friends are self harming and I dunno what to do!

[bored4evah]

So yesterday I found out that yet anotherone of my friends are self harming (so that's about 3) and as far as I can think their not doing it for a obvious reason, although im sure there is one. Their scars are not deep so that's good but im really worried for them :/ one of my friends are doing it for no reason atall, they just wanna 'be emo' because she listens to mcr and falling in reverse -.- I listen to them to but im not trying to be a poser emo!

I wanna help but apparently once you start its difficult to stop, I think itd be easy to stop due to the pain of it but I wouldnt know seeing as I dont cut. Im only really concerned now because my best friend is doing it now! I dont want her to hurt herself, shes a good person and its just really sad. Im crying now, that's terrible .-. But yeah, is there anything atall I can do? Like anything atall, Im trying my best to support her but im not to good at that stuff.

My last thought is I kinda want to expeiriment with cutting to see why they do it, also because I feel a bit left out and wussy for not doing it. So yeah, any advice?

[bad23170]

First : I would deffinetly advise against experimenting with self harm.
Now as for your friends, there are a few ways you can try to help stop their self harm. I advise using the methode that is best adapted to your friends personnality an emotional level :
1. You can threaten to tell an authority figure (parent, teacher...) - this method is aggressive and there's a good chance you'll fall out with your friend but if an authority figure knows, then things can be handled a little smoother.
2. Tell your friends that they've put you in a difficult position - your friends may say you're over exagerating so some crying might help depending on who your friends are.
3. Just say that you don't mind if they cut themselves without hiding the sadness on your face - with this method, your friends see it bothers you that their harming themselves but you don't say anything because you don't want to ruin your friendship.

Iwould try 3 first then 2 if that doesn't work and finaly 1 in worst case scenario. Be carefull though, the fear of facing an adult about self harm can cause a person to do unpredictable things

Hope your friends get better! :)

[Lofiel]

I learned one thing about being a self harmer... not just any random person/friend could "help", only some one who meant an immense amount. If I try to talk to some one, I do hope they just... talk. That is all you can do.

Secondly, the reasons for self harming range from an insult at school to being sexually assaulted at home. You cannot ever possibly know.

[UnknownError]

Do you go to my school lol, it's like the trend here right now. Don't start it though, especially if you just want to do it because your friends do, because people won't be as willing to help you later on down the line if it becomes a serious problem for you as they'll just remember you as the person that done it to fit in.

As for your friends, unless they come to you for help, I'd leave it. Unless obviously you really feel like you need to intervene.