Dating someone less experienced

[habitualrelapser]

Hi, I started dating someone, nothing serious yet just a couple dates, and I don't think he's had sex before or has been in a relationship. I, however, have had many partners. This isn't necessarily a problem for me but I'm worried it will be for him. I think he will look down on me for it. How do I make myself feel good enough for him and to not be ashamed of my past relationships?

[HunterBlue]

Don't say anything. Don't tell him. He doesn't want to know. And it's none of his business either, so he shouldn't be asking. And it shouldn't matter. That was the past and this is now.

It hurts guys to find stuff like that out. But that's life tho right? He's gonna have to learn to deal with it.

[habitualrelapser]

what if the conversation comes up? obviously it would be wrong to lie and say i'm a virgin

[Synyster Shadows]

Tell him the truth. To hell with what he says. Like Karson said, he will need to learn to deal with it.

[habitualrelapser]

thanks, both comments really help

[Abyssal Echo]

if the subject comes up be honest with him.

[Foamy]

I would wait until he feels comfortable being intimate with you before mentioning anything. Unless he wants to bring it up. Then tell him the truth nothing wrong with that.

[habitualrelapser]

I definetly wasn't planning on mentioning it till we got serious, if that even happens, it just worries me going into it but thank you.

[liptonlee]

what's past is past. he's dating the current you but not the 'you' for your exs. if things get more intimate like Almeria said, i think it's ok to mention

[ChrisA1998]

Hi, I started dating someone, nothing serious yet just a couple dates, and I don't think he's had sex before or has been in a relationship. I, however, have had many partners. This isn't necessarily a problem for me but I'm worried it will be for him. I think he will look down on me for it. How do I make myself feel good enough for him and to not be ashamed of my past relationships?

you have nothing to be ashamed of ;-)
its perfectly normal for a teen to have had several boyfriends before.
just take advantage of your experience to guide him ;-)

then you might want to tell him you've had several boyfriends, but dont enter the details of what you did with them ;-)

[ImCoolBeans]

Don't say anything. Don't tell him. He doesn't want to know. And it's none of his business either, so he shouldn't be asking. And it shouldn't matter. That was the past and this is now.

It hurts guys to find stuff like that out. But that's life tho right? He's gonna have to learn to deal with it.

I strongly disagree with this. Dishonesty is a terrible thing to bring into any relationship -- whether it be serious or not.

I would wait until he feels comfortable being intimate with you before mentioning anything. Unless he wants to bring it up. Then tell him the truth nothing wrong with that.

And I strongly agree with this. Wait until you're a little more comfortable with each other and are able to talk about those types of things. Then you'll be able to comfortably tell him and you won't be keeping things from him in the relationship.

[BebeFleur.]

Honesty is important in a relationship. You need to tell him the truth. And if you have had sex before, have you been tested for STDs/STIs? You need to be careful.

[HunterBlue]

I strongly disagree with this. Dishonesty is a terrible thing to bring into any relationship -- whether it be serious or not.



And I strongly agree with this. Wait until you're a little more comfortable with each other and are able to talk about those types of things. Then you'll be able to comfortably tell him and you won't be keeping things from him in the relationship.

No. Dishonesty is when you tell a lie. You have the right to privacy. Remember that whatever privet stuff you tell him he may end up blabbing it all to his friends. You have no way of knowing. Look at all the posts at this site. Who would want their friends or bf or gf to know all this.


I think its very inportant you understan that you have the right to privacy. My advice is all your personal stuff is on a need to know basses. And I wouldn't start telling him or anyone personal until you feel they have earned your trust.

[habitualrelapser]

Thank you all for your advice, it really helps. I think i'll keep my privacy and if it comes up it comes up. I won't be dishonest but I won't be too open. And yes I have been tested, I did catch something(which was taken care of btw) so trust me I am extremely careful now.