Why are people gay and lesbian?

[jason93]

Does anyone have a theory as to why homosexuality exists?

[jason93]

Nature or nurture?

[Eric57]

Some people are born gay. It just is what it is. There really isn't a "reason" why...

[paper]

Cause they chose to be gay

[CharlieHorse]

Cause they chose to be gay

*Biggest facepalm I've ever done in my whole life*

[RadioPlayer]

I've observed that a lot of the time when teens express homosexuality, there is often a problem with the parenting. Divorce at a young age, single parent homes, ect...

Nothing scientific, just an observation that I've made.

[WickedWeekend]

I've observed that a lot of the time when teens express homosexuality, there is often a problem with the parenting. Divorce at a young age, single parent homes, ect...

Nothing scientific, just an observation that I've made.

Are you saying that it is the parent's doing that their child is a homosexual? Now, I'm going to flat out say that this just doesn't make sense. There isn't an exact "cause" for being gay, you just are. The assumption that you're making is really out of whack if you think about it. Coming from a broken home is not at all related to your sexuality. You are born with it.

Also, what you said could be taken sensitively to those who come from a broken family and are gay. I'm insulted, but I'm straight!

[Lofiel]

I believe that nature is the cause, it is simply in your DNA. Animals also enjoy gay experiences.

Nurture has an effect to an extent, I believe people who are bi-curious, bi, swingers, or just experimental usually were not born that way but they were raised in a way that they enjoyed it, and implemented it into their lives subconsciously.

[SammieRose]

Cause they chose to be gay

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You are born with your sexual orientation, it is not a choice.

[AlexBarrett]

They choose to be gay, and nobody can tell me otherwise.

[naglfari]

They choose to be gay, and nobody can tell me otherwise.

Ur dumb

It's caused by hormone exposure in the womb

[Kochanek]

I saw a docu on TV, where they said, that the amount of testosterone an embryo gets from its mother during pregnancy causes the sexual preferences:
much testosterone = attracted by girls (heterosexual boys and lesbian girls)
little testosterone = attracted by boys (heterosexual girls and gays)

So if this is true, sexuality is already determined before birth like the colour of skin or eyes.

This fits to what a good friend of mine (gay) told me: He never felt attracted by girls, but only by boys. He even finds the thought disgusting to touch a girls vagina... So the only decision he could make himself was whether to accept being gay or not to accept it. He said to me: "Forbidding me to have sex with boys would make me feel like probably you would feel, if someone forbids you to have sex with girls..."

[Kochanek]

They choose to be gay, and nobody can tell me otherwise.

Did you choose to be hetero? Or wasn't it just that you never had to think about it because you feel attracted by girls and therefore belonging to the majority?

Nobody can choose his feelings. They are simply there. It would not change anything of your feelings if you would decide: "From now on I want to be gay." You would look after the next pretty girl, just because nature programmed you like this. And I don't think a gay could change anything the other way round.

[Kochanek]

Does anyone have a theory as to why homosexuality exists?

Maybe God created homosexuality in order to see, how tolerant the heterosexuals deal with it ;-)

[Wanderer_]

Why are some people blonde or brunette?

[johnsmith1]

There's probably not an easy answer to that one. Whereas some decisions are quite logical, when it comes to feelings, I don't thing people chooses to be straight or gay. For the best will in the world, a guy could want to be straight, but show hin a picture of a naked female, there will be no sexual response (IE an erection), where as a pic of a naked male would cause a reaction. To that I think it means it's as much built in to us as to weather we are left or right handed.

[Baby-Kitten]

Like what most ppl say you choose or you don't I happen to be bi and I'm 13. How do you know you're not? Sometimes you don't relize you gay or bi until you married or something like that.

[justin 13]

Dude I knew from ages I'm gay. Always been attracted by boys. Chicks are good friends that's all.

[PinkFloyd]

Cause they chose to be gay

Not true, my friend. It's how they were born. SOME people say it has to do with genetics, but I'm not sure...

[AlexBarrett]

Ur dumb

It's caused by hormone exposure in the womb

Atleast I know how to spell.

[AlexBarrett]

Did you choose to be hetero? Or wasn't it just that you never had to think about it because you feel attracted by girls and therefore belonging to the majority?

Nobody can choose his feelings. They are simply there. It would not change anything of your feelings if you would decide: "From now on I want to be gay." You would look after the next pretty girl, just because nature programmed you like this. And I don't think a gay could change anything the other way round.

As a matter of fact, I learned I like vaginas better than penises.

[paper]

Lol wanted to be the first to say cause they chose to be gay. There is no point to this conversation because it is a "Resolved" one . ....... Those who don't know what resolved is please go ask your debate teacher. Now then back to what I was saying its basically a controversial topic there are two ideas just like there's are 2 parties. Both believe differently. So my answer is you will never find your answer. Peace :D

[DVNO]

As a matter of fact, I learned I like vaginas better than penises.

