Why want the virgin

[Deleted 12]

Ok i dont understand why guys chase virgins.... im a virgin but i have a number of guys who are just obsessed with trying to get my "innocnce" as they refer to it.......

i would really like some opinions on why they do this

[Jabbawocke]

Well. As a guy myself, i'd say its a pride thing. Im still a pure one myself. ( not even a kiss) and guys probably want to shag you because well.. its something unique. If a guy does shag you, he'll probably walk around announcing that he devirginized you, and driving all the other guys mad.

but then again, it could be because your body is "new" and unspoiled, idk about everyone, but id rather make love with a girl who has never been violated by a different guy.

[Atonement]

I have a couple ideas about this:

1. If person A is person B's first sexual partner, person A has no one to compete against since person B has no previous expectation or other partners to compare person A to.

2. Men may feel powerful to have achieved "taking" a virginity when virginity is really "given"... It's kind of a demonstration of masculinity to be able to achieve it.

3. It's become culture since sex is a goal and virgins are hypothetically harder to get into bed, they've "won" the game.

[spiderdude]

It's because they think you'd do different things then somebody that already had sexual intercourse, like a person that's a virgin my be willing to try oral as where, someone who's had sexual intercourse may have already done it and maybe doesn't like. So if a guy sleeps with a virgin, they think they are gonna get more out of it either way if you're uncomfortable with trying something then don't do it

[Iron Man]

This pretty much sums up my reasoning for wanting a virgin:

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m59wlttK6K1rsxxryo1_500.jpg

[Deleted 12]

It's because they think you'd do different things then somebody that already had sexual intercourse, like a person that's a virgin my be willing to try oral as where, someone who's had sexual intercourse may have already done it and maybe doesn't like. So if a guy sleeps with a virgin, they think they are gonna get more out of it either way if you're uncomfortable with trying something then don't do it

Really thats confusing GUYS ARE WEIRD


Well. As a guy myself, i'd say its a pride thing. Im still a pure one myself. ( not even a kiss) and guys probably want to shag you because well.. its something unique. If a guy does shag you, he'll probably walk around announcing that he devirginized you, and driving all the other guys mad.

but then again, it could be because your body is "new" and unspoiled, idk about everyone, but id rather make love with a girl who has never been violated by a different guy.

Ok i get this........ but my virginity has absolutely nothing to do with them...

[Deleted 12]

It's because they think you'd do different things then somebody that already had sexual intercourse, like a person that's a virgin my be willing to try oral as where, someone who's had sexual intercourse may have already done it and maybe doesn't like. So if a guy sleeps with a virgin, they think they are gonna get more out of it either way if you're uncomfortable with trying something then don't do it

HAHA thats ridiculous

[Deleted 12]

This pretty much sums up my reasoning for wanting a virgin:

image (http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m59wlttK6K1rsxxryo1_500.jpg)

i like this one !!!

[Jabbawocke]

Yeah. but guys are shallow like that. Im a guy believe me :P

[Deleted 12]

I have a couple ideas about this:

1. If person A is person B's first sexual partner, person A has no one to compete against since person B has no previous expectation or other partners to compare person A to.

2. Men may feel powerful to have achieved "taking" a virginity when virginity is really "given"... It's kind of a demonstration of masculinity to be able to achieve it.

3. It's become culture since sex is a goal and virgins are hypothetically harder to get into bed, they've "won" the game.

1. yes thats logical
2. wow guys can be seriously immature
3. Winning the game, so its like property ?

[Deleted 12]

Now how can i get them to stop being jerks... without going out and having sex

[Jabbawocke]

Now how can i get them to stop being jerks... without going out and having sex

Well... Just be firm that you don't wna get laid with them. And becareful, they might try to drug you or something.. I've heard stories about it.

[Stronk Serb]

Now how can i get them to stop being jerks... without going out and having sex

Tell them you swore an oath that you will not have sex till you are like 30. Or tell them that you don't want it. Beware, some might try to rape you, or maybe not.

[Deleted 12]

Tell them you swore an oath that you will not have sex till you are like 30.

Heck no that would be a lie !! but ir would work :/

[Jabbawocke]

Heck no that would be a lie !! but ir would work :/

Someone's really a white angel :P Just don't get laid, that simple. Let them flirt with you, just don't pay attention. They'll stop eventually.

[Deleted 12]

Someone's really a white angel :P Just don't get laid, that simple. Let them flirt with you, just don't pay attention. They'll stop eventually.

White angel ???? what does that mean ??

[Jabbawocke]

White angel ???? what does that mean ??

