My lil bro.

[justin 13]

Hey guys! I live with my dad, my lil bro Ethan and me. Mom left us ages ago. So I am the big bro. I have to take care of him, but also do some shores at home, laundry, dishes and so on. Ethan is playing on Xbox all the times after school, doing nothing, I don't get any help from him, he left all his clothes on the floor, or whatever he likes and I have to feed him, he doesn't want to know how to make a single snack. He brings over his friends left the house in such a mess, and I have to go after him and his friends to keep some order at home. When he is alone and bored he wants to fight because he is on the wrestling team, but to him is boxing with me. I don't like fight AT ALL and I cant stay alone a single moment even if I go to pee he comes with me, chasing me everywhere. For those who have siblings does it happen the same to you? How I can teach him to help me at home? BTW he is 11 y.o.

[Wanderer_]

If he is 11 he can be doing half if what you do - he's more than old enough

[Foamy]

You could start by chatting with your dad to have him sit down wih your brother and tell him that he's getting to be old enough to do certain things on his own, like prepare himself snacks/food, help with the laundry, or setting the table and doing the dishes every night. If your brother doesn't listen to you, he would have to listen to your dad. Or you yourself can set the bar straight with him and say that if he doesn't want to do his own fair share of the work then it just won't get done. He will have to help with his laundry. He will have to make himself a snack. He will have to occupy himself and figure out ways to relieve his boredom. But I would start with your dad first, it seems easier.

[theatreguy]

I've been doing my own laundry since I was 9. And I make my own breakfast and lunch, and sometimes even dinner for me and my mom. He sounds lazy. Yeah, start with your dad and see what happens.

[Wanderer_]

Take the controllers away until he helps

[Ghareth]

You should have a chores board saying who does what so your dad can see who did and didn't do what. You shouldn't have to watch his friends if they make messes.

[Synyster Shadows]

Just stop doing stuff *for him*; only do stuff for yourself and your dad. That way he has no choice but to pull his weight. If he starts whining, ignore it. He'll learn. I know I did.

[HockeyLovesMe]

take the controllers away is a good 1 my brother is 11 and hes not like that at all but my other brother is 6 and hes like that alot haha but ya talk to yur dad for sure and come up with some good rules.. we have good rules here if we like dont clean our room or watever but ya also he has to have fun sometime and so do u so try not to be working all the time and mabey put some time aside for him and you to do things other than fighting

[FergusDunn]

think you need ground rules - or stuff - but start easy and get your Dad involved its kinda not fair you have ended up doing this and all the chores.

[schrojo]

You need to provide some structure (your dad will need to help) and have some set punishment for him but also he needs a reward/goal so he will feel like he has accomplished something

[Jevon]

Well can't really help because that's how I was to my big sister but I wasn't nearly as bad...just turn off the Xbox and tell him to help