Why do girls go for guys with muscles and not normal guys?

[clueless_one]

I've noticed this just recently. When I look around my school, the guys who play sports and go to the gym almost all have girlfriends from the school. Also the guys who play sports and go to the gym are the ones that bully me the most. The question is why?

I'm a normal structured guy. Quite thin and lost a heap of weight out of the blue even though i'm eating a suitable amount of food. I do some fitness activities like push ups, jogging and running (usually if i'm going to school or late to class :P).

But girls, Why do you go for guys with muscles or who play sports and go to the gym and not normal guys? :(

[Elysium]

Biology, partly. Girls will look for the mate best suited to protect her and their offspring. It's a survival instinct.

That's obviously not the entire reason, though. A lot of it has to do with personality, both the girls and the guys. Personally, I wouldn't really go for guys like that, but that depends.

[xyzB4D-W0LF]

False.
You haven't seen good girls yet. that's too much a cliche

[clueless_one]

Biology, partly. Girls will look for the mate best suited to protect her and their offspring. It's a survival instinct.

That's obviously not the entire reason, though. A lot of it has to do with personality, both the girls and the guys. Personally, I wouldn't really go for guys like that, but that depends.

Well shouldn't they go for someone who is at the end more caring so that the guy will be a good role model for their child in the future and not risk being hurt by a guy who is more stronger.

:confused:

False.
You haven't seen good girls yet. that's too much a cliche

Really well form where i'm from more teenage girls are with fit guys who have muscles.

[xyzB4D-W0LF]

then I guess use another tallent. I make music, draw, cook... (jack of all trades)

[Ryhanna]

Why do some guys go for girls with big boobs? They just like it. Muscles are a defining aspect of masculinity, and a lot of girls are attracted to them.

[clueless_one]

then I guess use another tallent. I make music, draw, cook... (jack of all trades)

Really, I enjoy cooking, music. Still nothing.

Why do some guys go for girls with big boobs? They just like it. Muscles are a defining aspect of masculinity, and a lot of girls are attracted to them.

Fine then. It's now obvious I'm going to hate my life unless I get muscles.
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[Elysium]

Well shouldn't they go for someone who is at the end more caring so that the guy will be a good role model for their child in the future and not risk being hurt by a guy who is more stronger.

:confused:
A guy can be caring, that's a good trait, but as far as biology is concerned, if a bigger, stronger threat came along, that wouldn't keep her and her children safe, would it? Safety is one of the first instincts in all animals.

[xyzB4D-W0LF]

Create music yourself. I did
http://www.audiotool.com/track/hydra/
http://www.audiotool.com/track/control-jtcje/
http://www.audiotool.com/track/fake/ look at me now?

[clueless_one]

A guy can be caring, that's a good trait, but as far as biology is concerned, if a bigger, stronger threat came along, that wouldn't keep her and her children safe, would it? Safety is one of the first instincts in all animals.

I'm going to go kill myself. Because it appears that I will never be happy in my life due to others more stronger and bigger than me and are bigger A**HOLES to me.

Create music yourself. I did
http://www.audiotool.com/track/hydra/
http://www.audiotool.com/track/control-jtcje/
http://www.audiotool.com/track/fake/ look at me now?

I don't mean making music. Even though I've done a bit of computer work/skills, software coding and stuff like that. But i meant listening and singing to different songs.

[Jess]

Not all girls are like that. I wouldn't care if my boyfriend doesn't have big muscles - all I care is that he's kind, loving, understanding etc

[Ace of Spades]

I'm fairly certain that any girl who is worth your time will care much more about who you are as a person rather than the way you look.

[Elysium]

I'm going to go kill myself. Because it appears that I will never be happy in my life due to others more stronger and bigger than me and are bigger A**HOLES to me.
No need to be dramatic about it! In this day and age, we don't always act upon our baser instincts, and the same principle isn't true for all girls. Yes, I find muscles attractive in general, but I'm not personally attracted to really buff guys. As you get older, there will be girls who prefer you to the jocks.

Oh, and don't let other people determine how happy you are.

[Ryhanna]

Fine then. It's now obvious I'm going to hate my life unless I get muscles.
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That's not what I meant, and you shouldn't feel bad about not having huge muscles. Not all guys are with girls who have humongous boobs, are they? And the girls who don't have huge boobs don't give up on finding love just because of their breast size, do they? It works the same for guys. Don't be so hard yourself. You'll find someone.

