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Cicero
April 30th, 2013, 05:47 PM
So my friend never really calls to hangout, I'm the one who's always asking. But she says yes we can hangout 65% of the time, it's just that she never takes the initiative. Like, she'll ask if we're going to the gym today and ill most likely say yes. But still.

I'm just very paranoid that we will lose our friendship, I'm very insecure about it. I don't know if she's shown signs of getting annoyed with me, I see her everyday at lunch and I see her 3x after school for the gym. Like, if she was annoyed with me, wouldn't she make up an excuse to not go to the gym with me?

I'm just a little worried, cause Friday we were supposed to go. But it closed so I went to her house and she said she was going to hangout with her boyfriend. So I asked if I could hangout with them and she said let me text and ask, she said he's been a bit jealous of me and hers relationship as friends. So when he text back he said "yeah" as in I can hangout with them. So in a way, it's not like I was invited, but in a way it was like I was. Cause I wouldn't have known about it unless I asked if she could hangout. Later that night i went home with her and her mom invited me to eat with them so it turned out to be a spectacular day, cause it was just me and her eating and goofing off. But couldn't she have just lied and said "he said no" ? What are the signs of her getting annoyed?

They were talking about going to the spring festivities in our town and I asked if I could come and she said "yeah sure", then when I asked "are you sure you're ok with it?" She said "yeah". It didn't sound like she wanted me to go, but it didn't sound like she wanted me to go. It was like an unopinionated response.

I just feel like if it was her girl best friend, she would ask if ey could hangout all the time. Whereas with me she doesn't do it as much, I'm always asking.

Also, when I mentioned her boyfriends jealousy, I feel like I should add that we're not like most friends, like she'll tell me tons of things. Like she's told me how he slobbers a lot when kissing her and she always wipes her mouth, and we discuss a lot. She's even told me her weight (or approx. her weight). A lot of people have thought were dating, when we haven't. Like when there's something dirty we say to each other, well give each other a certain look while raising our eyebrows. She's even mentioned how we should makeup our own nerdy language so no one knows what were talking about.

She's said how I'm her guy best friend and her other friend (who recently moved but is coming back in 6 months and has been gone for 1-2 months already) is her girl best friend. We've literally talked about everything, from the anatomy of the vagina to the looks of an uncircumcised dick. I'm even moderately close with her family (dad and mom, not sister).

Danny Phantom
May 1st, 2013, 01:31 AM
I think you may be overreacting. She may just be busy or she may be waiting for you to do the initiative in terms of asking to hang out. I don't think it is anything that serious. I mean, she's still going to the gym and she's still talking to you. Since you guys are so close, as you have said, I think if you were annoying her, she would've told you, since it seems like it would be easy to tell you considering how close you guys are. Until she stops talking to you or something, I wouldn't worry. People tend to think they're annoying someone or that person may not have much interest with us when they don't take the initiative with us as much as we do to them, which may not always be the case.