Innocent :P

[Stronk Serb]

Heck no that would be a lie !! but ir would work :/



Tell them then that you will have sex when you get married. When teenage guys hear the word "marriage" combined with "sex", they will quit it most likely.

[Deleted 12]

Innocent :P

Haha well maybe i might be....... but im also very scary :P

[Deleted 12]

Tell them then that you will have sex when you get married. When teenage guys hear the word "marriage" combined with "sex", they will quit it most likely.

i tried that but then one proposed on assembly.............. yeah not weird at all....

[Jabbawocke]

i tried that but then one proposed on assembly.............. yeah not weird at all....

Just don't pay attention to him :l Wow. Guy proposed -.- Really. Are you even close with him?

[Deleted 12]

Just don't pay attention to him :l Wow. Guy proposed -.- Really. Are you even close with him?

i try but i don't want to be rude.... yeah it was kinda cute he even got me a ring (from a vending machine but its the thought that counts).... i wouldn't consider us close but he vents to me and im a good listener i guess :/

[Jabbawocke]

i try but i don't want to be rude.... yeah it was kinda cute he even got me a ring (from a vending machine but its the thought that counts).... i wouldn't consider us close but he vents to me and im a good listener i guess :/

Hmm. Well, as long as you know where to draw the line. You can play around with him a bit, but be sure that you assert when to stop.

[Stronk Serb]

i tried that but then one proposed on assembly.............. yeah not weird at all....

Then tell them to piss off? Tell them: Look at yourselves, pressuring me into sex, shame on you, like there are no more importanrtt things in the world. You behave like the worst perverts of the world.

[Deleted 12]

But i don't want to play around with him, we hug thats all like im not even teasing him, i just know he is a troubled guy and talking helps him think straight....

[Deleted 12]

Then tell them to piss off? Tell them: Look at yourselves, pressuring me into sex, shame on you, like there are no more importanrtt things in the world. You behave like the worst perverts of the world.

is there a polite way to say that ??
no did swear at them and some left but a couple got all oh she's feisty now

[Jabbawocke]

is there a polite way to say that ??
no did swear at them and some left but a couple got all oh she's feisty now

Yeah. So don't do that. It'll just rile them up and make them want you more. Just ignore them. Or you could lie and say you aren't a virgin anymore..

[Deleted 12]

Yeah. So don't do that. It'll just rile them up and make them want you more. Just ignore them. Or you could lie and say you aren't a virgin anymore..

i hate lying i feel really sick !! no matter how awkward something is i try and tell the truth otherwise i get ill :(

so any tips on ignoring with our being rude ???

[Stronk Serb]

is there a polite way to say that ??
no did swear at them and some left but a couple got all oh she's feisty now



Hmph, that is a loose cannon idea I posted. Stop talking to them if they continue. About that guy who propossed you, tell him kindly to stop, since technically you are friends, and him telling you to have sex with you could ruin it.

[Deleted 12]

Hmph, that is a loose cannon idea I posted. Stop talking to them if they continue. About that guy who propossed you, tell him kindly to stop, since technically you are friends, and him telling you to have sex with you could ruin it.

Ok so toughen up and get rude !!! i can so that i think oh yep i can do that !!
yeah he's not an issue anymore he realised that he didn't love me he just loved that i was honest to him

[Jabbawocke]

Ok so toughen up and get rude !!! i can so that i think oh yep i can do that !!
yeah he's not an issue anymore he realised that he didn't love me he just loved that i was honest to him

Well. xD Good luck then :P

[Stronk Serb]

Ok so toughen up and get rude !!! i can so that i think oh yep i can do that !!
yeah he's not an issue anymore he realised that he didn't love me he just loved that i was honest to him

Do not get rude. Be polite, but direct. State what you want, and no bargaining.

[Deleted 12]

Do not get rude. Be polite, but direct. State what you want, and no bargaining.

Okiey Dokey thanks for all the help :)

[Ballboy]

virgins are more curious. I should know.

[Jabbawocke]

virgins are more curious. I should know.

No man, that's not her point. Her point is that, she is still a virgin, and other guys want to take her virginity. Just because your a virgin doesn't mean you're more curious.

[Ballboy]

No man, that's not her point. Her point is that, she is still a virgin, and other guys want to take her virginity. Just because your a virgin doesn't mean you're more curious.

I see. Didn't read the thread. Dumb.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

To be honest, most of these guys who are "obsessed" with sleeping with virgin girls are both (A) incredibly immature and/or (B) woefully sexually inexperienced.

