Being Around Religious Families...

[PinkFloyd]

I'm going to start this thread out with a story... Before I start, I must inform you that I'm Agnostic.

Around Presidents' dy weekend where we always have monday off, my friend, Josh invited me to go on a trip up north to Duluth, MN to go skiing with his church. I have my own skis and poles and all the other gear for it, so I said sure. It was only like 80 bucks for the 3 days including lodging and food and everything.

The night before the trip, I got an email saying to bring a Bible. I asked my mom, and she got one. I was a little weirded out by that, but I accepted it because it was with his CHURCH. on the second night we were there, me and my 2 other friends were called out of our hotel room to meet with everyone else in a different room.

Here's where it got uncomfortable: They started praying. I had literally NO IDEA what to do, so I just sort of uhh stood there, I guess. I'm sure no one noticed it, but I felt so awkward. To the point that I wanted to curl up into a ball or something..

Here's the big question: Why am I so uncomfortable around religious people? I mean I wasn't raised up to worshop anyone like that. Oh, I must add that the friends that I went with now hate me because they know about me and my girlfriend. Because they're hardcore christians, they're all like "sex before marriage is awful!" The question still remains. Why am I so uncomfortable with religion? It's gotten so bad that I don't like going to Wedding ceramonies. :what:

[Elysium]

I feel the exact same way. Pretty much any mention of faith makes me uncomfortable, and I resent myself for it. I'm working on trying to get over it. Glad I'm not alone, though.

[Horatio Nelson]

I would feel uncomfortable if someone was pushing me into something weird and new too.


(P.S Those kids are just jelly that you have girlfriend and get laid. ;) lol)

[CharlieHorse]

I would feel uncomfortable if someone was pushing me into something weird and new too.


(P.S Those kids are just jelly that you have girlfriend and get laid. ;) lol)

It's also bscause it seemed like they pulled you into it maybe?

And yes to that ^^ :D
They just jelly that you got some lovin!

[Abyssal Echo]

I would feel uncomfortable if someone was pushing me into something weird and new too.


(P.S Those kids are just jelly that you have girlfriend and get laid. ;) lol)

It's also bscause it seemed like they pulled you into it maybe?

And yes to that ^^ :D
They just jelly that you got some lovin!

I agree with both Gamma Orionis and mrcharkteeth I thik they pulled you into the situation and they are a bit jelly of you having a gf and getting laid.

[Jevon]

Lol I was raised the same way...and I was at my moms girlfriends moms sisters house...and like I consider them family...and last Christmas like in 2011 and before they ate dessert they sang happy birthday and I just sat there like wtf is going on...and mind you I only know like five people out of the like 30 in the room...so I asked my grandma(my moms gfs mom) who's birthday it was and she said it was Jesus's like I was crazy for asking and when I heard that I just wanted to die laughing I was like are you serious lol it was the craziest thing ever lol?..I hope that didn't get to complicated lol

[PinkFloyd]

I agree with both Gamma Orionis and mrcharkteeth I thik they pulled you into the situation and they are a bit jelly of you having a gf and getting laid.

Yep. I bet they are! I mean I get the greatest thing ever, and they --- DON'T! :D Thanks for the help. :)

[sparkles]

From my experience, I am going to assume that they are evangelicals? I am Catholic and we do a lot of weird things but inviting people who don't want to really pray and then using the guise of a "ski trip" to try and convert them to me is utterly wrong. I am diametrically opposed to a lot of the teachings and methods the evangelical Christians use. As far as I am concerned they always try and sell a lifestyle and then show what "perks" (ski trips, camping trips, summer camp, etc) go with that "lifestyle". It is wrong. It's one thing to invite someone to visit your church when they know full well what will be happening but an entirely different thing to try and disguise it as something else and then surprise you with it. I would have stormed out of that room.

[Lofiel]

Every year I tell my baby sister that Santa is real, might as well tell some random people that God's real once in a while if it makes them happy.

Some people can't deal with a life knowing it never gets better.

[WickedWeekend]

I can tell that this is all from from agnostics' points of view, so I'm going to add in my Christian advice. First of all, most likely, they aren't jealous of you getting some with your girl. As you said in the first place, Christians don't believe in sex before marriage, so not even they would even want to get laid at this point in their lives. They genuinely don't want you having sex with this girl yet, but that's what they believe. I personally don't care what you do with your girl. It's nobody elses business. And yeah, I can see where coming from on where it was so awkward when they prayed. I think it's normal for you to feel out of place, because you aren't Christian. Just don't go to anything else that their church is having if you don't want to be converted.

Plus, they aren't necessarily evangelicals. Pretty much every Protestant church will try to convert you. The kids were just doing what their youth pastor told them, get some more people to come to church. Now, if they can't get you to come, they better stop trying. Because that would be fucking annoying. Have they kept on bugging you about it?

[Hunter_Steel]

The method they used to try and convert you to Christianity is wrong and not what a real Christian would do. When we try to convert someone, we tell them of everything about Christianity, what it stands for, what is followed and what is used as reference rather than rule, and then the decision is up to them. We don't force them and we don't try to sugar coat things in Christianity that never were sugar coated to begin with.

Meh, if they hate you for getting laid, then there's two Reasons: They're hardcore christians and probably have called a girl a satanist for trying to get laid with them, and also they're jealous. ;)

~Hunter

[HockeyLovesMe]

Yep. I bet they are! I mean I get the greatest thing ever, and they --- DON'T! :D Thanks for the help. :)

heya im mormon and we smetimes have friends that come with us on camps that arnt mormon and we do lots of church stuff like praying and thinking but we ovs dont make them pray and stuff haha its jst fun to have there company wth us and ya its just fun but it shouldnt be like so serius our leaders dont like go on and on and on about church they are just like normal guys

[johnsmith1]

It was a bit of a shame that they asked you so late on to bring a bible (NB I'm an athiest by the way). Had I been in your position, I genuinely wouldn't have had one to bring. I do respect people's beliefs. In terms of them going to prey, I would have probably gone along to watch, to understand the experience, but with the understanding that I wouldn't join in, and if they wanted me to leave at that point, I would leave them to it. In terms of the "sex before marriage", some do genueinly believe in that. I have to admit what I find most uncormfortable about, is not that people have these beliefs (as I totally respect their right to do so), is the fact I sometimes get the feeling that they think I'm totally in the wrong for not having the same beliefs. If your friends hat you because of your relationship with your girlfriend, as they are judging you to standards you don't subscribe to, and don't respect your way of life, thet are not good friends!

[sparkles]

them going to prey,

I found this unintentionally funny, haha.

[johnsmith1]

I found this unintentionally funny, haha.

Oops :-)
I do hope they were praying to god rather than preying on getting new members!

[sparkles]

Oops :-)
I do hope they were praying to god rather than preying on getting new members!

Sadly it was probably both.