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kitkatdd
May 10th, 2013, 10:37 PM
Ok, so I'm 15, a guy, and I want to be straight. However, I like watching gay porn better than straight porn. I don't like it when people have anal or do anything with their butts - that's just gross. Lol. I also sometimes act less masculine than I'd like to. Obviously I say lol out loud, and I say Jk too. I've never really been turned on by a girl, but I have been by a guy. I don't know why, but seeing a guy around my age not wear socks, boat shoes or flip flops with socks, can turn me on. I used to get a boner, but now it's rare. Most of my friends are girls. I just find it easier to talk to them. I'm also really emotional, especially during movies and books (usually for school because I don't really like to read lol). I talk about trying to get a girlfriend. I try to get one. I talk straight. As in, how I'm a guy (I get really offended when I'm called girl) and I know I'm not that masculine so I joke about it too with friends. I can say I'm a little curious, but I want to be straight. For me, I feel like being straight is the right way, and I have to be straight to end up being a dad (must be biological). I have had a few sex dreams with girls, and want to have sex with a girl. So I'm really confused. I also can't be bi because I heard it's really hard to have a family when you're bi because you never really feel complete. Ok thanks for reading, and please help! By the way, I really don't like answers saying how you're programmed the way you are and stuff like that. Thanks! :D

babylamb
May 11th, 2013, 03:20 AM
I am a queer woman with a strong preference to other women, but I also date men. There is nothing I can ever do about my sexuality. I do not feel incomplete because I am dating a man right now.
You have no choice but to keep developing and to grow older and wait and see what happens. I am certain your sexuality will develop as you grow older. You're young and can be confused, for now. Don't worry.

darkdude41
May 11th, 2013, 05:10 AM
Ok, so I'm 15, a guy, and I want to be straight. However, I like watching gay porn better than straight porn. I don't like it when people have anal or do anything with their butts - that's just gross. Lol. I also sometimes act less masculine than I'd like to. Obviously I say lol out loud, and I say Jk too. I've never really been turned on by a girl, but I have been by a guy. I don't know why, but seeing a guy around my age not wear socks, boat shoes or flip flops with socks, can turn me on. I used to get a boner, but now it's rare. Most of my friends are girls. I just find it easier to talk to them. I'm also really emotional, especially during movies and books (usually for school because I don't really like to read lol). I talk about trying to get a girlfriend. I try to get one. I talk straight. As in, how I'm a guy (I get really offended when I'm called girl) and I know I'm not that masculine so I joke about it too with friends. I can say I'm a little curious, but I want to be straight. For me, I feel like being straight is the right way, and I have to be straight to end up being a dad (must be biological). I have had a few sex dreams with girls, and want to have sex with a girl. So I'm really confused. I also can't be bi because I heard it's really hard to have a family when you're bi because you never really feel complete. Ok thanks for reading, and please help! By the way, I really don't like answers saying how you're programmed the way you are and stuff like that. Thanks! :D

you do know you can still have a biological son right, even if you're gay? You just have a woman be the carrier of the baby and doctors artificially inseminate her with your semen, so you would very much be the dad of that baby. the only problem is if you decided to be okay with being attracted to guys and start dating them, you and he would have to decide who gets to donate the sperm, and that's a really hard thing to decide

TheCakeTin
May 13th, 2013, 11:03 AM
In my opinion you are bisexual :)

Pierce
May 13th, 2013, 03:28 PM
Just because your an emotional guy who has feminine tendencies, doesn't mean your gay. A lot of the information you gave doesn't really help in figuring out your sexual orientation. Again, you can be a straight guy and have mostly female friends. However, I do feel like you might be gay, or bisexual at least. You say that you are not really attracted to females, but you are to males; that's what it really comes down to at the end. Best of Luck! If you need more help with this "dilemma", feel free to PM me.

acan1997
May 13th, 2013, 06:53 PM
Ok, so I'm 15, a guy, and I want to be straight. However, I like watching gay porn better than straight porn. I don't like it when people have anal or do anything with their butts - that's just gross. Lol. I also sometimes act less masculine than I'd like to. Obviously I say lol out loud, and I say Jk too. I've never really been turned on by a girl, but I have been by a guy. I don't know why, but seeing a guy around my age not wear socks, boat shoes or flip flops with socks, can turn me on. I used to get a boner, but now it's rare. Most of my friends are girls. I just find it easier to talk to them. I'm also really emotional, especially during movies and books (usually for school because I don't really like to read lol). I talk about trying to get a girlfriend. I try to get one. I talk straight. As in, how I'm a guy (I get really offended when I'm called girl) and I know I'm not that masculine so I joke about it too with friends. I can say I'm a little curious, but I want to be straight. For me, I feel like being straight is the right way, and I have to be straight to end up being a dad (must be biological). I have had a few sex dreams with girls, and want to have sex with a girl. So I'm really confused. I also can't be bi because I heard it's really hard to have a family when you're bi because you never really feel complete. Ok thanks for reading, and please help! By the way, I really don't like answers saying how you're programmed the way you are and stuff like that. Thanks! :D

Just keep telling urself tht u r gay strait. u can decide.

Convoluted one
May 16th, 2013, 06:14 AM
i dont think "wanting to be straight " works. I feltbad when i first started being attracted to other boys ( like at about 10) manly cus i come from a very christian famly. but i know now i cant change who i am attracted to no matter how much i want to. i just dont want to go through like trying to be something i am not

Dunce
May 16th, 2013, 10:38 AM
The more you want to be straight the less likely it is to be who you really are. I find that sexuality often works like reverse psychology, if you don't want to be gay then you'll be even more turned on by the same sex. That said, I'm not telling you that you can change your sexuality because you can't. Wanting to be straight will bring you nothing but misery. Try and accept yourself and take this in your stride and you will be much happier. Also, having more girl friends and being feminine doesn't mean you're gay, it's about who you like.

I know accepting yourself can be more difficult for some people than others. It was really difficult for me and still is. I haven't figured it out yet and I find it really hard not to think about it and over analyse what I'm feeling, and accepting feelings (or lack of feelings) is way easier than fighting them, even though it doesn't feel like it right now.