The immaturity part comes from believing dumb things about girls who aren't virgins being "spoiled" or somehow tainted by having sex with other people; that's a complete double-standard and archaic way of thinking about sex. The sexual inexperience part comes from well.... knowing how awkward "virgin sex" can be. If these guys have any amount of sexual experience (and experience with virgins), they know that the sex... isn't great.

^^^That's not to say guys with more sexual experience will shun virgins either; but in general I've noticed that guys who have slept with 1 or more people generally prefer to sleep with other non-virgins (since they're more likely to have great quality sex with less time to "learn each others bodies"). Also, guys who have "taken" a girls virginity might be wary of that girl becoming incredibly clingy/attached to them when that's not what they wanted to happen. In either case, its a tricky situation for girls who want to remain virgins, and for ones who want to lose their virginity. Just make sure that first time is with someone you care about and trust.

[johnsmith1]

It's probably just a matcho thing too. It's almost like guys that get around are studs, whilst girls that sleep aroind are sluts. They just want your "innocence"

[Hunter_Steel]

Its a whole pride thing.
Yes, taking a girl's virginity for pride is a really stupid reason thats for most guys.

To me, I don't really care if your virgin or not. If I love a girl, and she loves me, thats all thats gotta matter. Sex is like an add on thing when your ready to kick it up to the next level. Any guy who pressures a girl into giving her virginity to him without even loving her is a jackass and needs to have a soul crushing let down. His pride is what makes him pressure you into giving your virginity, so he'll respond to it well when you crush that pride and bring he's whole world down crashing and burning.

Sometimes you gotta be mean to be safe in this world. "Learned that the hard way."
If you don't want these guys constantly pressuring you into it, tell them to buzz off and to not let the door hit them on the way out. It shows your not interested, and that you are not going to be walked over by them. And make sure you stay safe too, because if you keep going like you are now, one or two of them will surely try to rape you.

Best to watch your back. Its your body, your virginity. You can do what you want with it, and no one can pressure you into doing anything that you do no want to do.

~Hunter

[Deleted 12]

To be honest, most of these guys who are "obsessed" with sleeping with virgin girls are both (A) incredibly immature and/or (B) woefully sexually inexperienced.

The immaturity part comes from believing dumb things about girls who aren't virgins being "spoiled" or somehow tainted by having sex with other people; that's a complete double-standard and archaic way of thinking about sex. The sexual inexperience part comes from well.... knowing how awkward "virgin sex" can be. If these guys have any amount of sexual experience (and experience with virgins), they know that the sex... isn't great.

^^^That's not to say guys with more sexual experience will shun virgins either; but in general I've noticed that guys who have slept with 1 or more people generally prefer to sleep with other non-virgins (since they're more likely to have great quality sex with less time to "learn each others bodies"). Also, guys who have "taken" a girls virginity might be wary of that girl becoming incredibly clingy/attached to them when that's not what they wanted to happen. In either case, its a tricky situation for girls who want to remain virgins, and for ones who want to lose their virginity. Just make sure that first time is with someone you care about and trust.

Firstly thanks for the clear formatting yeah i have decided that most guys are weird

[Deleted 12]

Its a whole pride thing.
Yes, taking a girl's virginity for pride is a really stupid reason thats for most guys.

To me, I don't really care if your virgin or not. If I love a girl, and she loves me, thats all thats gotta matter. Sex is like an add on thing when your ready to kick it up to the next level. Any guy who pressures a girl into giving her virginity to him without even loving her is a jackass and needs to have a soul crushing let down. His pride is what makes him pressure you into giving your virginity, so he'll respond to it well when you crush that pride and bring he's whole world down crashing and burning.

Sometimes you gotta be mean to be safe in this world. "Learned that the hard way."
If you don't want these guys constantly pressuring you into it, tell them to buzz off and to not let the door hit them on the way out. It shows your not interested, and that you are not going to be walked over by them. And make sure you stay safe too, because if you keep going like you are now, one or two of them will surely try to rape you.

Best to watch your back. Its your body, your virginity. You can do what you want with it, and no one can pressure you into doing anything that you do no want to do.

~Hunter

Thanks for the warning... yeah i have been lucky no ones tried to rape me.... but i don't know where they are getting their signs from i hardly talk to them.... i try to be mean i used to be really scary my nickname was the ice queen but then i changed and became friendly then this all started so i think im going to revert back to being an icequeen

[Fiction]

I've heard guys say that it's better because virgins tends to be tighter so the sex is better or something like that. However i think this would make such a miniscule difference and that the pride thing is the most likely explanation.

[Stronk Serb]

Thanks for the warning... yeah i have been lucky no ones tried to rape me.... but i don't know where they are getting their signs from i hardly talk to them.... i try to be mean i used to be really scary my nickname was the ice queen but then i changed and became friendly then this all started so i think im going to revert back to being an icequeen


You are not the problem. They are. THEY should change, not you. They started that. They should change.