[JoeHillsTSD]

It's the same reason why guys are attracted to girls with big boobs and a nice butt or a girl who's curvy. It's a physical attraction. But that is not the only thing they take into consideration

[clueless_one]

That's not what I meant, and you shouldn't feel bad about not having huge muscles. Not all guys are with girls who have humongous boobs, are they? And the girls who don't have huge boobs don't give up on finding love just because of their breast size, do they? It works the same for guys. Don't be so hard yourself. You'll find someone.

I don't care about having muscles or not. Thats the same about girls with big breasts, I seriously don't care. I know I will find someone but the ex-boyfriend of the girl I like now, has muscles. But if she is giving me signs of liking me (which she is) and I follow it, it will lead to what happened in the past where I will feel broken hearted (even if she showed signs of liking me more than friends) though I feel even more positive from the replies below.

I'm fairly certain that any girl who is worth your time will care much more about who you are as a person rather than the way you look.

Not all girls are like that. I wouldn't care if my boyfriend doesn't have big muscles - all I care is that he's kind, loving, understanding etc

[clueless_one]

It's the same reason why guys are attracted to girls with big boobs and a nice butt or a girl who's curvy. It's a physical attraction. But that is not the only thing they take into consideration

Well your wrong about the big boobs and nice butt. I don't care about those characteristics. As long as she looks thin and talks to me nicely I don't care.

[JoeHillsTSD]

Well your wrong about the big boobs and nice butt. I don't care about those characteristics. As long as she looks thin and talks to me nicely I don't care.

You still listed physical features. And most guys are attracted to girls that I described. For example, I don't go after girls based on that description, I actually date smaller girls. But that doesn't mean I'm not attracted to girls with big boobs or a nice ass

[teen.jpg]

Well your wrong about the big boobs and nice butt. I don't care about those characteristics. As long as she looks thin and talks to me nicely I don't care.

Dude, thats a double standard. You're upset because these girls arent attracted to you, but you're being shallow and picking girls based on their body types. Beggars cant be choosers. Thats why you cant find anyone worth your time.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

For the first couple years of high school, I was super skinny; then for the last two years of high school, my metabolism finally caught up with my eating habits, and I became fairly out of shape and overweight. For the past two years however, I've started working out quite intensively, and it has certainly paid off. I lost a ton of weight, and gained some serious muscle... and you know what? The girls love it. It isn't "shallow" when we talk about what body types we find attractive, we can't help that; but girls go for physically attractive guys just as much as WE go after them!

It is TRUE that guys in really good shape are going to be more physically appealing to more women in general, HOWEVER it really isn't the be-all end-all to everything. There are a few things associated with working out that I think are even stronger draws for girls. The main thing being: confidence. When you know you're in good shape, and you know that OTHERS know you're taking good care of yourself, you tend to act differently. Walking taller, meeting people's gaze with steady eye contact etc., it all comes more naturally when you feel better about how you look, and that does tend to happen when you work out.

Now it might seem like all of this is me trying to sell the idea that you "need" to work out; but really the confidence associated with that is what matters. Working out just tends to make that confidence arise more naturally, and easier. Thing is, if you want to turn your situation around, you CAN. I never thought I'd get to be where I am today; but with hard work and dedication it happened. I don't go chasing after girls anymore; instead, they come looking for me! And that's something that anyone can do; if you're envious of these other muscular guys, then you can make a lifestyle change just like they did, if it matters enough to you.

[clueless_one]

Dude, thats a double standard. You're upset because these girls arent attracted to you, but you're being shallow and picking girls based on their body types. Beggars cant be choosers. Thats why you cant find anyone worth your time.

I said I DON'T CARE about how they look. The girls I like are attracted to me, they even say that i'm a good friend and like me as a friend. So they are attracted to me. What I don't know is why are they showing signs of liking me when they look at me as a friend. If now I don't have anyone there is no reason living cause currently i'm alone (being an only child) and I will be alone in the future because all girls look at how a guy looks. :mad:

[clueless_one]

For the first couple years of high school, I was super skinny; then for the last two years of high school, my metabolism finally caught up with my eating habits, and I became fairly out of shape and overweight. For the past two years however, I've started working out quite intensively, and it has certainly paid off. I lost a ton of weight, and gained some serious muscle... and you know what? The girls love it. It isn't "shallow" when we talk about what body types we find attractive, we can't help that; but girls go for physically attractive guys just as much as WE go after them!

