boyfriend without coming out?!?!

[ItsJustJack]

I'm bi and really want a boyfriend right now but also don't want to come out as being bi is not accepted where i am. Does anyone have any advice on how i could overcome this as i really want a boyfriend

[teen.jpg]

Looking for a boyfriend(especially closeted) won't GET you a boyfriend. You cannot find love, love FINDS you.

[RyanJF1]

You don't have to come out to the world. Do it when you're ready. Tell your mom and dad first, then go from there.

Personally, I would come out before dating anyone. But I see we're you are coming from.

[Dimentio]

Well i am openly gay and have been for about a year and have died for love, I only have had one girlfriend, No boyfriends and never kissed or anything but i am a huge romantic, And people say i have the kindest and most gentle heart, Issue is i am not the greatest looker, So no matter what things will always put people off you but as everyone else said love finds you :)
Being gay i is harder as finding gays is hard, Finding single gay guys makes this harder, Finding gay guys you are attracted to and and like you, Just makes this impossible! XD But if it is someone of the opposite sex you like it should be easier :D
Just come out when you are ready and i hope you are accepted for who you are!

[johnsmith1]

Agreed with what's said so far. It would be very dificult to find someone. Also hard to find someone that you could trust to tell. How would your parents take it? Do you have a close friend you could tell?

[ItsJustJack]

Umm i would hate to tell my parents first, and one friend found out and didn't take it too well, but i have another in mind ,only trouble is we are super tight and i really dont wanna lose that relationship if he doesn't accept me

[johnsmith1]

Umm i would hate to tell my parents first, and one friend found out and didn't take it too well, but i have another in mind ,only trouble is we are super tight and i really dont wanna lose that relationship if he doesn't accept me

I know it can be tough to come out, particularly if there's noone you're totally sure of that will accept for how you feel. In terms of your close friend, start by asking "what do you think of" rather than specifying yourself directly. See his eaction and if he's OK with it continue.

[Jae Ostraes]

I Think an Online Relationship Will Work ? .

[ItsJustJack]

I Think an Online Relationship Will Work ? .
How would i get one of these and how do they work :confused: im such a noob looll

[Celtic.]

Looking for a boyfriend(especially closeted) won't GET you a boyfriend. You cannot find love, love FINDS you.you sound like Oprah.
take this guys advice

[LiamC]

I really want a boyfriend too, but if you're not out then it can't really happen... Online can work, but I went there and even though he was near me it didn't go too well. We still talk from time to time, it just didn't work out and a real relationship is always better. But they don't just come; you'll have to wait like the rest of us.

[Jae Ostraes]

How would i get one of these and how do they work :confused: im such a noob looll

Find Some Overseas Or Far Friends On Social Ns's . Or On Any Site, Confess . :)

[theatreguy]

I'd love to have a boyfriend, but I don't think I want to come out yet. So I guess I have to wait till I'm ready.

[Maverick]

Generally when you're in the closet its not going to be easy to find a boyfriend because if you are presenting yourself to be straight how is anybody going to know you're at least bisexual? There's really only two ways of happening which is you meet a guy that is already out and you confide in him, start a relationship, and keep it under wraps. The problem is you would then be in a position to where in the eyes of other people you're hanging out with the gay kid and its really going to put a strain on your relationship if one is out and the other is hiding in shame. He won't respect you for it.

The other way is if a guy friend of yours either confides in you or it just naturally got discovered between 2 close friends. That way isn't the most likely occurrence but it is possible.

But overall as long as you present yourself to be a straight male gay or bisexual guys aren't going to be coming out of hiding to start a relationship with you.

[ItsJustJack]

Generally when you're in the closet its not going to be easy to find a boyfriend because if you are presenting yourself to be straight how is anybody going to know you're at least bisexual? There's really only two ways of happening which is you meet a guy that is already out and you confide in him, start a relationship, and keep it under wraps. The problem is you would then be in a position to where in the eyes of other people you're hanging out with the gay kid and its really going to put a strain on your relationship if one is out and the other is hiding in shame. He won't respect you for it.

The other way is if a guy friend of yours either confides in you or it just naturally got discovered between 2 close friends. That way isn't the most likely occurrence but it is possible.

But overall as long as you present yourself to be a straight male gay or bisexual guys aren't going to be coming out of hiding to start a relationship with you.

Thanks but im not 'hiding in shame' i just havnt come out as i would be forced to endure so much bullying....

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Looking for a boyfriend(especially closeted) won't GET you a boyfriend. You cannot find love, love FINDS you.


In reality, this is truth.
On the internet, however, that is not always the case.

[curiouse97]

kik it with who you want don't worry about coming out. why stress about something you don't need to do. just be DL as they say

[Caldwell]

Believe me, I am in the exact same boat.

