Coming out

[jayyy-lmao]

Ok, guys, I have a plan. I'm not sure if it's a good idea though, so please help a bro out.

So I'm thirteen and I'm bi. I've come out to some friends who accept me, and all's well with them. But I haven't told my parents. I intend to tell them on my fourteenth birthday, which is after the summer in October. I know it's a long time away, but I sorta mentioned it to my Mam and she thinks it's just a phase. But I know it's not. Should I tell them sooner or later? I'm thinking around my birthday so they can see I'm getting older, growing up, and I'm in school that the time so I'll have support from friends. So any tips?

Edit: I just realised something: How the hell do you come out in school? So, like, everyone knows and it's over with. I'm not goona say on Facebook, bad idea. People'll just think it's frape.

[RCT109]

wait untill you are comfortable

to hell with what your parents think
im 18 and i havent told my mom yet so

[jayyy-lmao]

wait untill you are comfortable

to hell with what your parents think
im 18 and i havent told my mom yet so

I get what you mean, but I hate having to hide who I am in my own house.

[RCT109]

I get what you mean, but I hate having to hide who I am in my own house.

im not hiding who i am
i just havent given my mom a lable to slap on me
thats all

[Gwen]

You ain't hiding anything. I don't think your parents need to know your sexuality. I mean it isn't there place to intervene, just because you like someone of a different or both genders doesn't mean everyone has to know

[Hunter_Steel]

I agree. I won't be telling anyone in my family that I might be Bi. For one, my brothers will make fun of me for it and my mom will go all godly on me about it saying how its wrong and praying about it every single night.

I also don't think they need to know. Only person I told was my girlfriend, she needs to know because it can effect our relationship. So thats why I told her and I trusted her aswell. So if you want to tell your parents, you have every right to do so and they should support you for it.

~Hunter

[jayyy-lmao]

I understand where you're all coming from, and I get it, but I just feel like I'm hiding, and that it'd be nice to be open about this.

[Bethany]

I feel the same way about my situation that some above posters do...my family doesn't really need to know it this point.

However, everyone's situation is different - if you feel like you're hiding an important part of yourself, it's probably a good time to come out. If you feel uncomfortable hiding who you are, I would definitely recommend not waiting until October. Maybe you want to find a time when you can sit down with your mom and have a discussion with her, where you can answer her questions and explain that this isn't a phase?

[Joshh97]

I can understand where you're coming from, sit your parents down, and just say it, don't talk about it without saying it, those words mean a lot, and if they dont take you seriously, just say I'm sure it's not. If they still don't agree, wait, you're still young, you have plenty of time, but at least you've tried.

[jayyy-lmao]

I can understand where you're coming from, sit your parents down, and just say it, don't talk about it without saying it, those words mean a lot, and if they dont take you seriously, just say I'm sure it's not. If they still don't agree, wait, you're still young, you have plenty of time, but at least you've tried.

I feel the same way about my situation that some above posters do...my family doesn't really need to know it this point.

However, everyone's situation is different - if you feel like you're hiding an important part of yourself, it's probably a good time to come out. If you feel uncomfortable hiding who you are, I would definitely recommend not waiting until October. Maybe you want to find a time when you can sit down with your mom and have a discussion with her, where you can answer her questions and explain that this isn't a phase?

Thanks you guys, this is a good idea, but I'm not all that worried about family. Have you any ideas about coming out as bi in school? Like, so you don't have to tell people individually and take forever and just get it over with. I don't like the idea of coming out over facebook, people will think it's a hack or a frape and not take it seriously. I have good friends who already know, so I'm not particularly worried about any A-holes, I just don't know how to go about it.

[FergusDunn]

parents will always think something is a phase - its just how they are - you do not have to convince them and peoples sexuality can change.

what is best is exactly how you tell it be open - be yourself.

as far as school goes well you can judge who to tell at first.

But I agree be open - be yourself - be happy

[jayyy-lmao]

parents will always think something is a phase - its just how they are - you do not have to convince them and peoples sexuality can change.

what is best is exactly how you tell it be open - be yourself.

as far as school goes well you can judge who to tell at first.

But I agree be open - be yourself - be happy

I've told a few friends, for back up, and I want to just come out and get over it, but I don't know how. :/

[AbernathyElkwood]

You should start out gently before you go right on and tell your parents... It will most likely come as a shock, so you don't want to give it to them all at once. Please don't worry if they're in denial for a bit, though. My parents were, but they're cool with it now.<33

[jayyy-lmao]

Ok, so I came out and told my parents. No one minds! Everyone thinks I'm brave for coming out like that! Thanks for the help guys :)

[answers-101]

Ok, guys, I have a plan. I'm not sure if it's a good idea though, so please help a bro out.

So I'm thirteen and I'm bi. I've come out to some friends who accept me, and all's well with them. But I haven't told my parents. I intend to tell them on my fourteenth birthday, which is after the summer in October. I know it's a long time away, but I sorta mentioned it to my Mam and she thinks it's just a phase. But I know it's not. Should I tell them sooner or later? I'm thinking around my birthday so they can see I'm getting older, growing up, and I'm in school that the time so I'll have support from friends. So any tips?

Edit: I just realised something: How the hell do you come out in school? So, like, everyone knows and it's over with. I'm not goona say on Facebook, bad idea. People'll just think it's frape.
if you're coming out on facebook, you don't post it up - instead you change your "interested in" status and let people check it out for themselves. this way, people will take you seriously.