My Bestie's a Chick

[Gustave_the_Croc]

It seems harmless to me that my best friend, the person I trust the most is a girl. Some people have told me it's weird or whatever. I feel that it's not. She's told me she liked me before and that she was dreaming about me, but I took it as a yeah what ever. I've known my bestie since I started shooting competitions in 2010. We met there and quickly became close friends. When we were 12 I would go over to her place and she would come over mine it was Innocent. But now we are both 15 and our parents think it's weird to have your closest friend of the opposite sex. Since then she has had 6 'boy toys' as I call them, one of them been one of my best friends from school, that was awkward.. but... nevermind haha. I know I hang out with her a lot and because we have shooting together 3 times a week, we rarely get a chance to just hang out as friends, we always have to shoot and keep it serious, so every chance we do get. we will go to either one of our houses. The only thing I'm afraid of is that she's going to get the one 'boy toy' that might get jealous if she's spending her weekends with me instead of him. I know when she was going out with my friend. He hated me, for seeing her so much when her could barely get anywhere near her for months at a time. I don't know what a guy from her school would be thinking of me.

So my question is. If your a guy, then would you be ok with your girl hanging out with another guy more than you? And if your a girl, would you hang out with a guy that's not your boyfriend more than your actual boyfriend?

[nevillee9]

My boyfriends <<boy>> friend is my best friend and I usually spend more time with him then my bf...

[Gustave_the_Croc]

My boyfriends <<boy>> friend is my best friend and I usually spend more time with him then my bf...

Does your boyfriend ever gets jealous from this?

[nevillee9]

Not really, when it's the three of us I make sure no one gets left out...

[Horatio Nelson]

I would feel hurt for sure.

[Gustave_the_Croc]

I would feel hurt for sure.

That's unsettling.

[TheWaterPrince]

I'm similar to you in that my very best friend is a girl. I've known her since I was 5 and now I'm 16 and she's 17 and we still stay at each others houses, we even sleep in the same room (one on the floor). She goes through boyfriends relatively quickly but even so in some of her longer relationships the guys never got jealous of me. Although my situation is different because I'm not her type and neither of us have ever liked the other. But in the guy's shoes I wouldn't be jealous as long as I got to see her.

[Gustave_the_Croc]

She lets me sleep in her bed, lol. It sounds weird I know. But it's just how it's always been. I'm the only guy her dad will let sleep in her room.

[TheWaterPrince]

That's how her dad is with me I'm the only guy allowed in her room with her period.

[Lofiel]

No, in any mature and responsible relationship you need to get used to spending large chunks of time with your partner alone.

How can you ever even dream about moving in with some one, when they choose on a regular basis to hang out with another man more than you?

Spending lots of time with a guy is no problem as long as I trust him, but more time than me? Why are we dating again, so you can sleep over at his house?

My boyfriends <<boy>> friend is my best friend and I usually spend more time with him then my bf...

Why do you spend more time with him alone than your boyfriend? Then again I'd also be pissed if my girlfriend was wearing shorts as short as the one in your profile picture to, in public... I guess I just don't want a random guy to see more than 70% of my woman's body as she spends more time with him than me.

[nevillee9]

No, in any mature and responsible relationship you need to get used to spending large chunks of time with your partner alone.

How can you ever even dream about moving in with some one, when they choose on a regular basis to hang out with another man more than you?

Spending lots of time with a guy is no problem as long as I trust him, but more time than me? Why are we dating again, so you can sleep over at his house?



Why do you spend more time with him alone than your boyfriend? Then again I'd also be pissed if my girlfriend was wearing shorts as short as the one in your profile picture to, in public... I guess I just don't want a random guy to see more than 70% of my woman's body as she spends more time with him than me.

Mate, quit it, okay? What on earth have I done to you. Where I live, that's the style, call the shorts whatever you want, yeah? And just so you know, that picture was taken a year ago whilest I was trying on clothes for my mums fashion show. So your opinion is indifferent to me, it just annoys me how you chose to insult me without knowing anything.
Even though it is none of your business what I do, and seeing as your insulting me it gives me less reasons to tell you, but my boyfriend choses not to come out with us 99% of the time

[Lofiel]

Mate, quit it, okay? What on earth have I done to you. Where I live, that's the style, call the shorts whatever you want, yeah? And just so you know, that picture was taken a year ago whilest I was trying on clothes for my mums fashion show. So your opinion is indifferent to me, it just annoys me how you chose to insult me without knowing anything.
Even though it is none of your business what I do, and seeing as your insulting me it gives me less reasons to tell you, but my boyfriend choses not to come out with us 99% of the time So... instead of going to see your boyfriend, you continue on the planned date with his buddy? :what: Never decide to blow off the friend to go see your boyfriend who is busy or uncomfortable with it?

