When would it be appropriate to text him?

[Cicero]

It's not what you think. So this guy my friend is friends with said "We should all do this again" (hangout and go to the beach) So then later that day I asked him for his number, he gave it to me. And I said thanks. What I'm wondering, is when would it be appropriate to text him asking if we're going to the lake again? He said he's going out of town in the 19th of June. So we'd have to go within the next month. When should I ask him, and what should I say? How should I put it?


So I just text him saying "Hey it's ________. Just texting so you know my number." How did that sound? Did that sound like I was a homosexual teenager interested in him or anything? (I'm saying it like that cause people get offended if I ask "did that sound gay")

When he text back, he said "Awesome bro. thanks."

[PinkFloyd]

Be casual about it. Just be like, so are we goin to the beach again, man?

PS: I joined this site last year on June 19th! :D

[Cicero]

Be casual about it. Just be like, so are we goin to the beach again, man?

PS: I joined this site last year on June 19th! :D

If he didnt want me to have his number, do you kno what he could've done to avoid it? I'm just wondering. If it were you, what would you do to avoid giving someone their number? I just wanna make sure he wanted to instead of being forced to.

That's the day hell starts for me! Lol that's the day summer school starts:(

[PinkFloyd]

If he didnt want me to have his number, do you kno what he could've done to avoid it? I'm just wondering. If it were you, what would you do to avoid giving someone their number? I just wanna make sure he wanted to instead of being forced to.

That's the day hell starts for me! Lol that's the day summer school starts:(

i would make sure he knows that it's his choice by saying it's no big deal.

[Cicero]

i would make sure he knows that it's his choice by saying it's no big deal.

To late lol

So I just text him saying "Hey it's ________. Just texting so you know my number." How did that sound? Did that sound like I was a homosexual teenager interested in him or anything? (I'm saying it like that cause people get offended if I ask "did that sound gay")

When I did, he said "Awesime bro. Thanks."

[xXl0sth0peXx]

To late lol

So I just text him saying "Hey it's ________. Just texting so you know my number." How did that sound? Did that sound like I was a homosexual teenager interested in him or anything? (I'm saying it like that cause people get offended if I ask "did that sound gay")

I think that's fine. It's casual yet it gets your point across that you are still interested in possibly hanging out with him/persuing a friendship. I mean it's kinda awkward at first when you have their number and they don't have yours or whatnot. So yeah, I think that was fine. :)

[Cicero]

I think that's fine. It's casual yet it gets your point across that you are still interested in possibly hanging out with him/persuing a friendship. I mean it's kinda awkward at first when you have their number and they don't have yours or whatnot. So yeah, I think that was fine. :)

He just text and said "Awesime bro. Thanks."

[SamanthaMaciel]

just be like "hey dude ists _____. " then he might go who is this and u just say " its ____ , u gavrd.me ur numer so we can hangout again " or whatever :)

[PinkFloyd]

To late lol

So I just text him saying "Hey it's ________. Just texting so you know my number." How did that sound? Did that sound like I was a homosexual teenager interested in him or anything? (I'm saying it like that cause people get offended if I ask "did that sound gay")

When I did, he said "Awesime bro. Thanks."

Nah, dude. You did what anyone else would have done. Oh and that's a dope picture by the way. ;)

[Cicero]

Nah, dude. You did what anyone else would have done. Oh and that's a dope picture by the way. ;)

Ok. I just don't want to creep him out or anything.

And thanks;)

[paulw]

Theres some old saying about if it aint in the calendar it aint happening, i.e. "some time" or "soon" or "next week maybe" never happen because theyre not actual times and dates. If ur interested in going again, i would leave it a week or so and then use the old "something else got cancelled" technique, its a way to proppose a specific time and date without being pushy, like,

heyyy hows it going. i dont suppose ur around next saturday? i was supposed to be [blah blah blah, i dunno, meeting an old friend, whatever] but they just cancelled on me so i got nothing going on. i wondered if ur free to hang out? let me know. ____"

And then put like a thousand kisses and love hearts after it .... hahaha nah i'm just kidding, you probly shouldn't worry TOO much about sounding g. a. y., ur probably a bit paranoid, every day millions of people ask millions of people to hang out without wanting to play with their naughty parts, and the receivers rarely assume its about that unless they already got that on their minds. Just be laid back like it's no big deal, and it probly won't be a big deal :)


Oh and PS: if he hadn't wanted to swap numbers the first three tricks i can think of right away are,
1. 'accidentally' give u the wrong one
2. give u it but with a warning like 'ok but i'm gonna be really busy now cos i have only a few weeks left so i might not be free'
3. give u it, but when u texted, take aaaaaages to reply and/or reply like 'Ok' all unenthusiastic, and drop the hint that way.
His reply seems fine tho, doesn't seem like hes pushing u away, so i wouldnt worry about that at all. In the unlikely event he isnt interested in being friends, thats up to him to show u, u don't need to sabbotage it for him just in case ;)

[nice]

You could have just texted him hey he would have said who is this an you could have just said it's ____ and had a convo that would have been simpler at least I think.

[Cicero]

Theres some old saying about if it aint in the calendar it aint happening, i.e. "some time" or "soon" or "next week maybe" never happen because theyre not actual times and dates. If ur interested in going again, i would leave it a week or so and then use the old "something else got cancelled" technique, its a way to proppose a specific time and date without being pushy, like,

heyyy hows it going. i dont suppose ur around next saturday? i was supposed to be [blah blah blah, i dunno, meeting an old friend, whatever] but they just cancelled on me so i got nothing going on. i wondered if ur free to hang out? let me know. ____"

And then put like a thousand kisses and love hearts after it .... hahaha nah i'm just kidding, you probly shouldn't worry TOO much about sounding g. a. y., ur probably a bit paranoid, every day millions of people ask millions of people to hang out without wanting to play with their naughty parts, and the receivers rarely assume its about that unless they already got that on their minds. Just be laid back like it's no big deal, and it probly won't be a big deal :)


Oh and PS: if he hadn't wanted to swap numbers the first three tricks i can think of right away are,
1. 'accidentally' give u the wrong one
2. give u it but with a warning like 'ok but i'm gonna be really busy now cos i have only a few weeks left so i might not be free'
3. give u it, but when u texted, take aaaaaages to reply and/or reply like 'Ok' all unenthusiastic, and drop the hint that way.
His reply seems fine tho, doesn't seem like hes pushing u away, so i wouldnt worry about that at all. In the unlikely event he isnt interested in being friends, thats up to him to show u, u don't need to sabbotage it for him just in case ;)

I love your advice. I should just ask you questions instead of getting 3+ useless answers lol :)

[paulw]

I love your advice. I should just ask you questions instead of getting 3+ useless answers lol :)

Hahahah well hey thanks man, what can I say, I do try my best to understand where people are coming from, it works from time to time. :)

Don't dis-count the value of other people's contributions though .... the reason this place works so well is that so many people are free with their advice and thoughts. Way better than a deserted forum any day! I guess the trick is just to read the diversity of people's comments, and then take what works best for you as a person. Whatever is left over never cost anything anyway!

Although, if i realised people were actually going to READ my answers I would probably check them for spelling and grammar a bit better first .... LOL :)