Showing scars

[unsaidwords]

I tend to always hide my scars. Bracelets, make up ... you know what i mean. But it's almost summer time here and I would like to wear shorts. For that, I would have to show my scars in my left thigh. Skirts barely cover it. My dad saw me today with a pair of shorts, and I was confident about going to school like that (everyone gossips, you know how it is) but my dad said "no, put on some pants. that ain't pretty".
Days ago he told me "show them, it's no problem. You don't need to hide" and now he complains...
I don't know... maybe i'm overreacting.

[Rayquaza]

To be honest, my arms are full of them, and there's come a point where if I'm going out with friends that I'm close with that don't know I cut, I just show them and expect they don't ask anything of it. Of course, I have done this once and it was only the intelligent ones that picked up. I'm not going to bother having to hide something which I choose to do. If someone asks, I tell them it's not their business because it's not. I'm beyond caring.

[Fiction]

Parents have a lot of mixed feelings about self-harm. They might think that if people see your scars they'll assume that he's a bad parent or something like that but at the end of the day it's your choice. If you're ready to go out with your scars on show then you're ready. I see it as a positive step in getting over self-harm. I found that once I was comfortable to show my scars it was easier not to cover those scars with fresh cuts for the sake of having freedom in what I wear again.

[germangirl]

I think you can show your scars and wear shorts or shirts when you (!) feel comfortable about it. At that point you shouldn't have to care about what other people say or what your family thinks, it's up to you. As Rayquaza already said, it's not their business! I hope that I'll be able to think that way and start wearing short sleeves this year..

[Desuetude]

I still cover mine after a year and a half. I'm definitely not at the point where I'm comfortable and I definitely admire people that have that confidence. Personally all of my bad scars are on the top of my thighs and no one at all has seen them, I'm hoping to keep it that way. Like Kathy said it's a positive step forward feeling so comfortable with yourself that you'll share your scars as well. I say don't listen to your dad, he doesn't know what you're going through and this should be considered a positive thing. Fuck what everyone else thinks. If you're having second thoughts then how about wearing some thin skin coloured tights under your skirts/shorts, I know it's starting to get a bit hotter but it will cover them a little and allow you to feel less anxious when going out, especially for the first couple of times.