I am only out to my closest friends, and I recently started homeschooling, so the social frontier for me isn't exactly wide. Regardless, I don't think somebody's worth dating if they aren't willing to respect your privacy. Not every relationship has to be visible and open to everybody.

[Croconaw]

People are automaticly going to assume you're straight. Well, unless you come out, obviously.

[ImCoolBeans]

I Think an Online Relationship Will Work ? .

How would i get one of these and how do they work :confused: im such a noob looll

Personally, I would not go for an online relationship. Falling in love online can be a very real feeling and it can be a very strong connection, but the limited feeling never subsides and you may still feel very lonely seeing as you can't actually be with the person you're in a relationship with.

Whenever I've found love or something like it I've always randomly stumbled upon it and it's taken its own course. My advice to you is to not force anything that may not be right -- because when you do that you're opening up a can of worms that will most likely not work out well in the end. Love and relationships have a funny way of finding their way to you, and will in time. You're only 14 and most guys your age who are gay/bisexual are all most likely still in the closet as well. In the coming years people will start to become more comfortable with their sexualities and you'll find that it gets easier to meet people and they are more open to the idea of dating/exploring their sexualities.

[ItsJustJack]

Thanks everyone, love your advice, i think im gonna come out to my closest friends when the time is right...

[Camazotz]

Generally when you're in the closet its not going to be easy to find a boyfriend because if you are presenting yourself to be straight how is anybody going to know you're at least bisexual? There's really only two ways of happening which is you meet a guy that is already out and you confide in him, start a relationship, and keep it under wraps. The problem is you would then be in a position to where in the eyes of other people you're hanging out with the gay kid and its really going to put a strain on your relationship if one is out and the other is hiding in shame. He won't respect you for it.

The other way is if a guy friend of yours either confides in you or it just naturally got discovered between 2 close friends. That way isn't the most likely occurrence but it is possible.

But overall as long as you present yourself to be a straight male gay or bisexual guys aren't going to be coming out of hiding to start a relationship with you.

Personally, I would not go for an online relationship. Falling in love online can be a very real feeling and it can be a very strong connection, but the limited feeling never subsides and you may still feel very lonely seeing as you can't actually be with the person you're in a relationship with.

Whenever I've found love or something like it I've always randomly stumbled upon it and it's taken its own course. My advice to you is to not force anything that may not be right -- because when you do that you're opening up a can of worms that will most likely not work out well in the end. Love and relationships have a funny way of finding their way to you, and will in time. You're only 14 and most guys your age who are gay/bisexual are all most likely still in the closet as well. In the coming years people will start to become more comfortable with their sexualities and you'll find that it gets easier to meet people and they are more open to the idea of dating/exploring their sexualities.

Jack, you should listen to these guys. If you are really concerned about bullying, you should wait a couple years before coming out. By the time you're in high-school, most bullying should be non-existent (by then, people don't care). More people will be out and you'll have a better chance of getting a boyfriend. You might really want a boyfriend to feel accepted, but you're still young, and you don't necessarily need one yet.

As for online relationships, it's too risky and there's not enough trust that you can have with someone you can't really be with. I strongly discourage online relationships, and I think you can find better potential boyfriends in person.

[Jae Ostraes]

Personally, I would not go for an online relationship. Falling in love online can be a very real feeling and it can be a very strong connection, but the limited feeling never subsides and you may still feel very lonely seeing as you can't actually be with the person you're in a relationship with.

Whenever I've found love or something like it I've always randomly stumbled upon it and it's taken its own course. My advice to you is to not force anything that may not be right -- because when you do that you're opening up a can of worms that will most likely not work out well in the end. Love and relationships have a funny way of finding their way to you, and will in time. You're only 14 and most guys your age who are gay/bisexual are all most likely still in the closet as well. In the coming years people will start to become more comfortable with their sexualities and you'll find that it gets easier to meet people and they are more open to the idea of dating/exploring their sexualities.

Yah, they are right. Im not good at advising. Haha

[photojared]

well, when you find someone just don't make a huge deal and tell every one only tell people truly care about and not those who are there just to judge your choice

[Ben4ever]

Looking for a boyfriend(especially closeted) won't GET you a boyfriend. You cannot find love, love FINDS you.

You may find that a boyfriend isn't all that it's cracked up to be. I don't know all the facts in your life, so I am limited with what I can say. Friends may be your best way to express your feelings. You are still young and I don't think you should be settling down just yet. Let love find you. Until it does I would recommend finding some "friends with benefits"

[ItsJustJack]

You may find that a boyfriend isn't all that it's cracked up to be. I don't know all the facts in your life, so I am limited with what I can say. Friends may be your best way to express your feelings. You are still young and I don't think you should be settling down just yet. Let love find you. Until it does I would recommend finding some "friends with benefits"

i wish i could find a friend with benefits but i dont exactly know how you get one hah