Father abandoned me and my family

[Liven]

I have a father that split from my mom almost 6 years ago. He has been a different person since. He has always thought I was a threat to my siblings and battled for custody of my brother and sister. I have experienced recently that I never was to expect: being abandoned. My mom is overwhelmed due to her being the only one to raise three children all alone. My dad said to my mom once that she is not part of the family anymore and left. I hate him for saying that and it really hurt. My dad is putting all the focus on my brother than me and my sister. It is unfair that he treats me with such actions when I did nothing wrong to him. I just wonder why do I deserve this? No one deserves this. But sadly I have to deal with the lies he throws at me "I was too busy that day I did not get to talk to you". That is his excuse all the time when he disappears randomly at times wondering what he is up to weather he is at a bar, or met someone off of a porn site. I never knew where he really is except for "Oh, I was busy at work". This upsets me. He ruined my life, my sisters, and soon my brother. I am mad that he left me. This makes me think that I am that bad of a person because he left me. He wants no association with me. He forgot my birthday and age. He really is forgetting about me. My mother is handling all the pressure of him putting her down.

Is anyone in this situation or similar?

[Joshua2000]

Is anyone in this situation or similar?

Its not exactly the same but my dad disappeared on me and my little brother to and doesnt want to come back I guess. My mom has custody now and she wont let him see us until he is sober and has some sobriety...well you can guess how much thats happend. I guess he would rather drink and stuff than see us and I hope hes rotting in a gutter right now honestly. I mean I dont get why drinking is more important than seeing your kids but I dont even care if I see him or not anymore. Hes only gotten sober a few SHORT times and of course it gets my little brothers hopes up that we can see dad on a regular basis but of course like a dick he not only starts drinking again but stops all contact with us unless of course he traumatizes my little brother by calling the house up drunk and fucking horny or something. Not horny for my little brother or anything but talking about women and shit ....like a 8 year old needs to hear about big tits and asses??? Im the one watching out for my little bro but then dad acts like father of the year to his buddies like hes so proud of his boys.

Anyway dont let him take up so much space in your head...hes not worth it. Dont hate yourself because your parent is messed up guy. Your not a bad person in fact your a better person than him if you can live a good life and not follow in his footsteps. Use his shittiness to make yourself better. Hes not forgetting about you hes just selfish and only thinks of himself...but your a good person and nothing he does is your job to feel bad about. Your a teen (kid) and hes the adult so HE should feel bad not you because HES supposed to be the one protecting and caring for you not the other way around.

[Croconaw]

I live with my mom and my dad is moving to a different state in a month. I'm quite happy about it, though, because he hates me.