[Horatio Nelson]

For me personally if they are a virgin I know that the chances of STD's are miniscule to none. Simple as that really.

[Reanne]

My understanding from a guy that took my virginity is that he thinks my pussy was different from others and that it felt like velvet and was smooth and felt better than any others he had been in. We hadn't seen each other for over a year and then we got back together and he didn't think it felt the same anymore. It was like any other pussy...those we're his words.

So my understanding from that is a virgin pussy feels better.

[Deleted 12]

You are not the problem. They are. THEY should change, not you. They started that. They should change.

Thanks i know you are right but sometimes its hard to remind myself :P

[Deleted 12]

For me personally if they are a virgin I know that the chances of STD's are miniscule to none. Simple as that really.

another way of making sure is to get them tested because... people can have herpes who have never had sex

My understanding from a guy that took my virginity is that he thinks my pussy was different from others and that it felt like velvet and was smooth and felt better than any others he had been in. We hadn't seen each other for over a year and then we got back together and he didn't think it felt the same anymore. It was like any other pussy...those we're his words.

So my understanding from that is a virgin pussy feels better.

Wow thats the first time i have heard this theory

Please don't double post, use the "multi-quote" button instead. ~TheMatrix

[tundravortex]

i rather have the virgin minly because u can never trust the ones that havent been open yet....besides i want it to be there special night to

[HahaWaitWhat]

Probably because there are not a lot of virgins around now-a-days. I would like my first time to be with another virgin, but that is highly unlikely.

[Deleted 12]

Probably because there are not a lot of virgins around now-a-days. I would like my first time to be with another virgin, but that is highly unlikely.

Why unlikely ??

your still young and there are plenty of 16 year old girls who are still virgins so that shouldn't be a worry

[HunterBlue]

I'm always gonna be remembered is why. When she's got kids and looks back in her life, I'm gonna be part of it forever.

Another reason us I like the while discovery thing. Like, this is a new experience for her and you're not just experiencing the sex but like also experiencing this new thing in life. I mean, I EALLY like that feeling where she's opening her legs and she's like wut? Like this? Is this right? Will this be okay? It's not just sexy to me but also kind of magical

Also, I thinks it's like why guys explore and wane to be the first to climb mountains. We always want to be the first.

Nothing I said made any sense.

[HahaWaitWhat]

Why unlikely ??

your still young and there are plenty of 16 year old girls who are still virgins so that shouldn't be a worry

Lol not where I go to school. Literally me, my cousin, and our friend account for like 40% of the schools virgins (both male and female).

[Deleted 12]

Lol not where I go to school. Literally me, my cousin, and our friend account for like 40% of the schools virgins (both male and female).

oh yes that does pose a problem :/
there is 6 virgins left at my school in highschool... so i get what you mean

[Josh Schlacter]

Now how can i get them to stop being jerks... without going out and having sex

Just hang around with other guys haha, not all guys are like that.... Well I'm not....

[HunterBlue]

Why guys want the virgin? It's the same why guys climb mountains or explore. Guys just want to be the first. I saw this video footage of this guy on a rocket bike. Yes you read that right. A rocket bike. A motorcycle with a rocket engine on it. Just putting those word together in the same sentence screams out "bad idea" but he did it. He took off like, well, like a rocket. Why would he do such a crazy thing? To be the first to do it. No other reason necessary.

Another reason, this is just me so I can't say for anyone else, I want to be remembered. No matter what happens I know that some girls will always look back and remember me. Personally, that's awesome.

[LuciferSam]

For me, it's because her not being with other guys adds a sort of purity to the whole thing. I find this attractive, possibly because of my OCD, or maybe because I just have a thing for innocent girls. I don't know quite how to describe it, but that's the best I can do.

[Deleted 12]

Just hang around with other guys haha, not all guys are like that.... Well I'm not....

i dont hang out with them....they hang around me :/ i have guy friends who are amazing so i know not all guys are jerks haha as if you would say you were a jerk :P

[Deleted 12]

Why guys want the virgin? It's the same why guys climb mountains or explore. Guys just want to be the first. I saw this video footage of this guy on a rocket bike. Yes you read that right. A rocket bike. A motorcycle with a rocket engine on it. Just putting those word together in the same sentence screams out "bad idea" but he did it. He took off like, well, like a rocket. Why would he do such a crazy thing? To be the first to do it. No other reason necessary.

