Simple question.

[andyconor]

Is it better to get good friends with someone and then go out with them or to get to know them a bit but not much and then ask them?


If you do the first one will they 'friend zone' you?

Thanks

[ToxicAce371]

I found with my relationships that it is better to get to know the person first, then ask them out. This way, you have a headstart at the relationship. :3

Friend zone? Eh..I can't answer that question, sorry.

[SammieRose]

It is a tricky subject, It does help a lot to know someone before dating them, but also makes it harder to take the first step into a romantic relationship when you already have another relationship going, the friendship.

It is more common for people to start dating when they know little about each other and then develop a friendship inside the romance, than it is to go from friend to lover.

You most likely be friend-zoned as soon as she does not see you as more than friend, and from there it will be really hard to get out of, not impossible, but hard. So, get to know her a bit, then ask her out. If she got interested in you, she will probably say yes.

[PinkFloyd]

Well my full on relationship has been going for over 2 years. We started as best friends -- with benefits...

[liptonlee]

be friends first. or else she'd think you are too pushy and you wont even have her as a friend.

[UKRaven32]

Well it's kinda hard to say, with my current gf we only started talking about 5 days ago, then I asked her out 2 days ago. We had never spoken before, we'd seen each other around but never said anything to each other, I find this is the best way, as before her I had a major crush on a girl for like 6 months, but she wasn't interested in going out, and just wanted to be friends.

So in my case, speaking to her for a few days then asking her out, then finding out about each other is the way to go, as I got friend zoned pretty bad by this other girl. But, your situation might be different with this girl you like, so it's up to you really.

Hope this helps :D

[Kjcj]

so there is this girl that i used to didn't talk to or anything but when we had gotten into the 8th grade i had interest in her and asked her out... She said "well I don't really know you and i think that we need to get to know each other better" so I started talking to her more and last year (10th grade) I had asked her out again and she said "well no because were friends and I don't want to mess that up"

It's confusing to me and Ive just decided the best thing for me to do ids to focus on my school work and then a job, but i might just stay single it really don't matter I'm at the point where i don't care either way...

[Cooper197]

From my experience, which is limited, friends first makes a huge difference. I've known my girlfriend and been very close with her since we were 4, but we started dating at 14 and are still dating now, almost 3 years later. Obviously if you know each other as well as we did going into it, you know if you actually like them. Knowing that, I feel, is key to a good, stable relationship. We've been long distance dating since she moved about 2 and a half years ago, but we're still solid. From what I've seen it helps. All of my friends who just dive into it never end up in a relationship very long, especially if it ends up long distance it ends almost before it starts.