So tell me...

[MAXD88]

...What you think of this.

To start off Iv'e had a gf for almost 2 months now and we just can't seem to communicate succesfully. When were together I just stand around and listen to her chatter away with her girlfriends in their fast paced spontaneous manner for the duration of the time. Occasionally she'll stop and say something to me but it never leads to any real conversation, just a brief, awkward exchange of remarks or greetings. Even so, I feel that theres no reason for us to talk in the first place. I can't really make her laugh or smile, like the other people were usually with. Our few previous conversations were always so lifeless in contrast with those that she has with others. When we were at the mall a few weekends ago we were walking around with this other guy from school, and even though she wasn't necessarily interested in him they were laughing alot and and she was being so playful and open with him, and I realized that I should be the one in his place as her boyfriend, but I'm just not an exceptionally lively or funny person by comparison. I know it's better to focus on your own strengths and not compare yourself to others but I don't seem to have the strength to connect with her or make her happy. To make things worse she's a very flirtatious person (I think that's a word:confused:) so shes often messing around with other guys, and all it does is make me feel more discouraged.

It hasn't really devastated my life or anything, but it makes me kinda sad sometimes and when she asks what's bothering me I can't be honest with her. If you have any questions I'll proabaly be able to answer them and maybe get a little more in-depth but for now Iv'e got to go eat so I'll get back to this later.

[woahman]

i think that you should talk to her about it. she'll won't know to stop if she doesn't know that it's bugs you!

[Break the Cage]

i think you hardly even talk to her, how can you consider her your girlfriend

[byee]

Maybe she's not the one for you. People are supposed to be able to successfully communicate with their girlfriends, certainly better than other people. And it's supposed to be fun, and easy.

Don;t stay with someone 'jsut because' it's better than being alone, or because you like the idea of having a gf. the idea is to be with the right one, not just anyone. You've identified some pretty big differences between you, and those differences don;t seem like the ones you can 'communicate thru' or change. You're different people. Find someone more like you, don't hang on. The longer you stay in this, the longer you'll be away from someone you really click with.

[mynameisjane]

get her talking about something you'd both find interesting. theres a million things to talk about. play 20 questions with eachother, just keep asking questions, no matter how silly. i think you should try to go all out and try to put all your shyness behind you, because if you're gonna break up with her, what have you got to lose? i think its knowing the littlest details about someone that makes you closer than anyone else. and if things dont improve when she's seen the full extent of your personality, then, like everyone says, you're just not right for eachother.