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Wasd
May 1st, 2013, 10:24 AM
Hi out there

Im writing because I'm frustrated... I case is: Im 17 years old. I have a HUDGE crush on a girl who is attending the same school as me. I have been writing with her once on Facebook. The chat went well. I started - she replied in normal length and even the ";)" smiley :) (Every thing counts yes! :D )

But after the conversation we had no contact any more. I dont know how to start the conversation again without it will be awkward - something like Whats up or sup would be awkward i think...

How do i start the FB chat again? What would you do? Talking to her IRL is NOT a solution.. (Too shy)..

Thanks :)

Hunter_Steel
May 1st, 2013, 11:33 AM
For me, when I spoke to my girlfriend before she became my girlfriend for the first time, I usually just started the conversations with: Hi, how're you doing, what you up to? that sort of stuff. It works, and the conversation goes places, I think she might like you, so if you don't do something fast, she'll think you don't like her either.

Worst thing to do is to lose the girl you are crushing on to another guy, so don't let the feelings deteriorate.

~Hunter

Wasd
May 1st, 2013, 12:00 PM
I usually just started the conversations with: Hi, how're you doing, what you up to? that sort of stuff. It works, and the conversation goes places,

Wouldn't it not just be awkward? Remember, we don't know each other very much.

Thanks for fart response! :)

Cygnus
May 1st, 2013, 04:05 PM
Talk about subjects of incest and rape, she will love it... I'm just kidding, that would be a very cruel thing. Ask her about homework and about that class, ask her if she likes the teacher, what phone does she have, what does she read if you see her reading, there are so many things to say depending on the moment.

Hunter_Steel
May 1st, 2013, 04:55 PM
Nah, it won't be awkward. I had that fear once, but I just went ahead and did it. Things worked out for me in the end, and I am together with her still, 1 and a half years later.

~Hunter

Anxiety
May 1st, 2013, 08:12 PM
How did the conversation start last time? Reread how it went and read between the lines of what you said, and start with something similar. But just this time. In future, when you get more comfortable, you'll come up with conversation starters with ease.
With the guy I like, I just start conversations with the appropriate greeting (good morning if it's early, hey//what's up any time afterwards) when I first talked to him when I added him on Facebook, I saw that he liked my status so I messaged him and jokingly said "stop creeping on me ;)" and from there it was all smooth. If you do go with a basic greeting, and she's not into the conversation just come up with something on the fly and pretend like you had something you needed to say to her. I have to do that with people all the time.
Subjects you could talk to her about:
Help with homework
Movies//shows
Something interesting that happened today
Fun facts (Google omgfacts and find one interesting)
Find memes that make you laugh and share them.
Ask a simple question.

I start a lot of my conversations with questions and feed off the response I get. And remember to be yourself, and also remember this isn't in person. You can always edit what you've said and you don't have to give a quick response.
Goodluck c:

likemike
May 1st, 2013, 09:46 PM
Find what you have in common and use that