I feel horrible for this...

[jayyy-lmao]

So, as some of you may know, I like my friend Emily. A lot. But love is a bitch and she isn't gay/bi so I'm stuck with this. This could be a long post, so just bear with me, I need to get this out there.
I told Emily a while ago. She is fine with it, but feels guilty that she doesn't like me, because she is one of my best friends and it hurts her to see me sad. Then enter Gary. Gary is Emily's crush. Incidentally, Emily is Gary's crush. So that all happened and they told each other so Emily is "reserved" for Gary because she can't date. Now, Gary is not as nice a guy as he seems. He bullies one of our friends, Niall, and we Told her. Warned her, more like. But she just said if he did it again she'd call it off. But he's been more careful, and he hasn't done it since. It gets harder and harder to see her with Gary, happy. She knows I want her to be happy, and that I'll always be there for her. But she still feels guilty. Today really hit me. She kissed him. Proper face eating. I asked her about it and she fell into guilt again. Thing is, when I'm not around her, I get angry with her and Gary. But once I see her, I can't be angry. Like all the anger I feel towards them dissipates every time she's near. I don't know what I can do. I feel so jealous of Gary, and angry at them both, but I can't act on those feelings, I can't hold it against them. I just don't know what to do anymore.


Also, on an unrelated note, I want to go to counselling over summer. I can't handle summer by myself and I need someone, other than a friend, to talk to. But I don't know how to go about asking my parents. My mam knows I go to counselling in school, I'm not sure if she told my dad or not. But I have so much on my mind. What should I say?

[HockeyLovesMe]

well i thnk once u accept it then u can hang out with them and have funnnnnnnnn.. like serious wld u rather do that then never talk to her again.. i think you should do more stuff with both of them and then u would no that he is treater her good and stuff and would make u feel better :)

[Lofiel]

First of all, you need to stop liking your friend. I know it's not easy, but can you possibly imagine how guilty she feels? I know it's hard, but you need to get over her. You're 13, you have so much left to live for after grade 7. If you cant, you need to stop being jealous and pointing out what makes you jealous. It is very unfair to your friend, because she can't possibly help how she feels. She has every right to date this "Gary", and many people are kissing at your age.

Gary may be an asshole, but if you keep trying to convince her do you know what will happen? "You know that girl who likes you Emily, what if she's just jealous and trying to break us up?" is what will happen. You will be made the bad person, and Gary will get off freely and take your friend.

Stop giving him the advantage, your friend has to make her own mistakes and see the guy for who he really is. There is nothing you can do about it but move on with your life, and stop him from bullying your friend. Beyond that, I'm sorry but women often make stupid love choices, some of my biggest crushes ended up being completely used and abused by the "better choice than me", according to them.

Honestly, at 13 you shouldn't even be so concerned about dating.

[Croconaw]

I agree with Lofiel, sort of. I'm just going to say one thing. It is perfectly normal for Emily to feel guilty. You don't necessarily have to get over Emily. However, Emily is old enough to make her own decisions. If Emily loves Gary, then so be it. I know you like Emily, and it will be hard for you if those two start dating. Trust me here; You can not tell Emily that Gary is an asshole. Emily will think you are jealous, and that might not be the case.

[Jake Morgan]

Neurotypical people have such complected social things going on in their lives. Makes my head spin. I think it can't be addressed by me as well as it was by Lofiel... so, what he said.

[Captain Who]

First of all, you need to stop liking your friend. I know it's not easy, but can you possibly imagine how guilty she feels? I know it's hard, but you need to get over her. You're 13, you have so much left to live for after grade 7. If you cant, you need to stop being jealous and pointing out what makes you jealous. It is very unfair to your friend, because she can't possibly help how she feels. She has every right to date this "Gary", and many people are kissing at your age.

Gary may be an asshole, but if you keep trying to convince her do you know what will happen? "You know that girl who likes you Emily, what if she's just jealous and trying to break us up?" is what will happen. You will be made the bad person, and Gary will get off freely and take your friend.

Stop giving him the advantage, your friend has to make her own mistakes and see the guy for who he really is. There is nothing you can do about it but move on with your life, and stop him from bullying your friend. Beyond that, I'm sorry but women often make stupid love choices, some of my biggest crushes ended up being completely used and abused by the "better choice than me", according to them.

Honestly, at 13 you shouldn't even be so concerned about dating.

You make her seem to be the person in the wrong. You can't just tell someone to not like someone too. It's like telling someone to not eat a sandwich! They will still eat it anyway, just like she was still like Emily.

Anyway to help you out: I would just try hanging out with them two together more and maybe try looking for someone else perhaps?

[Lofiel]

You make her seem to be the person in the wrong. You can't just tell someone to not like someone too. It's like telling someone to not eat a sandwich! They will still eat it anyway, just like she was still like Emily.

Anyway to help you out: I would just try hanging out with them two together more and maybe try looking for someone else perhaps? Making your friend feel guilty by telling her about it, saying she is making you jealous - it will eventually end their friendship and I doubt that is what the OP wants at all, because of her not-so-nice boyfriend.

It's not easy, but talking about it with her... it's not going to do anyone any good. :( Keep being friends and if Gary is mean, cheer your friend up. But I know you will both be happier if you *try* looking for a new crush, it is possible... I liked a girl for four years, and I was not "christian" enough for her, even though she admitted she loved me.

Dating sucks!

[jayyy-lmao]

I think you guys are getting the wrong message. I don't say that he makes me jealous, or anything like that. I wouldn't say these things to her. That'd be wrong.