Age difference

[abbie]

What's the oldest guy you think a 14 yr old girl should date? (I'm 14 soon!) :wub:

[Hyper]

Personally - 16 if I had to cap it by age

[Jess]

I'd cap it at 16.

[dontfiguremeout]

I say 16...Any older is too old for teens. But I think once you get out of teens and like late 20's I don't think age is a huge difference, at least probably 5 years is good.

[Bethany]

I'm 14 and I would go up to 17.

IMO it depends more on stage of life...If you're 14 and he's 17, you're in the same stage of life, thinking about high school things. I wouldn't, for example, date a 19 year old when I'm 16, because I'm thinking about high school schools and that person is thinking of college or work things. I think life stage is more important than age.

[mandyluvgirl]

i think 15

[Synyster Shadows]

16, imo

[Anxiety]

I'm 14 and I would go up to 17.

IMO it depends more on stage of life...If you're 14 and he's 17, you're in the same stage of life, thinking about high school things. I wouldn't, for example, date a 19 year old when I'm 16, because I'm thinking about high school schools and that person is thinking of college or work things. I think life stage is more important than age.

You basically just said you would date someone for two years and then break up with him. That's a pointless relationship and a waste of time for both parties.

I don't think dating should even begin until 16. No point ^

[Bethany]

You basically just said you would date someone for two years and then break up with him. That's a pointless relationship and a waste of time for both parties.

I don't think dating should even begin until 16. No point ^

That's not what I intended to say. I was intending to refer to the start of the relationship. I would not start a relationship with someone with someone outside of my life stage. If the relationship progressed to the point where one party was in high school in the other in college, I would be okay with that. I was referring to the start of relationships.

Why does dating at 16 suddenly have in point but dating at 15 doesn't have a point?

[Cygnus]

I'd say late 15s - early 16s

[Anxiety]

That's not what I intended to say. I was intending to refer to the start of the relationship. I would not start a relationship with someone with someone outside of my life stage. If the relationship progressed to the point where one party was in high school in the other in college, I would be okay with that. I was referring to the start of relationships.

Why does dating at 16 suddenly have in point but dating at 15 doesn't have a point?

Ah, I understand what you are saying now that does make some sense.
I'm just saying I didn't start dating until I was 16. I think it's just an appropriate age. When you're sixteen you have more freedom with a driver's license and its not really a date to me if you have your parents there or driving you places.
If I had a daughter I wouldn't let her date until she was 16, most girls can even handle an emotional let down of breakups at that age but it is a good starting point.
But I'm not saying that the rule I'd set for my children of dating at 16 is set in stone, I would have to determine their maturity level, because that's different for everyone

[Fiction]

Ah, I understand what you are saying now that does make some sense.
I'm just saying I didn't start dating until I was 16. I think it's just an appropriate age. When you're sixteen you have more freedom with a driver's license and its not really a date to me if you have your parents there or driving you places.
If I had a daughter I wouldn't let her date until she was 16, most girls can even handle an emotional let down of breakups at that age but it is a good starting point.
But I'm not saying that the rule I'd set for my children of dating at 16 is set in stone, I would have to determine their maturity level, because that's different for everyone

That seems a slightly controlling fatherly role...

I'd say 16 too although when I was 15 my boyfriend was 18 so it all depends really.

[Anxiety]

That seems a slightly controlling fatherly role...

I'd say 16 too although when I was 15 my boyfriend was 18 so it all depends really.

A real example of controlling fatherly role:
On christmas eve my step dad randomly went on a rant about how I'm not going to have another boyfriend until I am 23 (seriously) and not have sex until 28, and that he would be extremely disappointed if I did otherwise. He broke down crying when I laughed (i seriously thought he was joking! He wasn't joking..)
THAT is a controlling fatherly role.

ahah..
Most parents (atleast mine, and the ones I know.) don't want their kids to make the same mistakes they have. I'm the one who would have to pick up the pieces of my teenaged daughters broken heart once a guy steps on it, and i'll have to do it every time for a very long time, why allow her unnecessary hurt?
More bad comes from dating than good. I believe you only meet one person who is meant for you (perhaps that's why they call it "The one") somewhere around 3-5% of people will marry and stay with their high school sweetheart. and one of my kids will not be in that 3%. I don't believe in dating for fun, emotions get involved and it rarely ends well. There's no such thing as "No strings attatched" in the matter of dating. Just my opinion. reading this back I sound WAY more uptight and serious about dating than I actually think I am, but if my daughter developes mentally even remotely the same way I have (which is completely possible seeing as my issues are genetic) I have to be serious about it. But she may be nothing like me and more like whoever her father will be, so like I said I'd have to see. but this is my original state of mind before having any kids.

[Jace17]

I think 16

[Sweet Smart Smexi]

Age shouldn't matter, it's the love that counts!

[Hunter_Steel]

I agree with 16. 2 year age difference is not an overly huge difference and both people are mostly still on the same mental stages. Although, when I was 14 I thought like a 16 year old. Now 17, I always think in the way a person 2 years older than me would think, so I dunno if my mind is more mature than my body, but anyways, thats off topic.

2 year age difference is where I draw the line.

~Hunter

[nevillee9]

Im 14 and with an 18... But personally I'd go up to 16. I've known my bf for nearly three years and he was my best friend for a while

[habitualrelapser]

I think you should first and for most be careful. just because he's older doesn't mean he's wiser! when I was 14 I dated my brothers best friend (17) and he gave me an std. So really truly be careful. and why not date someone your age? or just a year older (15)? Think about it? what do you see in older guys? take that and see if you can find it in an age closer to yours if you can't I would honestly wait to date. Its honestly not that hard and its worth it you develop so much emotionally in a span of a few years. Good luck!

[HahaWaitWhat]

Eh, I'd say 16 is the oldest and that's sort of pushing it. Try sticking with boys your age like somewhere between 13-15.

[UKRaven32]

Well I'm not a girl but yeah I can give you some ideas.

I am in Year 9 (age 14) and going out with a Year 8 (age 13) who has been out with people in my year before me, so she likes older boys (but not much older) so in her case a year older, but not younger.

My friend likes boys in Year 11 (16-17) and year 10 (15-16), but I don't think she's into boys in our year.

I personally would go one year up (Year 10) and one down (Year 8). But not many in year 8. Obviously I'm going out with a year 8, but I think it's more to do with maturity than age. Me and my girlfriend are both quite mature, so age doesn't really matter so much. But a year 7 is a completely different maturity level to me, so I wouldn't even think about it. On the other hand, my friend goes out with a girl in year 10 who is at the same maturity level as him.

So: age does matter a bit, but maturity overrules in my opinion. If she's at the same maturity level as me then ill happily go out with her, but within age range (1 year each way)

[sixguy6]

id say 16 its good but a little bit more and it would be wrong

[alexf380]

Where I'm from, we have an unwritten rule called the "hand rule". You are the middle finger, and it is accepted to go two years, or two fingers, up or down and thus staying on the hand.
Anything other than that and you just don't.
HTH

[Horatio Nelson]

16 seems good.

[Move On]

I'd say 16, not because of the actual age difference, but in the maturity gap. A 16 year old will be making significantly different choices than a 14 year old, whether they're good choices or not.

[Altiier]

15-16 It really depends on the person, the debate is too generic for the question.

[Piachu]

I know there's a "half your age + 7" rule, but then you'd end up at 14, which is your current age, so that wouldn't leave you with a wide selection. :( Personally I'd say no higher than 16. when you're 14 you shoulsn't think that age is just a number when it comes to love. It's pretty disgusting how some teenagers ((or even younger)) fall for older people, like in their twenties or such. I'd say you should stick to 16 and below. :)

[jaxian rhyder]

At max 23
But I would stop around18 or 19

[Zeke]

If it makes you feel any better, I am currently a 17 year old male dating a 14 year old. Although shes turning 15 in about 20 days. We are 2 years and 3 months and 10 days apart!

2-3 year difference is fine, as we are insanely in love at the moment so hey who cares about our age its 2 years I mean come on! Although 4 year age difference max

Take care :)

[AvMan]

16 id say :)

[Perfectly Flawed]

16 MAYBE 17 under certain circumstances.

[nice]

I think for a girl your age maybe 16 since you're just turning 14 soon.