Learned. You didn't choose to be straight, just like how no one chooses to be gay, bi, etc.

[teen.jpg]

It is SO not a choice. All you LGBTQ people know exactly how long it took you to accept your sexuality. It isn't easy to do, might I add.

Which proves it isn't a choice. I WANTED to be straight, but I'm not.

[Troy35216]

As a matter of fact, I learned I like vaginas better than penises.

Duh you just proved the opposite of what you're saying. You didn't choose vagina over penis you learned that you LIKED vagina over penis.

[naglfari]

So do I?

[Elysium]

I think both nature and nurture contribute. I'd say nature has more of an impact, though. I think nurture would only be influential in some extreme cases. Sexual preference is not a choice, but acting upon it is, just like any action is a choice, but I've learned that acting on sexual preference is sexual behavior; it may or may not have anything to do with one's sexual preference.

[paper]

I think both nature and nurture contribute. I'd say nature has more of an impact, though. I think nurture would only be influential in some extreme cases. Sexual preference is not a choice, but acting upon it is, just like any action is a choice, but I've learned that acting on sexual preference is sexual behavior; it may or may not have anything to do with one's sexual preference.

See now this kid is making sense so all y'all drop it and stop argueing no one will win. And no one will win because peeps won't give up their pride and they won't open their minds to understand.
You can be born with more estrogen ""or""more feminist qualities. Contributing to what this topic is about.

Pissing me off to see a fight that neither side can win because both wont open their own dang eyes to see the others ideals... In time you'll learn what I mean... And if you do know what I mean, please agree and end this endless feud. Peace ✌ :D

-Z

[Kochanek]

As a matter of fact, I learned I like vaginas better than penises.

So you never decided to like vaginas, you just found out it is like this.
A friend of mine is gay. He never decided to like penises, he just found out it is like this. His only choice was, whether to accept it.

[Caldwell]

Atleast I know how to spell.

Buddy, at least is two words, not one.

Kind of hilarious how you enter a debate, say you refuse to change your mind, criticize the spelling errors of others, (meanwhile making one yourself,) then deliver another homophobic remark with no basis in fact or current scientific evidence.

Learn to debate. :yeah:

[AlexBarrett]

Buddy, at least is two words, not one.

Kind of hilarious how you enter a debate, say you refuse to change your mind, criticize the spelling errors of others, (meanwhile making one yourself,) then deliver another homophobic remark with no basis in fact or current scientific evidence.

Learn to debate. :yeah:

You know, If I cared about your opinion, that would've actually hurt my feels.

[naglfari]

But for real how can you be so stupid and ignorant in this day and age?

By definition gay and straight aren't a choice.if you're choosing then you're bi

[Caldwell]

You know, If I cared about your opinion, that would've actually hurt my feels.

...Okay... So basically, to summarize your own confessed feelings in this thread, "I have bigoted opinions on people different than me, refuse to think about it or have an open mind, and I don't care what anybody says anyway."

You're really not the type to get involved in reasonable debates, it seems. At least not those that actually can be solved with simple reasoning and a good scientific backing.

[jak926]

Look some people have differently wired brains, there may be a possibility for outside stimuli, but that would just be pure speculation. It is like saying why do people have Autism? We do not fully know, plus the major difference is homosexuality is not a disease so does it matter? It is not in need of being treated.

[GigglyAbby]

The only choice in sexuality is to act on it or maybe fantasize about your gender or both. If you don't act on it or fantasize you could deem yourself as straight. Could it be genetics? Could it be hereditary? Can it be based on how you were raised and how stable or unstable your life was growing up? We may never know the true reasons.

[Pontiac67]

It is a very fine line between the homosexuality & heterosexuality just take a look on here at some of the answers from str8's. I think if we could live in a world with no sexual hangups there would be more blending of the two sexuality's.. You don't chose to be gay or str8.. Something for all the str8's to think about did you one day state you are going to be str8, nope that's the way you where born.. This from a Str8 but curious guy

[BrandonA]

i think its a choice. you cant be born loving boys or loving girls already

[Stephan]

Both nature and nurture, and possibly the environment they are immersed in.

[HuntedDom]

Because it is natural to them.
You cannot convince me that someone would possibly choose the abuse and stigma that goes with being gay in today's society. It would be like volunteering to paticipate in a firing squad , and not on the rifle holding end.

[lyriclover]

I am gay because I know I'm more comfortable being in a relationship with a girl. It just feels "right" ya know? If I could change it so I felt that way about guys I would. I would never choose the torment and bullying that goes along with being different. The only thing we have a choice on is whether we will embrse our gayness and be ourselces, or if we will spend out entire lives living a lie.

[Faolan]

I personally think that it's nature and nurture theory, that makes sense, because straight parents can have gay kids and vice versa. Plus, sexuality's a spectrum. It's not just in humans, though. Tons of other species have homosexuality, too.