Was this really that wrong of me?

[Cicero]

So 2 years ago this kid I knew got in a bad skateboarding accident, left brain damage and he is now left in a wheel chair. I've known this kid for a while now, and he's always picked on me and made fun of me, since I was in 3rd grade he made fun of me, so I moved schools from 4-5th grade, and came back to the school he was at for 6th grade, still, he made fun of me. So I left that school from 7-9th grade, when I came back 9th grade. He picked on me, made jokes about me, etc.

So in the beginning of 10th grade is when he got in his bad accident, life or death, and I could honestly care less. In fact, I thought he deserved it. I hated him. Some of my friends thought it was really mean of me to think he deserved it and thought that I should feel bad for him, but what do you think? To this day, I could've cared less if he lived or died. He has even became a local "celebrity", there was even a local candlelight ceremony for him, 1000 people went, he was even in 2 different news stations which reached more than 3 million people (from where I live).

Plain and simple, he was a jerk and a bully. One of my friends helped to raise money for his surgeries and stuff, and I was just sitting there thinking "Why would you do that for him? I can assure you if something like that happened to you, he would do nothing." Not being rude to my friend, but more about his personality, he was one of those popular kids who were assholes.

He thought I was gay, so he picked on me, he knew I was a germaphobe, so he purposely sneezed/coughed whenever he was around me, when I was (and he was) little he'd pick his nose and try to put it on me. It wasn't that friendly type of mocking, but mean.

[Stronk Serb]

As far as I could care, I would have left him for dead, if he survived, I would organise demonstrations against him and all that. I would go to a TV station and say what kind of person he is and gather people who think the same. As much as he hindered you, you should hinder him. That would be my vendetta. Also, you could have tipped his chair a couple of times.

[TapDancer]

So 2 years ago this kid I knew got in a bad skateboarding accident, left brain damage and he is now left in a wheel chair. I've known this kid for a while now, and he's always picked on me and made fun of me, since I was in 3rd grade he made fun of me, so I moved schools from 4-5th grade, and came back to the school he was at for 6th grade, still, he made fun of me. So I left that school from 7-9th grade, when I came back 9th grade. He picked on me, made jokes about me, etc.

So in the beginning of 10th grade is when he got in his bad accident, life or death, and I could honestly care less. In fact, I thought he deserved it. I hated him. Some of my friends thought it was really mean of me to think he deserved it and thought that I should feel bad for him, but what do you think? To this day, I could've cared less if he lived or died. He has even became a local "celebrity", there was even a local candlelight ceremony for him, 1000 people went, he was even in 2 different news stations which reached more than 3 million people (from where I live).

Plain and simple, he was a jerk and a bully. One of my friends helped to raise money for his surgeries and stuff, and I was just sitting there thinking "Why would you do that for him? I can assure you if something like that happened to you, he would do nothing." Not being rude to my friend, but more about his personality, he was one of those popular kids who were assholes.

He thought I was gay, so he picked on me, he knew I was a germaphobe, so he purposely sneezed/coughed whenever he was around me, when I was (and he was) little he'd pick his nose and try to put it on me. It wasn't that friendly type of mocking, but mean.

I understand what you mean. It is not right to hold grudges, I am not saying that not feeling sorry for him is right. But we are human, and, if I was in your situation, I would not feel too sorry. But, remember, he is in a wheel chair, and had a neurological impairment. I mean, you can walk, he can not. What has gone around, has come around. It is not right to hold grudge, but it is understandable. Just remember, despite all the sympathy, the attention, the donations, the media, his life still sucks way more than yours, so, I would just forget about it. You should let it go, it is not worth it.

[Foamy]

You've had your grief with him, not caring at all about what happened. But now that's in the past. You can still hold a grudge if you want to, but it would probably be in your best interest to forgive and forget because of his condition.

[Elysium]

I don't think it's wrong of you to feel that way at all, as long as you're not public about it, and it doesn't sound as though you are. You're permitted to feel that way, but just as you're entitled to that, your friends and community are entitled to pity and support him. Considering the sensitive situation, if I were you, I wouldn't pretend to like the guy or support him, but I wouldn't go out of my way to prove to people that I didn't like him, if that makes sense.

[Abyssal Echo]

Beings that I've been bullied in the past I understand how you feel. Chances are that I wouldn't feel bad for him either. I don't wish bad on anyone But, as far as I'm concerned he got what was coming to him.
Like Almeria said you can holda grudge if you want to But, it would be in your best interest forgive and forget.

