Do you think strict parents = Kids becoming wild adults?

[Fallen Angels]

So, I was thinking. I'm 16, homeschooled, never get to be social, haven't been taught to drive yet, never get to do anything... and more and more I image how I will be like at 18 (Hopefully I will have been taught to drive by then ._. ). I know I'm going to be freaking insane, wild, and totally reckless. Because, I'm not getting to do any of the fun stuff other teens get to now, later I'll try to grab all the fun at once lol I see it coming. I know it's coming. I look forward to it. lol

Anyone else like that/was like that? Strict parents trying to shelter you from the world (with good intentions) but really turning you into a wild adult?

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

My dad tried be that strict person but having my mom be the total opposite I was able to basically give him the finger and just please my mom

[Horatio Nelson]

Eh no, your parents obviously haven't taught self control.

[HunterSteele]

Eh no, your parents obviously haven't taught self control.
What does that have to do with it?

My mom is this way, and it's kept me away from a lot of opportunities to connect with people. Everything says she does it to keep me safe, but I think it's gotten to the point where it's not reasonable to believe she does it in good faith.

[Jabbawocke]

Im very sheltered. I havent crossed the street myself, havent gone to the mall with friends, all because my mom is very strict.

I dnt really care though, i know its my fault because i always do stupid stuff. Its my personality, so she worries a lot. I dont take it out on her, im 15, and have never talked back to her, which is something im proud of.

But shes starting to let me go slowly..

[Horatio Nelson]

Any self respecting person wouldn't be a "wild adult".

[xXl0sth0peXx]

You know, to an extent, I agree with this. It's like my mom doesn't lock up alcohol or treat it as a bad thing and lets me have a sip occasionally, with her reasoning being that the kids whos parents treat alcohol like it's god awful are the ones who are more likely to go do something stupid. And I agree with that.

It could be like that for anything - sex, certain foods, going places, whatever. I think there is a fine line though, and one needs to be responsible for their actions, no matter what. So I guess yes I agree with you but I don't think it's right, if that makes any sense.

[Hunter_Steel]

My mother is overly strict. I can't leave the yard or anything like that, I just stay inside the whole day. I know she does it to protect me, but it gets out of hand very quickly.

Although, being 17, I am allowed to drink small amount now, like maybe a bottle of Cider or something. But thats about it, and once in a while a glass of wine.

But I don't see myself being a wild adult or anything. Because I've seen what happens when you go wild, and too wild = dangerous. The only thing your parents haven't seemed to have taught you yet is self control. Don't let loose because your parents are no longer able to stop you, control yourself when it comes to having fun, then you can prevent giving your parents any grief and blaming themselves for what is going on. Because every parent tries their best to raise you into a respectable, acceptable and strong adult. Even if some are bad parents, and even if some seem like they hate you.

Thats my thoughts.

~Hunter

[Rina]

I don't think just because you have strict parents, that it automatically means the child will be wild when they get older and on their own. Yeah, sure, you'll have a lot of things you'll want to try and do now that you're "free", but if you have a little self control and understand the difference between finally "going out there" and going "completely insane", then people should be fine. They have less limits, but there are still some they should be aware of.

I had a strict grandmother, unfortunately she passed away, and my mother is less strict, meaning I can do lots more like walk alone on the street to go to the store or get some food, but I'm not going crazy because I've been taught to be a little more careful and I won't go wild just because the limits aren't there anymore.

[PinkFloyd]

It depends. If your parents non-stop tell you what not to do and what to do, it'll have an impact on you if you listen to others. Now I'm not saying that you're some sheep that follows everyone, I'm saying that you take guidance easily. If you are like say me or one of my friends; when your mom tells you: don't do drugs, don't have sex, etc etc.... YOU DO THAT STUFF. It's mostly because I am not the brightest kid and I'll admit that. SOrry if that post was all over the place.

[Princess Ariel]

I agree with this, but not entirely.

Strict parents are sheltering you from the world and trying to protect you, yes. But in doing so, you can't learn from your mistakes at an early age and deal with the small repercussions then, but as an adult they're much more extreme and one wrong move that would be acceptable as "teenage behavior" is not acceptable as "adult behavior" but with that being said, when the children grow up to be an adult, they can take care of themselves and they'll know what is right and what is wrong and can't blame it on their parents.

