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TomFoolerie
May 22nd, 2013, 02:17 AM
Didn't know where else to post this but
My girlfriend told me that she was a virgin, she said she'd never been fingered, never masturbated nothing at all, aside from tampon use. She told me however that for the first time she did masturbate. She said she managed to fit three fingers without "too much trouble" I feel like she's not telling me something, she's had many many many boyfriends before me. She told me of this first time the next day, and later said she felt kinda sore in the vaginal area. I myself am a virgin, and as odd as this may sound I would prefer to lose it to a virgin. But I really love her, and for the first time her vaginal fluids which were on my hand came in contact with my penis. I now have a lump on it in the area around which it came in contact. I feel like she lied to me and gave me a disease. Please give me advice, I don't know where else to turn. (additional info- she told me before we ever got together she was a virgin, however multiple people told me there is no way in hell she is a virgin. I just don't want to be lied to and she was honest when she cheated on me the one time( she had just kissed the guy and let him feel her up; nothing else) so why would she lie about this? Please give me answers... It's eating me alive knowing what the possibilities are.

GigglyAbby
May 22nd, 2013, 02:44 AM
Unless you've spoken to her ex-boyfriends or her TRUE friends and they are being honest --- no one will know for sure how far she has gone. Plus -- remember school is full of gossip and hate so what you may be hearing is a devious way to hurt her reputation.

Noone knows what the truth is and to prevent yourself from getting hurt -- follow what your heart tells you and decide to break up or stay with her.

Have you told her that you would prefer to lose it to a virgin? I suspect that she's trying to impress you and she may be lying to you in order to keep you. Or maybe she's so embarrassed about her past that she's telling you what she wants you to hear. The things you mention give me doubt to believe her.

As far as that lump goes -- it may be a coincidence as some infections take a while to show symptoms (if any). If in doubt get tested but keep in mind it can take several months for a STI to show on a test.

TomFoolerie
May 22nd, 2013, 02:27 PM
Well, I said something about it to her today, and she attempted to reassure me that she is indeed a virgin. She said she'd explain it all later, which makes me wonder, is it possible in the time she laid in bed masturbating that she worked her way up? I just don't want to be lied to. If she's not a virgin, and was honest, I wouldn't care. I care enough about her for it not to matter. Is there any suggestions to get the truth, and I will keep this thread updated with the things she says for further advice. Being raised the way I was, I never really dated, it was always sports first. being a wrestling/football/baseball/lifting jock. I had a busy schedule, don't anymore, I dropped baseball and football.

johnsmith1
May 22nd, 2013, 03:50 PM
I hope you get the answers you're looking for. Just tell her how you feel.

xXl0sth0peXx
May 22nd, 2013, 05:19 PM
This is better fit here.

Questions for Both Boys and Girls :arrow: Relationships and Dating

rideforlife
May 22nd, 2013, 07:47 PM
Kinda sketchy she cheated on you...letting another guy feel her up is too far i think. If you don't feel like you can trust her then its probably your gut telling you somethings wrong. Don't believe what other people say though, they don't know anything. Just keep talking to her about it or see what happens if you tell her you want to wait and see if she calls your bluff.

Lofiel
May 23rd, 2013, 01:29 AM
I'm sorry... she's using you, man. Kissing a guy is one thing, but letting him feel her up? Virgin's don't do that. Seriously, trust me on that one.

You will regret it if you don't end it. It happened to me many a times, imagining a girl would change... if after you break up, she continually tries to apologize and make up for it, she may be telling the truth - but otherwise... bleh, good riddance to bad rubbish.

asm1072
May 23rd, 2013, 05:09 AM
but, there is a mistake in yourself for the disease.she is definetly lying.i think she is ignoring you.

Cece14
May 23rd, 2013, 11:49 AM
GO TO THE DOCTOR!!! Thats not so good!!!!!!!!