please help!

[supercali2]

Hi there,

So I've just started sleeping with someone for the first time, which I would've thought my body would have been thrilled about. Seems not, though. The past couple of times we've tried, I haven't been able to maintain an erection for long enough to be able to go through with sex. It's not that I'm not aroused, but I start to lose anything I've got often even before I put a condom on.

I've never had problems getting one before, but something I've noticed is that when I put pressure on the blood vessels going to the penis is the only time I start to get hard, which obviously I can't do the whole time. It may be that I've been doing this when masturbating for a long time without noticing.

Is it likely that I have an ED problem, and if so what can I do short of seeing a doctor?

Please help!

[itsthat0n3kid]

i honestly doubt you would have ED during puberty, and you didnt specify your age so I am just going to say that I am sure youre fine, maybe youre just not "excited" enough.

[FergusDunn]

yikes - okay maybe you have a problem that needs medical attention - maybe not.

Is it more about you learning about your body and your partner - relaxing into sexual relations -

I guess your are tense and so need to relax.

Try that first then see a doc - or if anything else changes see a doc.

[supercali2]

Thanks for the replies. Probably should have specified, I'm around the later teenage years so I'm not sure if this should be here at all...

[FunGuy-]

You probably are fine... Try again in a week or two and see what happens

[sparkles]

I was reading somewhere that jerking too hard with a fist can cause some damage in that your body adjusts to just getting pleasure that way and then has some trouble adjusting to sex when you start doing that. Try an internet search for "soft touch".

Also, is it possible you are just nervous? Maybe you need to try more foreplay.

[Second Chance]

I don't think you have ED because if you had that, then you would not be able to get a boner at all. ED is only something that old guys get who have bad circulation down there.

My thinking is that your problem is psychological. You must be putting too much pressure on yourself when you're having sex which is why you can't keep your boner. You need to remind yourself that no matter what things with you are all right, and your partner likes you for who you are. You need to be honest with your partner letting him/her know that you're having trouble keeping a boner. If your partner is good, then he/she will encourage you and help you out during sex. The problem with a lot of guys when they first start having sex is they put a lot of pressure on themselves to be perfect when that is so not going to happen. Sex should be fun and not something that is high pressure. If you're not having fun having sex, then you have to talk to your partner. Once you're honest and open with your partner and talk things out, then I think your erection problems will go away.