Homophobic mom?

[Kuurachan]

Me and my family have never really discussed the topic of other sexualities except straight. But today my sister( older than me by 2 years, but still has no idea what homosexual really is, ironically) asked my mom what gay means and if it means happy. My mom, being a Christian, said that it's another word for homosexual and it`s a sin that is becoming more common and accepted. I was listening from another room while drinking tea( in case you're wondering XD) but that just made me so angry. I myself am a Christian as strong in my faith as she is, but I went to the liberty of learning all about what it is and why people have different sexualities before I decided on anything when I first heard about it. It says in the bible not to judge others until you know them and to not judge a book by its cover or make stereo types for people. As a Christian I respect other people`s choice of partner as their own, but I also have a problem with keeping silent in the face of all this. I guess that the biggest trial I'll have is to not speak for the rights of gay people, since my mom hates it so much, and I was wondering of I should say something, even a hint or keep quiet.
the world is changing and whether she likes it or not, this WILL become a more known thing. I am disappointed in my mom for using the bible as a way to express her own homophobic feelings. All in all, it's only 1 person in a universe and I don`t need to worry about having to speak out, but she told my sister they are bad and since my sister believes everything mom says is true, she'll become homophobic as well and treat them with the disrespect they don't deserve. Pardon me if I seem disrespectful of my mom, it's just she is teaching my sister something only she believes and isn't true. I'm feeling genuinely angry right now.

[germangirl]

You're not disrespectful of your mom, I totally agree with you in everything you said! Judging others for their sexuality isn’t right. But you can’t convince your mother that her view of things is wrong. The only thing you could possibly do is to confront her with the fact that even the bible says you shouldn’t judge others and ask her whether that what she did a sin too. Maybe that will make her think a bit more about her opinion. But honestly, if I were you, I’d just try to be quiet and ignore it. I know it’s not easy. My uncle (we’re living together with my aunt and uncle, so we’re very close) is racist and talks a lot about people with other nationalities, and that makes me often feel very angry. A lot of my friends are from Russia and my uncle doesn’t like them just because of their origin. We argue a lot about that, because I want him to get to know people before judging them for where they come from but he is so stubborn, it makes me mad. The only thing I do is trying to convince my cousin that my uncle’s point of view is wrong. Maybe you could try the same thing with your sister..

[Horatio Nelson]

I would hope you read all of the bible, Levitucus 18:22 says "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination." So your mother is not being homophobic, but rather standing by her faith. So don't judge your mom either.

[FergusDunn]

I think this is most of the problem/issue with discrimination and stereo typing.

Kids learn it from parents - then they cannot adjust that --

I really hate it the way people preach what is right or wrong setting out thier faith or religion other anothers - good for you

[germangirl]

I would hope you read all of the bible, Levitucus 18:22 says "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination." So your mother is not being homophobic, but rather standing by her faith. So don't judge your mom either.

Okay, then it's maybe more a general question, how far you're allowed to teach your child a religious view or your own faith. And whether I - as a child - am allowed to have another perception of faith..

[HockeyLovesMe]

Okay, then it's maybe more a general question, how far you're allowed to teach your child a religious view or your own faith. And whether I - as a child - am allowed to have another perception of faith..

hey guys well im mormon and of corse we dont have guy guy or girl girl stuff going on as people think its a sin and bad buttttttttt doesnt mean it dont happen.. i have done stuff and i no some of my friends have to but ya if my parents found out i think they wld be really mad about it but like if i went to them and said hey i only like guys.. i think they wld support me for it even thogh the church wldnt.. so like i think yur mom should be more supportive of wat u want and not wat she wants

[Foamy]

Your mother is speaking from what she believes in. Not everyone believes the same way as her. Your sister will learn what is really going on if she read news about gay marriage and everything that its facing. She would realize the same thing you do: your mothers beliefs are outdated and extremely conservative. But you can't change them.

[jayyy-lmao]

I would hope you read all of the bible, Levitucus 18:22 says "You shall not lie with a male as with a woman; it is an abomination." So your mother is not being homophobic, but rather standing by her faith. So don't judge your mom either.

There's speculation, considering the biblical language, that this actually means "Don't treat a man as you would a woman," because women were lesser than men. So don't quote something that means something else.

[lowride]

Thers nothing wrong with being gay

[Horatio Nelson]

There's speculation, considering the biblical language, that this actually means "Don't treat a man as you would a woman," because women were lesser than men. So don't quote something that means something else.

You are the one twisting words. But OK.

[Lovelife090994]

First off, never call your mother homophobic, If I called my mother that she'd slap me into the floor. Your mother is a Christian as you say you are, she is standing by her faith. Do you have to follow it? No, the Bible says "let every man work out his own sole salvation," be it by your beliefs and faith not someone elses. If you disagree, do so, but even online, I'd never call my own mother something out of name.
Keep your thoughts but do not tell your mother just yet. My mother is a strict Christian as is my family and myself despite my recent and current state. Do what you see as right and do as you see ass fair, but please, be judgeless. I wish you well, I honestly do, but it seems you have gotten some excellent advice already, obviously my comment may or may not help but n'est pas important.

Be well, be blessed, and keep your faith and your views, regardless, just be careful is all I have to say.

[WickedWeekend]

There's speculation, considering the biblical language, that this actually means "Don't treat a man as you would a woman," because women were lesser than men. So don't quote something that means something else.

Actually, this is the NIV translation (or close to it.). When you lie with a person, that means you sleep with them, or have sex. You are the one twisting the words, as said before. When you lie with a person, it is not treating them a certain way. Is English your first language?

To the OP, I've been in a pretty similar situation as you before. Me being the outspoken person I am, I just walked up to my mom and flat out told her I supported the LGBT community. It was very hard for her to accept it at first, it still is, but no matter you tell your mom, her view of you will probably not change. I wouldn't worry too much. Good luck!

[Twilly F. Sniper]

You are the one twisting words. But OK.

Uhh... Not really? I never even READ the bible and I know ehat she says is in there. No twisting of words just a statement based on the quote thats on the dot correct.

[Horatio Nelson]

Uhh... Not really? I never even READ the bible and I know ehat she says is in there. No twisting of words just a statement based on the quote thats on the dot correct.

"what she says"? I'm confused. The passage I quoted had nothing to do with gender equality. Besides, the Bible never says that women are lesser.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

"what she says"? I'm confused. The passage I quoted had nothing to do with gender equality. Besides, the Bible never says that women are lesser.

Firstly, that had SOME association to homosexuality; though true, to men in particular.

This passage in particular also DOES contradict your previous statement.

[jayyy-lmao]

You are the one twisting words. But OK.

I am not twisting words. I am trying to show you another meaning to something. Words have many meanings, and so does the bible. I'm not twisting, I'm just reading it differently.