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that94guy
May 4th, 2013, 05:07 AM
Not sure what I'm posting this for, just want to share my story I guess.

So there's this guy I've been liking for 3 months. This was my first crush ever. We live together in a dorm room along with 5 others. He's sweet, a little shy, somehow I thought that he's not straight. At first it was just me that crushed on him. But a few weeks ago, he began to have some intimate acts that noone's ever done to me, like touched my hips, came lying beside me and started to talk when I was lying alone, in a dark room. In the morning, when I was just opening my eyes, he'd start looking at me and smile. Once when I was in a crowded homemade party, everyone was having fun and I was looking out the window, head wandered somewhere, he came up standing next to me, our arms touched... All made me believe that he was interested in me too.

Since then, I began feeling awkwark around him. I was thinking about him all day, dreaming of a relationship, and get depressed... How many times I told myself to accept, but now I know I was never comfortable with me being gay. And the past days I see that there's something that made him sad too. It made me believe even more that he is feeling the same way.

Last 2 nights there was a party, I decided to drink (which I don't usually do), I thought about him, and cried in front of people. He didn't seem to care much. The next morning I decided to tell him my feeling.

I told him I liked him for a long time, and that also means I'm gay. But he said he's "a normal person". The reason he's been sad the past days is because he's just recently break up with his girlfriend in his home city. He began telling me the story between him and his past girlfriend, (Fuck, before he once said he really appriciates the girls' beauty but never had one girlfriend - don't know where I should believe), tell me it's normal, and he's willing to talk to me, be a psychologist of mine...

Well I've been so depressed for the past 2 days, just lying in my bed and thinking around. But feel a little better now. Guess I need some time to get over this, and continue to live this lonely life.

peaceNlove
May 6th, 2013, 01:10 AM
That's so awesome that you came out! I came out to only two people that i personally know so far. Ill eventually come out to other people im getting closer to. This site is the first public place i came out on but no one i know in my personal life goes on here. But sorry about the guy you like:/ tbh it sounded to me like he is gay but is not as open to it as you are starting to be. I say give this time and maybe he'll feel comfortable and if he isn't gay, there are other fish in the sea.

johnsmith1
May 6th, 2013, 05:57 AM
It's a shame that he's not quite openly shown the same feeings towards you as you do to him. It's nice that he's willing to talk with you - some could be cruel and throw that back at you. Just talk with him - it sounds like you just need to clear the air and get the wiight off your shoulders.

Hermes96
June 1st, 2013, 10:25 AM
well done i know how hard it can be to come out to people