It is TRUE that guys in really good shape are going to be more physically appealing to more women in general, HOWEVER it really isn't the be-all end-all to everything. There are a few things associated with working out that I think are even stronger draws for girls. The main thing being: confidence. When you know you're in good shape, and you know that OTHERS know you're taking good care of yourself, you tend to act differently. Walking taller, meeting people's gaze with steady eye contact etc., it all comes more naturally when you feel better about how you look, and that does tend to happen when you work out.

Now it might seem like all of this is me trying to sell the idea that you "need" to work out; but really the confidence associated with that is what matters. Working out just tends to make that confidence arise more naturally, and easier. Thing is, if you want to turn your situation around, you CAN. I never thought I'd get to be where I am today; but with hard work and dedication it happened. I don't go chasing after girls anymore; instead, they come looking for me! And that's something that anyone can do; if you're envious of these other muscular guys, then you can make a lifestyle change just like they did, if it matters enough to you.

I do work out. Now your making me feel like I HAVE TO BE FIT and have MUSCLES. I'm already confident in myself and in what ever I do. Just don't understand why girls don't like me for who I am cause i'm myself.

[giofighter]

I think the only solution for the guys that don't have muscles is this,start exercising more instead of just asking yourself all the time.If you want to have muscles start using this program

- 1 set of 20 Push-Ups
- 15 seconds resting
- 1 set of 20 Push-Ups
- 15 seconds resting
- 1 set of 20 Push-Ups

Now,if you have a horizontal bar it's even better.Instead of doing the last set of Push-Ups do 1 set of 10 Pull-Ups.

This is what i do to keep in fit.But i am also being trained to Kick Boxing,Muai-Thai,Street Fighting etc. for about 10 years.PLEASE FOLLOW THIS PROGRAM I GAVE YOU GUYS PLEASEEEEEE!! IT REALLY WORKS!

[ThatCanadianGuy]

I do work out. Now your making me feel like I HAVE TO BE FIT and have MUSCLES. I'm already confident in myself and in what ever I do. Just don't understand why girls don't like me for who I am cause i'm myself.

Already confident in yourself? Doesn't seem like it, if you're complaining all the time: "why don't girls like meeee???" If any of the girls you're interested in can pick up on that attitude coming from you, then you're just shooting yourself in the foot. I'm not trying to be antagonistic (maybe just a bit of tough love?) but these posts reek of desperation, and girls simply will not find that attractive in a guy. You have your whole life ahead of you; don't waste this time being completely preoccupied with having a girlfriend and not "being alone". You life certainly isn't always going to be like it is right now; but worrying about it all the time is only going to make it harder for you to succeed one day.

I think I'm taking a harsher approach here, just because these sentiments kind of remind me of myself when I was in high school. For several years I literally thought: "No girls like me, they never will, and I'll always be alone!". As a result, I WAS alone for most of my time in high school and didn't make any progress in the romance department until I finally got over myself and figured out I was being unrealistic. Don't be like I was; focus your time and effort into becoming a more well-rounded person; know who you are and the kind of person you want to become. When you truly start to believe in your own worth INDEPENDENT of other people, the ladies will start to notice. They'll see someone who is truly confident in who they are and what they want out of life, and they'll gravitate towards that. You say you're already confident in yourself, but these earlier posts lead me to think otherwise; and that's probably the case too with all these girls you like. Similarly though, they will take notice if you replace the moping with self-determination and a strong work ethic to better yourself. How old are you anyway? I didn't my first girlfriend until the very END of high school, right before prom; and only then it was because I started to look like a guy who had his own "complete" life and didn't feel like a foreveralone.jpg

[teen.jpg]

I said I DON'T CARE about how they look. The girls I like are attracted to me, they even say that i'm a good friend and like me as a friend. So they are attracted to me. What I don't know is why are they showing signs of liking me when they look at me as a friend. If now I don't have anyone there is no reason living cause currently i'm alone (being an only child) and I will be alone in the future because all girls look at how a guy looks. :mad:

See, now you're just being dramatic. If you sit there and mope and complain, no girl will like you for that. But if you act like yourself and you're confident, you should find someone for you.

And maybe those girls don't like you the way you think they do.

[Synyster Shadows]

And maybe those girls don't like you the way you think they do.

Possible. They might only think you're a good friend.

