Too young for sex???

[Khlo]

My boyfriend and I want to have sex and we have been going out for a couple months now. He already bought condoms and stuff but I was wondering if I might be too young for sex? I'm 13, almost 14 and my bf is 14. We make out and he feels my boobs and stuff but we have never gone all the way. I really want to have sex with him and so does he. So should I wait or just do it?

[XjojosX]

Well i don't think there is a problem for you to have sex but you have to be careful and try to enjoy it :P

[TheBassoonist]

Don't rush into it. If you both feel ready, then it's fine.

[nancy_moon]

I think there's not a "right age"...the time is when u feel ready

[tomfelix]

It's when you WANT to do it which is the right age, but remember you can only lose it once and it can change things...

[johnsmith1]

If you feel ready and this is right, go for it. Make sure you're using some sort of birth control though. You can get pregnant first time otherwise.

[opsfam15]

This was my situation... we had both just turned 14 (this was 4 months ago) and we wanted to have sex. We wanted it to mean something though, we didn't want to do it just to say we did it. We went ahead and had sex and it was amazing, the only thing was that she afraid that she was too young and didn't tell me until the night after we did it. It was too late for her so my thing for you is if you think you might be too young, then you are too young.

[exxer]

I think there is nothing excatly age when it is ok to start having sex. If both wants it, it is ok :) But it is important to both ones knows enough about birts control and etc...

[Haz222]

You'll know when you're ready, perhaps you'd try other stuff first like oral sex? That's a little less serious than sex.

[Jjday]

Yeah, it seems you're ready

[supadupahitz]

If you feel ready and this is right, go for it. Make sure you're using some sort of birth control though. You can get pregnant first time otherwise.

You can get pregnant each and every time otherwise. Oh, and condoms aren't 100% effective either, btw. Close, but not 100%.

There is not a magic age where you become ready. It depends on maturity, both physical and emotional. If you are planning on only having sex with someone you plan on being with forever, then I wouldn't recommend it. As much as you care about each other now, the odds of you being with him in 5 years are pretty slim. If you are both doing it for the physical sensation and not for "love", then it's more a case of your physical maturity, and that's a lot easier to judge. If you're doing it for emotional reasons, like because he loves you and you want to make him happy, or to feel closer to him, then chances are you're going to be disappointed and regret it.

[LouBerry]

Are you responsible enough to deal with a child if you mess up? If not, you are too young.

[supadupahitz]

You'll know when you're ready, perhaps you'd try other stuff first like oral sex? That's a little less serious than sex.

The only differences here are the loss of virginity and no chance of getting pregnant. The emotional issues, moral issues (if that's a consideration), chance of STIs/STDs, reputation issues, and authority issues are all the same. Just sayin.

[ForrestGump]

Go ahead... Have fun just please make sure to be careful. Sti pregnancy. Just be carful. Remember birth control and condoms. You two have fun now you here :D

[GZC97]

Im going to go against the grain and say no. I think that 13 is too young. If you have sex before you are not just physically able to, but mentally able, you can really mess yourself up. You say that you have been going out with this guy for a couple of months. Have those months been more than just making out and felling each other up? Have you really gotten to know this person? Do you feel like your relationship is not built excessively around pleasure? Do you really care about this person? Do you feel comfortable telling him what you are comfortable with? At this age, you are probably not mentally ready for sex. People on this forum don't take this into consideration.

[HollisterGirl98]

It's all up to you guys! Don't let age get in the way

[dufus]

If you think the times right....go for it

[Funnydude has quit]

It's up to you. When you guys feel ready do it. Although, here in Australia to have sex you need to be 16 years of age.

[BrandonA]

Get your hormones out of the way. One day you'll regret it

[APhkinPanda]

Are you responsible enough to deal with a child if you mess up? If not, you are too young.


That's a really good answer. You should take this persons advice.

