View Full Version : Need help with this girl!!!
Rareform
May 17th, 2013, 10:04 PM
So there's this girl that i have seen around school since last year. I was in 10th and she was in 9th. I had realized that she always stared at me as we passed each other in the hall way. There have been times where we have stared at each other for several seconds before we passed each other. This girl is absolutely beautiful. Now i am a junior and she is a sophomore. Since the beginning of the school year she has been going out with this guy. During that time she sort of stopped with the staring. It is now the end of the school year and i realized they broke up and i know that for a fact because the guy is in one of my classes and i heard him talking about how he broke up with her just a week or two ago. After she had been broken up with him, i realized she started staring at me again, and a lot.
I really like this girl, she is so pretty. Do you guys think all the staring means anything? I would love to be in a relationship with her and she is constantly on my mind. What should i do? How should i approach her and what should i say?
One of the problems i have been thinking about is that I have never had a girlfriend before and I am 17. It is kind of depressing for me and can get me upset sometimes. I don't have many friends, and dont have any female friends at all. I am also somewhat shy in front of people I dont really know. I have a feeling that this might affect a relationship if we ever got into one. I feel like I am somewhat of a loser compared to her. I also think that I might not be able to keep her anywhere near as happy as her last boyfriend because he was a real cool guy that has a ton of friends.
Sorry for such a long post but i need some desperate help. The school year is almost over and i want to be able to spend the summer with someone special this year. Any help i would greatly appreciate it.
HollisterGirl98
May 17th, 2013, 10:10 PM
You're not a loser! You should talk to her! It may seem hard if you're shy but if you overcome it and approach her, it may start something. Her staring at you most likely means she's attracted to you
Rareform
May 17th, 2013, 11:05 PM
What should i even say to her? If she does like me then she knows we have been staring at each other. Should i bring that up?
Synyster Shadows
May 18th, 2013, 08:19 AM
So there's this girl that i have seen around school since last year. I was in 10th and she was in 9th. I had realized that she always stared at me as we passed each other in the hall way. There have been times where we have stared at each other for several seconds before we passed each other. This girl is absolutely beautiful. Now i am a junior and she is a sophomore. Since the beginning of the school year she has been going out with this guy. During that time she sort of stopped with the staring. It is now the end of the school year and i realized they broke up and i know that for a fact because the guy is in one of my classes and i heard him talking about how he broke up with her just a week or two ago. After she had been broken up with him, i realized she started staring at me again, and a lot.
I really like this girl, she is so pretty. Do you guys think all the staring means anything? I would love to be in a relationship with her and she is constantly on my mind. What should i do? How should i approach her and what should i say?
One of the problems i have been thinking about is that I have never had a girlfriend before and I am 17. It is kind of depressing for me and can get me upset sometimes. I don't have many friends, and dont have any female friends at all. I am also somewhat shy in front of people I dont really know. I have a feeling that this might affect a relationship if we ever got into one. I feel like I am somewhat of a loser compared to her. I also think that I might not be able to keep her anywhere near as happy as her last boyfriend because he was a real cool guy that has a ton of friends.
Sorry for such a long post but i need some desperate help. The school year is almost over and i want to be able to spend the summer with someone special this year. Any help i would greatly appreciate it.
First off, dude, you are NOT a loser. Every guy is shy, at least the first time. It's totally natural. And just because you're 17 doesn't mean you'll never get a girlfriend.
Second, having tons of friends doesn't mean anything. They may not even be friends. It's better to have a few good friends that you can trust with everything than to have 100 that you can't trust. quality over quantity, man.
Finally, say, "Hi, (name). I was wondering if you wanted to hang out sometime" or some variation of it. just be cool and calm. Don't get too worked up or try to plan too much, just a little. Be casual, but don't seem sloppy.
Good luck, dude.
Rareform
May 18th, 2013, 04:57 PM
I guess im not much of a loser. I do only have a few friends but the friends i do have are good friends! If i talk to her, should i tell her about all the looking at each other?
Hank Hill
May 18th, 2013, 11:21 PM
If it were me (and because I said 'if it were me' then this may not apply to you :D ) I would try to add a little humor to the staring thing you mentioned, just because that's who I am.
I would go up to her and say some kind of self-depreciating humorous comment about how we stare at eachother, and see where it goes. That's just who I am, I find that if you add humor to a situation it almost always makes it better.
Try adding some humor! Maybe it'll work out for you!
Hope this helps!
~Tyler :D
Cece14
May 20th, 2013, 10:24 AM
Okay, coming from a girl, all we want is for a guy to talk to us..... So go talk to her!!!!!
Rareform
May 20th, 2013, 01:58 PM
I think im going to do it. It's almost the end of the school year and i would love to spend my summer with her!
Grand Admiral Thrawn
May 20th, 2013, 02:30 PM
I agree with pretty much everything the other posters said. You need to take the initiative. Almost all girls wait for the guy to approach first. I think it's a lot easier for both people that way.
But I'd advise you not to mention the staring. It might get a bit awkward and go down the hill from there.
Anyway, good luck! :)
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