Another reason, this is just me so I can't say for anyone else, I want to be remembered. No matter what happens I know that some girls will always look back and remember me. Personally, that's awesome.

Haha that sounds like something i would do :P im renowned for my failure in thinking things through........ so how many virgins have you had ???

[Deleted 12]

For me, it's because her not being with other guys adds a sort of purity to the whole thing. I find this attractive, possibly because of my OCD, or maybe because I just have a thing for innocent girls. I don't know quite how to describe it, but that's the best I can do.

OCD??

[LuciferSam]

OCD??

I like things being clean and perfect.

BTW, I'm not saying I have OCD just because of this. I possess most of, if not all of the other characteristics (I hate calling them symptoms).

[HunterBlue]

Haha that sounds like something i would do :P im renowned for my failure in thinking things through........ so how many virgins have you had ???
(Blush) I'm not gonna say in a public thread. But I admit, when a girl casualy drops that she's a virgin, my Eyes lite up and i say "oh, really?" So maybe I have this thing. That was also embarrassing to say.

[Josh Schlacter]

i dont hang out with them....they hang around me :/ i have guy friends who are amazing so i know not all guys are jerks haha as if you would say you were a jerk :P

Oh ok, my bad =P. Yeah. Ahaha did i?

[tommy100]

from my point of view as a guy, if someone is a virgin she can't compare you to who ever else she has slept with. so there is no worrying about whether your dick is smaller or if the other guy was better

[Jean Poutine]

I don't know. Having sex with virgins isn't very fun. It's tighter, to me uncomfortably so, and there are no other differences other than the lack of sexual experience, which again, makes it worse.

I personally invite any and all comparisons to past sexual partners, so I can dismantle them. I want to be remembered not because I'm the first, but because I'm the best.

[ForrestGump]

Well as I'm a virgin I would rather be with a virgin my first time. I just believe I would feel more comfortable. But either way, most guys, If they love you, they will not care if you're a virgin or not :D

[Deleted 12]

I like things being clean and perfect.

BTW, I'm not saying I have OCD just because of this. I possess most of, if not all of the other characteristics (I hate calling them symptoms).

Don't worry i have OCD in many areas of my life :P

Oh ok, my bad =P. Yeah. Ahaha did i?

My point is that all guys will say they aren't jerks :P

(Blush) I'm not gonna say in a public thread. But I admit, when a girl casualy drops that she's a virgin, my Eyes lite up and i say "oh, really?" So maybe I have this thing. That was also embarrassing to say.

Oh thats bad really bad, you are gonna have to watch that it old get you into trouble

I don't know. Having sex with virgins isn't very fun. It's tighter, to me uncomfortably so, and there are no other differences other than the lack of sexual experience, which again, makes it worse.

I personally invite any and all comparisons to past sexual partners, so I can dismantle them. I want to be remembered not because I'm the first, but because I'm the best.

That would be my logic but apparently some guys are weird, or really bad that they only get a response from virgins :P

Well as I'm a virgin I would rather be with a virgin my first time. I just believe I would feel more comfortable. But either way, most guys, If they love you, they will not care if you're a virgin or not :D


Aww its really sweet when two virgins lose it together :)

[Josh Schlacter]

My point is that all guys will say they aren't jerks :P

That's a bit of an over statement.... That's like saying all girls are whores.
Where i live and got to school, i'd say about 5% of guys at most are jerks.
I'm in my final year at a Christian private school. I'm not really a Christian, but i do take all the morals and ethics. I always put girls before me, open the door for them etc.

[Deleted 12]

That's a bit of an over statement.... That's like saying all girls are whores.
Where i live and got to school, i'd say about 5% of guys at most are jerks.
I'm in my final year at a Christian private school. I'm not really a Christian, but i do take all the morals and ethics. I always put girls before me, open the door for them etc.

would any of those guys call themselves jerks?? it really nice that you do those things :)

[ChrisA1998]

My point is that all guys will say they aren't jerks :P

I'm not a jerk... :D
in the sense I dont date girls just for the sole thrill of getting them in bed.
Not all boys are like this ;-)

Aww its really sweet when two virgins lose it together :)

thats what happened with me, and yes indeed it was so sweeeet :-)

[ForrestGump]

Aww its really sweet when two virgins lose it together :)
Yea that's what I'm hoping will happen to me :D

[Deleted 12]

I'm not a jerk... :D
in the sense I dont date girls just for the sole thrill of getting them in bed.
Not all boys are like this ;-)

no there are some tossers out there :P
but its good to see some y=who aren't ;)

[Josh Schlacter]

would any of those guys call themselves jerks?? it really nice that you do those things :)

I don't think they would. Thank you :)