Yes, we need to make mistakes so we can learn from them and the parents try to ensure that you don't make the same mistakes they did.

I myself have a very strict mother, but when I grow up and become an adult, I'm not going to blame it on her.

[workingatperfect]

One of my good friends is like that. Even now that she's 18, her mom treats her 14 year old sister better than her. It's definitely made her a little wild, partly just to like, catch up because she's barely been allowed to go out the last few years, and partly to spite her mom. But her mom goes beyond strict or sheltering and is down right controlling. I've known her for about 3 years now and she's told me a billion times how she couldn't wait to turn 18 and party and do all the things she never got to do because her mom never let her leave the house. And she does that stuff now. Well, tries, her mom still texts her constantly and makes her check in.

Me and my mom were talking about it the other day and my mom said maybe if she'd been stricter, my brother and I would be better off and I told her I 100% disagreed with that because 1. My friend hates her mom, I love and respect mine. And 2, I've already made most of my mistakes and I've grown up now, whereas my friend is just now making all the mistakes I made at 14-16. When I turn 18, I'll be more ready to be an adult than she was.

[Krash9]

its weird but i think sometimes its how we see ourselves. you may not be more wild than other kids your age but because of how you see yourself compared to how you were you will def. be more wild then you are now if that makes sense.

[Fiction]

I agree.

I go to college, and of my friends 3 went to private schools so will have been the most supressed in terms of individulaity. They had the brightest and most rebellious coloured hair. I know that's only a tiny thing but still, I agree.

[FergusDunn]

I think that can be right and does happen - our parents are quite liberal - and neither I nor my older brothers have any trouble in the cope with life stuff. My bros are at uni and all the students that seem to get into bother - are those that seem clueless about life cos thier parents were strict - so now they are grabbing it all. getting drunk trying hash etc.

[Jamesison]

I dont think so.

[mandyluvgirl]

yes. I think the stricker the parents are the wilder the kid. My mom is so strick.

[FullyAlive]

I go to an all girls grammar school so a lot of the girls in my school tend to be Asian, with the what i suppose are stereotypical Asian parents who drop them at school never let them out to parties, or shopping or anything non school based, no alcohol or dating etc. And to be honest none of these at all are particularly wild now.

The ones with parents like mine that let us drink and go out are the ones who would be considered more "wild" half of my friends had little to no boundaries growing up and yeah are a lot "wilder" than others. So no at least with the people I know this assumption wouldn't really be true at all.

[Jevon]

No not at all I think it is possible but I highly doubt it

[HahaWaitWhat]

From what I've heard and seen, yes. Just imagine being in a big empty room with a button and someone tells you not to press it, you obviously want to press it more since they told you not to.

[Adam17]

I think it does cause I wasn't alowed to do much until I bought my truck now all I do is party

[The LOLer]

Maybe... Idk

[chargersfan]

Depends on the kid.

[SweetFader]

In most cases YES :yawn: being a teenager is a big part of discovering yourself, figuring stuff out! i can easily suspect you'll do A LOT of experimenting in college. they should ease up a little! :(

[unknownuser]

I wouldn't say strict parents = wild kids.

My parents aren't super strict, but they do watch out and are concerned for me.
I've known people and have had family members that have done stupid wild things and it ended... badly. I don't want to go down the same road so I have self control and refrain from hanging out with the wrong people and doing the wrong things. So I think it depends more on the individual whether they choose to restrain themselves or go wild.

[curiouse97]

wow I know a lot of kids that were in the same boat and did exactly what you say you will. some to the extent they are dead now. sad but true. so don't go overboard!

[teen.jpg]

Not really, it all depends on the person. I don't think anybody gives kids/teens enough credit for their actions. We CAN think for themselves. If a kid does something "bad", don't blame the parents, blame the kid.

[Plane And Simple]

Yes to a point. Strict dad isn't the one who grounds you when you fail a test. A strict dad, for me, is the one who forces you to study 3 or 4 hours a day, and doesn't let you go out until you do, the one who grounds you for the slightest thing, such as you saying a bad word, not spending your hours studying even though you know your lesson by heart, etc. For me, the sons of this parent will be wild, unless they're fully domesticated by their parents and just limit themselves to say "yes, dad".

[Deep Blue Sea]

It's just me and my dad. He works long hours and under a lot stress, so I try to stay in line.