[GigglyAbby]

I'd wait until there's little to no doubt from either or you. Also -- you likely are ready when:
*You both feel comfortable seeing each other nude
*You both want to do it to express your deep feelings for one another and there's no pressure
*You discuss how you both would handle: a broken rubber -- running out of rubbers-- late period -- getting a pregnancy test -- being pregnant and what option you would choose
*You discuss past intimate acts if they could cause a risk for 1 of you to have a STI
*You both decide if you want to add hormonal birth control with a condom [or without]
*You know how condoms and birth control work effectively
*You know how to put a condom on or off -- how to store them -- and check if it's damaged [brittle or tear]
*You both understand the purpose of Emergency Contraception [Morning After Pill] -- when to use it -- what side effects can happen -- how to obtain it
*Understand that with 1 or 2 forms of birth control there's always a risk of pregnancy
*You both can communicate openly about sex before -- during -- and after sex

I'd also recommend you try oral sex and foreplay before you have sex the first time. Yet -- not everyone who has sex does foreplay or explore each other's bodies more.

[AndyinEngland]

I did it at 14 and it was the most amazing experience - scary at first of course but then we became so close in emotions as well as body and I never regretted it.

[randomnessqueen]

wait. youre definitely too young.
youll have multiple realationships that last just months, its not worth it.

[AndyinEngland]

Yes but remember life is about learning and if you learn through experience as long as you understand that it is not hurting anyone - at 14 I didn't think I was getting into a lifelong commitment but I didn't feel anything worse for it.

[imcoolbro]

just do it and have fun. only if you both are comfortable with each other and make sure you have protection.

[Amy_I_am]

As others have pretty much said, it's not whether or not you're old enough, it's whether or not you're ready. If you're not sure, then you probably aren't.

[Cooper197]

I feel like if you have to ask on here if you are ready, you probably aren't. Different people are ready at different times, so age doesn't matter. But if you can say for yourself without having to ask anybody else that you are ready, go for it. If you can't, it might be worth waiting.

[Jevon]

If you insist on having sex then do it just remember if you fuck up you get pregnant

[curiouskid15]

I personally think you're way too young. If you really want to do something, how about oral? It still feels great!

[Walter Powers]

My boyfriend and I want to have sex and we have been going out for a couple months now. He already bought condoms and stuff but I was wondering if I might be too young for sex? I'm 13, almost 14 and my bf is 14. We make out and he feels my boobs and stuff but we have never gone all the way. I really want to have sex with him and so does he. So should I wait or just do it?

I can't believe how many people are actually encouraging her to do this! SHE'S 13 YEARS OLD!!!! This is supposed to be a support forum, where us inexperienced teenagers share the bits of common sense we've picked up with eachother.

In most places it's illegal to have sex under 16 for a reason. Is you and your boyfriend tested for STDs? Are you prepared for a baby? How would your parents feel about this?

[HahaWaitWhat]

I'd say you're a little young.

[Rina]

Honestly, age doesn't matter. It's not just physical. It's emotional and physical. Someone in middle school is definitely not mature enough for it. Like someone said, if you mess up and get a child, are you responsible enough to deal with it? Have you even thought about the consequences? Sex is supposed to be special, not something you just get over with the first guy who asks or the first guy you are supposedly "in love" with.

You wait until your older, is my advice.

People on here really do approach sex as if it's nothing when it's 90% emotional and 10% physical.

[DerBear]

I personally do think 13/14 is too young for sex. I'd say about 16 is a good age. I think if you're having to ask then you're probably not ready.

[Joe7]

I don't think you should. You're only 13, and the chances are that you won't be with this guy for very long (tough fact, but it's true!). I think you should wait until you're more mature and with the right person.

[itschilled]

If you think its time... go for it.. but use protection.. and comunicate alot.

[kentucky girl]

Your age really isn't a factor. If you both think you are ready for this big moment then go for it. Glad he is using his head and has condoms. It would be better if you were on birth control pills.

[PinkFloyd]

I was in the exact situation as you. I was 14, and my girlfriend was 13 and about to turn 14. We decided to try sex with a condom of course. At first, it was kinda weird because we didn't know what we were doing, but after a while, we got the hang of it, and it was all good from there on.

There is no young age for a teenager if they feel like they're ready.

[imcoolbro]

just do it

[Perfectly Flawed]

I personally do think 13/14 is too young for sex. I'd say about 16 is a good age. I think if you're having to ask then you're probably not ready.

Exactly this. Many people will say it's fine whenever you think you are ready, but thinking and knowing are two completely different things.

[honeybear]

something I heard once that fits here...if you have to ask if you are too young you probably are...not trying to be snotty

[Howareyou]

Are you responsible enough to deal with a child if you mess up? If not, you are too young.

Exactly

[teen.jpg]

If you have to ask this question, then yes. You are too young.