Girl, I am not insulting you. I am telling you that I have gone through that, and every single of the four times the girl left me for the "buddy" after cheating on me even though she "loved me" for months to years.

Also, in your picture I see more of you than I have seen of my girlfriend for the first five months of dating, and she isn't a prude - she's been in multiple serious relationships before.

That is just my opinion, sorry if you are hurt. Those shorts are in style where I live, but you know what's better than being in style? Being comfortable with yourself.

You might have to learn the hard way but good luck! I'm not judging you, I'm just saying that your relationship does not seem to be very healthy. Although I speak from the perspective of some one interested in a life partner, not a girlfriend.

[nevillee9]

So... instead of going to see your boyfriend, you continue on the planned date with his buddy? :what: Never decide to blow off the friend to go see your boyfriend who is busy or uncomfortable with it?

Girl, I am not insulting you. I am telling you that I have gone through that, and every single of the four times the girl left me for the "buddy" after cheating on me even though she "loved me" for months to years.

Also, in your picture I see more of you than I have seen of my girlfriend for the first five months of dating, and she isn't a prude - she's been in multiple serious relationships before.

That is just my opinion, sorry if you are hurt. Those shorts are in style where I live, but you know what's better than being in style? Being comfortable with yourself.

You might have to learn the hard way but good luck! I'm not judging you, I'm just saying that your relationship does not seem to be very healthy. Although I speak from the perspective of some one interested in a life partner, not a girlfriend.


Hey, my boyfriends happiness goes way before mine. We both trust each other and wouldn't do anything. The relationship I have with his friend is like a brother to me. We only see each other on weekends and I see my boyfriend every day.
You are entitled to your opinion, but I'm telling you the facts

[Lofiel]

Hey, my boyfriends happiness goes way before mine. We both trust each other and wouldn't do anything. The relationship I have with his friend is like a brother to me. We only see each other on weekends and I see my boyfriend every day.
You are entitled to your opinion, but I'm telling you the facts I know you have no bad intentions.
Good intentions can go wrong. So many times it happened to me, she really was genuine until, _________... (Feel free to fill in the blank)

I am telling you even if that is how it is right now, your boyfriend could eventually feel very left out.

Some times you should choose hanging out with your boyfriend at home instead of going out with his friend and whoever else just because he didn't. Not every time, some times!

If you want it to last, that is. Men are insecure too!

[nevillee9]

I know you have no bad intentions.
Good intentions can go wrong. So many times it happened to me, she really was genuine until, _________... (Feel free to fill in the blank)

I am telling you even if that is how it is right now, your boyfriend could eventually feel very left out.

Some times you should choose hanging out with your boyfriend at home instead of going out with his friend and whoever else just because he didn't. Not every time, some times!

If you want it to last, that is. Men are insecure too!

I'm with my boyfriend at least 4 times a week, alone with him. 2 days a week max I meet his friend, Saturday we all go out together.
I've been with him 9 months and were still going strong

[Lofiel]

I'm with my boyfriend at least 4 times a week, alone with him. 2 days a week max I meet his friend, Saturday we all go out together.
I've been with him 9 months and were still going strong You said in the first post you spent more time alone with the friend than your boyfriend?

Sorry, but I'm not sure now. I'm confused you seem to spend more time with your bf?

[nevillee9]

You said in the first post you spent more time alone with the friend than your boyfriend?

Sorry, but I'm not sure now. I'm confused you seem to spend more time with your bf?

When my friend is in town, I usually spend probably the most the weekend with him. And some Friday evening after orchestra.

I see my boyfriend in school and see him up to four days a week (including weekend)

[Lofiel]

When my friend is in town, I usually spend probably the most the weekend with him. And some Friday evening after orchestra.

I see my boyfriend in school and see him up to four days a week (including weekend) I'm just asking: How would you feel if your boyfriend started to spend almost the entire weekend with your best friend, and instead of spending that time with you just went out alone with her?

And then he also went to see her on Friday evenings too? Never knowing what he's doing, even though he knows you didn't want to go out for whatever reason?

It sounds to me; like your boyfriend and you's relationship means nothing outside of school and that will apply to many situations.

