Hunter_Steel
May 13th, 2013, 03:24 PM
Okay, since my breakup, I've been spending loads of time with my best friend. She's been helping me alot with dealing with it, and I am starting to realize that feelings I had for her deep down nearly 2 years ago when she friendzoned me are starting to resurface.
She did show a little discomfort and disappointment when I started dating. But overtime she eventually learned to live with it. So I was wondering, because when she friendzoned me, she said this when I asked her out:
"I am not ready for a relationship just yet and I have never met you in real life. Maybe if we meet up we can see where things go from there."
So clearly she didn't flat out reject me, atleast I didn't hope so at that point. I continued after then to keep chasing her. But eventually I must've subconciously buried my feelings for her and started to begin getting close to my now ex girlfriend.
When I started dating again, in the 1st week we had a massive argument about it, but I told her that I have moved on. Thats what I thought. But we never really spoke much for the next few weeks about it. Now that me and my girlfriend broke up, my feelings have started to resurface. I know its a bit quick, but I guess I never really buried them properly. Since I still haven't met her, the chances of going out with her are potentially 0. And she falls inlove with every guy that has a perfect beach body (which I wish I had, I used to have one, used to be a guy that everyone loved and girls would just sit around me or close to me) and I was a real party man.
Since 2008, I lost that part of my life and I want to regain it. But doing so might end up tearing me away from my friend, and I don't want that to happen. So now the issue is, should I hold onto her, or should I let her go?
I don't know how to explain it anyother way than this, and I have never been in a situation like this or seen one similar to this for that matter.
~Hunter
She did show a little discomfort and disappointment when I started dating. But overtime she eventually learned to live with it. So I was wondering, because when she friendzoned me, she said this when I asked her out:
"I am not ready for a relationship just yet and I have never met you in real life. Maybe if we meet up we can see where things go from there."
So clearly she didn't flat out reject me, atleast I didn't hope so at that point. I continued after then to keep chasing her. But eventually I must've subconciously buried my feelings for her and started to begin getting close to my now ex girlfriend.
When I started dating again, in the 1st week we had a massive argument about it, but I told her that I have moved on. Thats what I thought. But we never really spoke much for the next few weeks about it. Now that me and my girlfriend broke up, my feelings have started to resurface. I know its a bit quick, but I guess I never really buried them properly. Since I still haven't met her, the chances of going out with her are potentially 0. And she falls inlove with every guy that has a perfect beach body (which I wish I had, I used to have one, used to be a guy that everyone loved and girls would just sit around me or close to me) and I was a real party man.
Since 2008, I lost that part of my life and I want to regain it. But doing so might end up tearing me away from my friend, and I don't want that to happen. So now the issue is, should I hold onto her, or should I let her go?
I don't know how to explain it anyother way than this, and I have never been in a situation like this or seen one similar to this for that matter.
~Hunter