[The LOLer]

That guy could die, and you dont give a damn. I see something wrong with that. But fuck, I don't get a candlelight ceremonie and I'm in a wheelchair. No news report either.:mad:

[johnsmith1]

I've been through the situation of being buullied and really hating someone. I'm usually easy going, and can genuinely say that there is very few cases that I could say that. In my case this guy ended up stabbing someone and ended up in trouble with the law. Needless to say I don't see him any more, and don't really think on it any more, and doubt I will any time soon. My point is, given this person's current condition, even though you have had a lot of grief from him in the past, just keep your distance. There is no need to join in the help for him if you don't feel that way, it's just not worth the agro by getting involved any further.

[Cicero]

That guy could die, and you dont give a damn. I see something wrong with that. But fuck, I don't get a candlelight ceremonie and I'm in a wheelchair. No news report either.:mad:

Were you born with a disease that causes that?

[The LOLer]

Were you born with a disease that causes that?

Nope

[SamanthaMaciel]

yiur not wrong.... those news ppl... u shouldve told them about him

[paulw]

I don't know if you believe in the idea of karma, but it sounds like he already got his.

Is he still an *sshole to you now? If so maybe u should just stay away from him.

If not then i would honestly write it off and think of what happened to him as him getting his big cosmic punishment and now the universe is even (probably not true, most bullies grow out of it before theyre 25, he will still be impared at 65 so its kinda way worse for him).

In the short term with the big fuss for him, say nothing, steer clear, wait. Sympathy has a short half life and soon people will get tired of making a big deal of it and he will be left with the consequences. But dont make it your problem any more.

If you hold a grudge, youre only hurting yourself. Nobody else will want to hear it, so the best that can happen is nothing and the worst that can happen is that people misread the situation and everyone decides you're the *sshole.

I dont think its "wrong" that you feel this way, its totally understandeable, but the best thing you can do is let it go. He's not worth your emotional energy.

[Cicero]

I don't know if you believe in the idea of karma, but it sounds like he already got his.

Is he still an *sshole to you now? If so maybe u should just stay away from him.

If not then i would honestly write it off and think of what happened to him as him getting his big cosmic punishment and now the universe is even (probably not true, most bullies grow out of it before theyre 25, he will still be impared at 65 so its kinda way worse for him).

In the short term with the big fuss for him, say nothing, steer clear, wait. Sympathy has a short half life and soon people will get tired of making a big deal of it and he will be left with the consequences. But dont make it your problem any more.

If you hold a grudge, youre only hurting yourself. Nobody else will want to hear it, so the best that can happen is nothing and the worst that can happen is that people misread the situation and everyone decides you're the *sshole.

I dont think its "wrong" that you feel this way, its totally understandeable, but the best thing you can do is let it go. He's not worth your emotional energy.

Perfect advice. Thank you.

He hasn't come bak to school, but I saw he had a date to homecoming thanks to his pics on fb

Also, you're allowed to cuss

[Haydenn3]

Ok i understand why you said you couldnt of cared but that guy who said you would leave hm for dead thats disgusting how could you say that he got his punishment for the stuff he done he deserves at least a little bit of respect can you imagine going from good life to nothing his friends probably left him he cant do what he loves nothing i get why you hated him and thats fine but you should just leave it at that two wrongs dont make a right he deserves no more

[paulw]

He hasn't come bak to school, but I saw he had a date to homecoming thanks to his pics on fb

Also, you're allowed to cuss

Any time!

For the date, unless he's changed, I cant help thinking that that just means theres someone shallow enough to use him for their own big ol' fb publicity, like people who give a small amount to charity but make a really big deal over it .... I dunno, maybe Im being cynical :) But I wouldnt be surprised if that gets old. Either way, not worth your time.

Oh and yeah hehe it's weird I wouldnt hesistate to say 'fuck' in a thread talking about fucking, but somehow I naturally avoid cussing when I'm talking about other people. Just habit I guess :rolleyes:

[Cicero]

Any time!

For the date, unless he's changed, I cant help thinking that that just means theres someone shallow enough to use him for their own big ol' fb publicity, like people who give a small amount to charity but make a really big deal over it .... I dunno, maybe Im being cynical :) But I wouldnt be surprised if that gets old. Either way, not worth your time.

Oh and yeah hehe it's weird I wouldnt hesistate to say 'fuck' in a thread talking about fucking, but somehow I naturally avoid cussing when I'm talking about other people. Just habit I guess :rolleyes:

She either did it for 2 reasons, popularity or cause she felt bad for him. People literally post tons of fb pics of them with the kid, as if he's a hero or celebrity. H probably got in that accident cause he was high or drunk

[Ballboy]

I'd feel the same way. But it's good advice not to say so too much if everyone else is sorry for him.

I spose everyone has their reasons for being how they are but that's no use to you when you're being bullied. At least that was stopped, and that's good so you're bound to feel good about it.

[NickTheBest]

I agree with him

[xmojox]

Let it go, man. Sometimes it takes something huge for people to change, and maybe this is that thing for him. Even if he is still a dick, just let it go.