I Like My Friend with Benefits :(

[Biscuithead13]

So me and my friend went to school together last year, I transferred to a new school this year. Well about 2 months ago, he sent me a FB message saying he was bicurious, and wanted to experiement. So we had a sleepover, and our experiementation just seemed to get boring, although we French kissed and he enjoyed that quite a bit.....so the remainder of that night I'm an emotional wreck balling for two hours because I felt like I fucked up. The following day was awful....Jump forward a month from there, I attend a play he was in since it was for my former school, and we talk a little bit, very polite convrsation. So now about two weeks ago he texts me randomly saying he had been thinking about me and asked how was doing. He then hints he wants to sexually explore again, so we had another sleepover after having talked extensively the past two weeks. I had horrible nerves and could not get hard for the life of me while we had fun, but he was another story, and lets just say once I realized it just wasnt gonna happen for me I decided to totally focus on him and it resulted in a huge ending for him :3 so we had cuddled and stuff too alot last nite and we've held hands before, but all behind closed doors. He makes me feel SOOO safe and secure and I've told him that, and he said he feels the same and likes cuddling. I could of fallen asleep in his arms I felt so secure like nothing would hurt me. Problem is, Im my own worst enemy and always get antsy over liking someone and I dont know his sexuality, he talks about girls and has said only they get to him emotionally, but yet he even said last night to me we just got closer. Im so confused and its ripping me apart cuz I always wonder what it would be like to date him and have him as my boyfriend, but I dont even know if hes bi or gay or what, and he the most open minded person ever, so I dont want to screw anything up! What do I do? I just need to not be anxious

[peaceNlove]

Yea you do need to not be so anxious. I say give it a little more time. Maybe he's trying to figure some stuff out about how he feels. It seems to me like he's maybe bi. Just talk to him about it. You said he's open minded so it shouldn't be hard to talk to him. Tell him how you feel. If you're not comfortable telling him that you like him yet, atleast come out to him. Maybe he'll come out too.

[johnsmith1]

He sounds like he's a good guy. Let him know how you feel. We never know how life will go as a whole, and sometimes we worry so much about tomorrow, we forget about today. Next time you're with him, live for the moment and enjoy being in his arms, and being cuddled.

[johndjdrummer12]

You need to not be soo anxious and just let him know how you feel. Let him know you are worried that he might not feel the same way. Show him that you care and that you want him to feel comfortable enough to share his emotions with you. If its not too much to ask..please keep me informed on how everything turns out. And I'm here if you need to talk or some advice

[Biscuithead13]

Im a total emotional wreck right now, last nite he texted me after I had texted him 4 times throughout the week, and he said he "hadnt heard from me since our sleepover" and that he didnt receiver the text messages I sent before....his texting is computer based so sometimes he doesnt actually get them, that was proven several weeks ago. We had a short convo and all his responsed were extremely happy and he wanted to know how I was, and he was very enthuiastic but then he didnt reply to one of my mesages so i figured he went to sleep. I texted him again today and then messaged him on FB and I cant help it cuz I need to talk to him Im an emotional wreck right now im struggling to get my project done tonite cuz I just keep breaking down....but then I nt tell anyone why i keep breaking down cuz i have to keep the stuff me and him did together a secret....idk what to do Idk why I cant talk to him and its ripping me apart :'(

[drew6]

I dont even know if hes bi or gay or what, and he the most open minded person ever, so I dont want to screw anything up! What do I do? I just need to not be anxious

There is nothing for you to screw up if he isn't bi or gay, so I think there isn't anything for you to do until you know that. If you want to speed up the process, ask him. If you think about it, if he's straight and not curious, you have no chance at a relationship, so there is nothing to screw up by asking. Note, I am a straight guy, but I think the advice is sound. If not, someone pls correct me.

[Hermes96]

look i can't say i know how you feel. all i can say is you won't screw it up by asking him it sounds to me that if you ask him out he'll probley say yes.