how to change...

[Jman437]

people are always saying "I need to change", "I work on my flaws", but how do we change? We just do it and that's it, or we have to overcome a complex process so we can do it?

[Rayquaza]

You don't need to change unless you truly believe yourself that you need to change, or you're choosing to do something damaging to your health or others. From your avatar, it looks like you're smoking. A good idea would be to withdraw from smoking and quit, which will leave you better in the long run. Ask those people why they're saying that, and what effect it has on you and them, and if it makes sense, ask those people how you could change.

[Jman437]

You don't need to change unless you truly believe yourself that you need to change, or you're choosing to do something damaging to your health or others. From your avatar, it looks like you're smoking. A good idea would be to withdraw from smoking and quit, which will leave you better in the long run. Ask those people why they're saying that, and what effect it has on you and them, and if it makes sense, ask those people how you could change.

I don't smoke, the guy in my avatar is Jesse Pinkman, from Breaking Bad, my favorite tv show. I just want to know what to do in order to work on my flaws and be a better person. How do I do it?

[Rayquaza]

I don't smoke, the guy in my avatar is Jesse Pinkman, from Breaking Bad, my favorite tv show. I just want to know what to do in order to work on my flaws and be a better person. How do I do it?

Ask those people why they're saying that, and what effect it has on you and them, and if it makes sense, ask those people how you could change.

Changes come about and need approaching differently. It depends on what your 'issues' are.

[Jman437]

Changes come about and need approaching differently. It depends on what your 'issues' are.

In my case, I'm too neurotic and little conscientious. I think a lot about the future, I'm too fearful, I think too much, I'm afraid that if I stop thinking too much everything will fall apart. I never make plans because I never do them, I think it's my duty to be able to overcome this, but I don't know what to do...

[Josh Morgan]

Change takes a lot of time. Sounds like you have a good handle on what your problems are. I've heard helping others out is a good way to think less about yourself. A lot of people do volunteer work helping others for that reason.

[Jman437]

Change takes a lot of time. Sounds like you have a good handle on what your problems are. I've heard helping others out is a good way to think less about yourself. A lot of people do volunteer work helping others for that reason.

How much time do you mean by "a lot of time"?

[Josh Morgan]

How much time do you mean by "a lot of time"?

I'm just saying it doesn't happen overnight and can be so gradual you don't notice it yourself, until you look back at were you were a year ago. There were certain things about myself that needed improvement and I didn't feel like I was making any progress because it took longer then I wanted it to and happened so gradually.

[Jman437]

I'm just saying it doesn't happen overnight and can be so gradual you don't notice it yourself, until you look back at were you were a year ago. There were certain things about myself that needed improvement and I didn't feel like I was making any progress because it took longer then I wanted it to and happened so gradually.

That happened to me too, I changed a lot since I was 15. Still, I want to be conscientious as I am neurotic, which I am a lot, and that's what I want to know: how to be less neurotic and more conscientious. I know it can take time, but hell, I live with this neuroticism since I knew what it was!

[Josh Morgan]

Well, when it comes to a neurological problem maybe it's a more a mater compensating then changing. My brother has severe neurological problems from autism, that he'll never be able to change, but he's learned his way around a lot of stuff.

[Jman437]

Well, when it comes to a neurological problem maybe it's a more a mater compensating then changing. My brother has severe neurological problems from autism, that he'll never be able to change, but he's learned his way around a lot of stuff.

The only issue I think I have is GAD, but I don't know what to do to make it disappear, at least...