[clueless_one]

Know what. None of you are any help. Your just making my life even more crap. Someone delete this thread. When I say delete it I mean DELETE IT. This has caused me nothing but trouble. Everyone pushing me to be fit, i'd rather commit suicide and I've had feelings of doing so in the past of bullies. Now I'm sure to do it. I am an only child, does anyone know how F***ing hard it is to be an only child all alone everyday with people bullying me and making my life worse. I was wrong about my life in the future, maybe I will end my life. So long crap world... :mad: :( :cry:

[xmojox]

Know what. None of you are any help. Your just making my life even more crap. Someone delete this thread. When I say delete it I mean DELETE IT. This has caused me nothing but trouble. Everyone pushing me to be fit, i'd rather commit suicide and I've had feelings of doing so in the past of bullies. Now I'm sure to do it. I am an only child, does anyone know how F***ing hard it is to be an only child all alone everyday with people bullying me and making my life worse. I was wrong about my life in the future, maybe I will end my life. So long crap world... :mad: :( :cry:

I hope you will bother to read this. First, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, so PLEASE don't do that.

Second, don't worry so much about what others have and you don't, because I promise you, there are things you have that they don't.

Just as you don't mind so much about a girl's physical appearance, so are there girls who don't worry so much about a boy's physical appearance. If you like that girl and she seems to like you then GO FOR IT. If you don't try because you're worried about being hurt, you'll never do anything.

I wish you luck and happiness.

[Deleted 12]

Most girls want a guy who makes them feel secure..... it doesnt matter if you are skinny, average, buff, it matters WHO you are

[ThatCanadianGuy]

I hope you will bother to read this. First, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem, so PLEASE don't do that.

Second, don't worry so much about what others have and you don't, because I promise you, there are things you have that they don't.

Just as you don't mind so much about a girl's physical appearance, so are there girls who don't worry so much about a boy's physical appearance. If you like that girl and she seems to like you then GO FOR IT. If you don't try because you're worried about being hurt, you'll never do anything.

I wish you luck and happiness.

I couldn't agree more with this sentiment.

I'm sorry if things I've said came across as insensitive or disregarding how you feel about all this, its just that your situation reminds me of MYSELF a whole lot. I'm an only child too, and during high school I had only a few close male friends, and no close female friends at all. I was absolutely terrified about approaching girls to flirt or ask them out; all I could think about was the possibility of them rejecting me. I thought asking a girl out, and having her say "no" would literally feel like the end of the world. But because I never had the courage to even TRY, nothing ever happened.... and that was much worse!

The only reason I was able to get a girlfriend right at the end of high school (the last month of grade 12; just before my 18th birthday) was because the girl asked ME out to prom, and we started dating after that. From what I've said before, I just want you to be able to have a better time of things than I did. You may have heard "it gets way better at college" and I guarantee you that's true, but if you're still in high school you have tons of time to get a girlfriend or just have fun being around girls in general.

You definitely do not need to get "super jacked" like some of the meathead jocks in order to attract women; girls that just go for guys like that are probably shallow and you don't want anything to do with them anyway. I do encourage a healthy lifestyle of course, because it does benefit both your health and your self-confidence, but it is not the bottom line. The bottom line is, you need to be secure and comfortable in your own skin, no matter how you look; if you honestly can feel good about yourself, then girls WILL notice that. I've even seen my fair share of chubby/overweight guys here at university who have incredibly beautiful girlfriends, because these quality girls were attracted to the confidence that those guys projected into the world.

It's true, I am reasonably fit now; even to the point that girls ask me if I'm on the football team.... I'm NOT. I absolutely suck at sports, and I'm properly nerdy; my physical appearance leads them to believe I'm a jock though. But back in high school, the jocks used to bully me for YEARS. I would go home some days and lock myself in my room just to cry. But that all changed even before I started working out. It changed when I made the choice in my mind to realize that their hateful words meant NOTHING. These assholes are utterly useless to your life, and they do not matter a single bit. Your life is all about how you choose to be, and they can never take your worth away from you. Years later, when you look back on high school, you'll wonder why they even mattered at all. Also, if you think these douchebags are "popular" now, just you wait. They've already hit their social peak.... it's all downhill for them now. As for you, you can expect a steady upward climb in social value as you learn to appreciate your own self-worth and add value to others by giving them the positive presence of your company.

Good luck, kid.

[abbie]

actually i dont! i don't like been witjh guys who fncy themselves i prefer quiet skinny guys not show-offs.:cool: