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crowdlost
April 25th, 2013, 04:15 AM
This guy I've known for 5 years, me and him have been absolutely inseparable ever since. We've slept over at each others' houses a bunch of times, we're always hangin' out, we do almost everything together. But I've always had this insane jealousy inside of me whenever I see or hear that he's hanging out with his other buddies. I personally don't LIKE these friends of his.

They are jerks and obnoxious and I can't stand them. Of course, I don't show my hatred to them. I never even said a bad thing about them to my best friend, because of course I don't think he would appreciate it. Plus I generally do not like to talk shit about other people. Unlike THEM.

I'm pretty sure they don't like me either but just smile and make polite conversation in front of him because well, they know we're best friends.

The thing I've always liked about my friendship with this guy is that he would always tell me his problems with his girlfriend of 4 years. Every time they'd be fighting, he just texts me randomly in the middle of the night saying that she's done this and that again and he's tired and annoyed and we talk about it for a few hours.

Except that, recently, they broke up. Well, she dumped him. :( And the first 2 weeks were hell for him. But I was there. We would be texting LITERALLY not even exaggerating over 10 hours a day because I was seriously worried about him and he was very depressed and he even said to me a couple of times that if I wasn't there for him he doesn't know what he would've done to himself.

But now things have changed.

He has clearly gotten over her (I think?) and we've been weird ever since. It's been since Sunday night that we haven't REALLY talked or texted. We talked a few times since then but it was nothing. And of course he has a new best friend who just knows everything. I mean, the guy came up to me out of the blue and randomly started a conversation about the ex-girlfriend. I was like how the hell do you even know about her!!

I am very annoyed, and actually more sad than annoyed. I know that the two of them are getting very close and they're just talking all the time and hanging out, while I feel like I've been pushed to the side. I know "it happens" and friends drift apart but I don't think I'm honestly strong enough to handle it. I miss him so much and I can't even tell him why he's being a little distant because I can just imagine his reaction: "no what the hell you talking about? there's nothing wrong, we're cool" and I think that would hurt me even more.


Sorry for the rant. Just really needed to get this off my chest.

Ellie_J
April 30th, 2013, 08:39 AM
The feeling of losing a close friend must be one of the worst feelings in existence. Perhaps he just needs a little space though, give him a chance to find himself, especially as he may still be just emotionally recovering from his relationship. Try and accept the other friend, and get to know them as your friend too. It is hard to accept that he has another close friend but you should try and be supportive of it. Showing resentment or jealousy towards the other guy could cause issues in your friendship. It sounds like it is really bothering you though, perhaps a conversation to see where you still stand is needed? Otherwise, you sound like a great person and I'm sure you could find another friend if he decides to continues to push you away.

teen.jpg
April 30th, 2013, 07:36 PM
You probably need to try to find other friends, because that's a very unhealthy relationship.

FergusDunn
May 1st, 2013, 05:36 PM
Maybe ask yourself - are you letting yourself be pushed aside? is it maybe that you did not share the same friends or is it just this new guy is someone different for your mate to speak to - Perhaps your friend feels he has burdened you a bit?

Okay over to you time - maybe you can suggest a few things to do - together or even try and join in a bit - yeah you dont like the other guys - you have made that clear - but its not for you to judge - try and get a few more friends maybe it is just time to move on -

photojared
June 27th, 2013, 11:34 AM
you just need to give yourself space and if at worst just cut him out of your life

crepesuzette
June 27th, 2013, 09:46 PM
I feel just the way you do. I wish I could have just as much luck as my friend

jaxian rhyder
June 27th, 2013, 10:02 PM
He probly just wants more than 1 opinion w his problems