[Cicero]

I agree with this. But next time you hang out with him, see if he's actually having fun and enjoying his time with you.

If not, then he might just be acting nice.

If he is having a blast hanging out with you, then he is probably just used to you asking to hang out first.

Well, his family and ours are pretty close and his mom always says how he appreciates having me to hangout with, but I just figure she's just saying tht. But most of the time I ask to hangout he's up for it

[Fanta_Lover44]

Hmmm not a bad thing, my "Friends" do it all the time... Might go find some friends who acturlly bothers asking :P

[NiaBlew]

Well, idk about your friends situation, but I don't ask my friends to hang out either. There is a reason for that though, and made it a point to let my friends..ALL OF THEM.. know why I never ask them out so they know I'm not acting funny. My thing is, why ask everyone else to hang except you.?? Do they REALLY like you or are you just that one kid they talk to to be nice.? You should have a serious sit down with your 'friends' about this issue.

[Cicero]

Well, idk about your friends situation, but I don't ask my friends to hang out either. There is a reason for that though, and made it a point to let my friends..ALL OF THEM.. know why I never ask them out so they know I'm not acting funny. My thing is, why ask everyone else to hang except you.?? Do they REALLY like you or are you just that one kid they talk to to be nice.? You should have a serious sit down with your 'friends' about this issue.

No, were friends. Like we hangout a lot, but they just never ask me to hangout much, only once in a while. We hangout a lot but cause I am asking.

[ECSTASY]

Non of them ask me to go out with them except the only close friend i have. Maybe they are just lazy to go out ...
Find a close friend bro ;) its 10 times better than the normal ones ;)

[Cicero]

Non of them ask me to go out with them except the only close friend i have. Maybe they are just lazy to go out ...
Find a close friend bro ;) its 10 times better than the normal ones ;)

They're close

[ECSTASY]

They're close

you should ask them about it then

[AzuPazu]

I don't think it is a bad thing. I rarely ask my best friends out, yet I get frustrated when they don't ask me. o.o;

[Cece14]

Maybe, not sure

[justin 13]

dude don't sweat 2 much about this.

[kanye]

They don't like you

[Emerald Dream]

They don't like you

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