I wish you the best but you need to reconsider priorities. I see a lot of girls in school, that means nothing. It's my girlfriend who I cuddle with, watch movies with, take to the beach, etc.... on my free days.

I am just speaking from sheer experience on the subject, first and second hand from every person I know age 16+. If he means something you will take the step to see HIM on your weekend, not HIS FRIEND!

Your relationship can't last if your boyfriend/girlfriend can't also be your best friend.

[nevillee9]

I'm just asking: How would you feel if your boyfriend started to spend almost the entire weekend with your best friend, and instead of spending that time with you just went out alone with her?

And then he also went to see her on Friday evenings too? Never knowing what he's doing, even though he knows you didn't want to go out for whatever reason?

It sounds to me; like your boyfriend and you's relationship means nothing outside of school and that will apply to many situations.

I wish you the best but you need to reconsider priorities. I see a lot of girls in school, that means nothing. It's my girlfriend who I cuddle with, watch movies with, take to the beach, etc.... on my free days.

I am just speaking from sheer experience on the subject, first and second hand from every person I know age 16+. If he means something you will take the step to see HIM on your weekend, not HIS FRIEND!

Your relationship can't last if your boyfriend/girlfriend can't also be your best friend.

Saturday evening is our night, all three of us. The guys have been friends since they have been born and my boyfriend completely trusts him. Monday and Thursday are the days I spend with my bf. The reason my boyfriend doesn't meet up is because he can't be bothered to get out of bed or because my friend is there and if he is there, then he can stay doing nothing.
My boyfriend doesn't get jealous or left out and he knows how much I love him and vice versa
We are both musicians and he is in two orchestras, one in the next town so Tuesday and Wednesday he is the next town playing with girl friends, but, like him, I have no problem with that. We are both honest about everything

[Lofiel]

Saturday evening is our night, all three of us. The guys have been friends since they have been born and my boyfriend completely trusts him. Monday and Thursday are the days I spend with my bf. The reason my boyfriend doesn't meet up is because he can't be bothered to get out of bed or because my friend is there and if he is there, then he can stay doing nothing.
My boyfriend doesn't get jealous or left out and he knows how much I love him and vice versa
We are both musicians and he is in two orchestras, one in the next town so Tuesday and Wednesday he is the next town playing with girl friends, but, like him, I have no problem with that. We are both honest about everything I wish you luck... but I know very how well that turned out for me on several occasions. You say your boyfriend doesn't come because your friend is there, and if your friend is there.... THERE'S NO REASON FOR YOUR BF TO COME?

Ever considered this bothers your boyfriend more than you considered and he avoids you two because of the fact it does bother him? He does not spend every single weekend he should be with you with another girl though... and it's not his "best girlfriend" he's with, it's just some random girls.

You're comparing apples and oranges. This clearly bothers your boyfriend to some extent or he would not be laying in bed for no reason, and you would want him to come see you and spend time with him instead of his friend. You don't even seem to care if your boyfriend comes to see you, because you're content with his buddy....

I hope for the best for you....

[PinkFloyd]

my girlfriend hangs out with one of my good guy friends quite a bit. He's gay though... I'm not scared. :P

[Lofiel]

my girlfriend hangs out with one of my good guy friends quite a bit. He's gay though... I'm not scared. :P http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-YCdcnf_P8
"Keep gay marriage illegal... and we will marry your girlfriend!"

[PinkFloyd]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-YCdcnf_P8
"Keep gay marriage illegal... and we will marry your girlfriend!"

Gay marriage just got passed here, so I'm fine! :D

[Jevon]

My best friend is a girl but she has only had one boyfriend since I have known her and when they were going out I didn't really talk to her because we had like just barley became friends then

[nevillee9]

I wish you luck... but I know very how well that turned out for me on several occasions. You say your boyfriend doesn't come because your friend is there, and if your friend is there.... THERE'S NO REASON FOR YOUR BF TO COME?

Ever considered this bothers your boyfriend more than you considered and he avoids you two because of the fact it does bother him? He does not spend every single weekend he should be with you with another girl though... and it's not his "best girlfriend" he's with, it's just some random girls.

You're comparing apples and oranges. This clearly bothers your boyfriend to some extent or he would not be laying in bed for no reason, and you would want him to come see you and spend time with him instead of his friend. You don't even seem to care if your boyfriend comes to see you, because you're content with his buddy....

I hope for the best for you....

Thanks, but I can assure your that it doesn't bother him at all