I'm very self centred

[jayyy-lmao]

I've been very self centred recently. I've only been thinking about me and my problems, which I have in an abundance. And I know what you guys are thinking, that I need help and they should be there for me, but they always are and I was pushing them out. Now I feel like I can't talk to them. I don't really know what to do.
What should I do to be more considerate?
Should I still tell them about these things, or should I tell someone else?
God I'm so confused.

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

Actually it's normal at this age for adolescents to be focused on themselves. I remember we talked about this in one of my classes a few months ago, and we talked about how people under go this change once they're around 16 or so where they start to focus on others and things like that...I'm sorry I'm really bad at explaining this, basically the point in that was that you're not self centered and that it's just par of the growing up process.

And I think you should talk to someone who you feel the closest to and tell them exactly how you feel. As for the being more considerate thing, you could always ask people how their day was or just ask them questions about things going on in their life. That's what I started doing this year, and it's actually not too bad...in fact, I feel a little
closer to some of my friends because of it.

[jayyy-lmao]

But, see, my closest friends are all angry with me for being so selfish. :(

[germangirl]

That remembers me of one of my closest friends; I guess she did feel the same way as you're feeling right now. I didn't know whether she was selfish or overwhelmed with problems, but she was talking about herself all the time, which was kind of annoying at some point and I think she noticed that. So she decided to talk with us about what was going on and we realized that our friend had a lot of trouble in her life and just needed someone who listened and cared - she was kind of desperate because she thought we were angry with her but we weren’t. Actually it was very good to talk about this because I think you can accept ones behavior easier if you understand why they are the way they are! I know, it doesn’t sound easy, but your friends will understand and you’ll feel better!
Also it’s a very good advice whatw has been mentioned before: if you ask more about them, they don’t care if you talk about yourself too.

[Rayquaza]

Fuck them. No seriously.

If you have problems that are giving you grief, you should look after yourself. Your well being is more important than the attention you give to them. A good idea might be to open up a bit to your close friends so they can be aware of what you're going through as they might be too close-minded to see the bigger picture. Honestly, you shouldn't think you're self centered unless you're outright blatantly caring ONLY for yourself. Which I KNOW you aren't. I've seen you on these forums plenty of times, giving good advice. You're not self centered at all, don't think like that. If you were self centered, you would either not be on these forums where we care for each other, or you would ask questions about your own sexuality, your own issues, and disregard everyone's opinion that you disagree with. You're a good person. Just remember that.

[jayyy-lmao]

Fuck them. No seriously.

If you have problems that are giving you grief, you should look after yourself. Your well being is more important than the attention you give to them. A good idea might be to open up a bit to your close friends so they can be aware of what you're going through as they might be too close-minded to see the bigger picture. Honestly, you shouldn't think you're self centered unless you're outright blatantly caring ONLY for yourself. Which I KNOW you aren't. I've seen you on these forums plenty of times, giving good advice. You're not self centered at all, don't think like that. If you were self centered, you would either not be on these forums where we care for each other, or you would ask questions about your own sexuality, your own issues, and disregard everyone's opinion that you disagree with. You're a good person. Just remember that.

They know what I'm going through, but they're all like "Get the fuck over it. We have problems too," but then when I ask they all say they're grand except Emma, who I knew wasn't ok anyway. I just feel like shouting at them "If you have problems then FUCKING TELL ME. I'm here to listen and help but you guys never say anything about any problems," but I know they'd get pissed with me if I did that.

[Croconaw]

They shouldn't be doing that. If they have a problem they should say something instead of being mean about it.