sex

[liveandlearn]

Im almost 14 and i got a gf. I love her.:kissfriend: we see eachother mostly in school.We live right down the road from each other so we can see eachother alot. My most difuclt post today is asking u guys wat i should do. She asked me if i wanted to have oral sex!! Im scared to death! I want to but i dont no if its right. Itold her i would think about it. Wat do u guys think?
any advice is helpful!!1

[Maverick]

You only should if you 100% trust her and there is no doubt in your mind you're ready for this. If you're feeling doubt and uncertainty maybe it would be a good idea to wait for awhile until you feel that you're ready. If you do it when you aren't ready you'll be too nervous and it won't be very good.

We cannot tell you if should or not, but we can tell you that you shouldn't unless you trust her and you feel completely comfortable with it.

[Brandon639]

^^ I agree 100% with Anthony!

Only if you and her are both 100% ready

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Maybe you should think about taking it even slower (and SAFER than that). As a rule I allways suggest if you are going to do SOMETHING sexual, at least keep it to mutual masturbation (handjobs/fingering etc.) since there's NO chance of pregnancy, and basically NO chance of getting an STD (like a one in several hundred million chance if saliva is involved; use lube and you're fine). You might find it easier to try this FIRST before you take that step to oral sex. Above all remember to ALWAYS talk about it openly between the two of you (you seem to be doing a great job of that already! :) ) and to only try anything once you both are ready and consenting to whatever act you want to do.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I would agree with Canadian guy that you might want to start off with lesser things like handjobs, and then when you are both ready advance to oral.

[grimlip]

You're only 14, what's the rush?


But if you decide to do it, you need to think first, do I REALLY want to do this? Do I REALLY trust this person? If you say yes to those questions, still wait longer.

[byee]

People who want to do something aren't simultaneously 'scared to death' about it!

Listen to what you're saying to yourself here and make the right choice. If the relationship is good now, and you 'love' her already without the stuff that would 'scare you to death' why risk changing what you have?