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max041299
April 22nd, 2013, 06:07 AM
Ever since I was young, I had moved to different schools many times, so keeping friends was difficult. Last year, I met this girl. She liked me, but I thought she came on too strong. So, we became friends, and eventually best friends. We would talk on the phone for at least 8 hours a day on average. This went on for a few months. She dated people, I dated people, it was nothing. As I got to know her more and more, I began to fall for her. I told her how I felt and she rejected me. We remained close. I took some false signs and told her again, and she again rejected me. We suddenly stopped talking. A month ago, she told me that she was tired of losing friends (we got into high school) and wanted us to start talking again. We never followed through. I have a lot of people I would consider myself acquaintances with, but I have never felt the connection like I did with her. I am really tired of having no one to talk to, and I want to start talking with her again, not to be her boyfriend, but to be her friend. If eventually, we become more, I will be happy, but right now I just want that person to talk to. It's hard for me to open up to people, so I think she was my only chance of having a true friend. Right now, she has a boyfriend, a kid I know who is extremely nice to me, and I don't want her, or him, to think I am trying to get with her. I just want to know how to get as close as we used to be.

Please help, ANY responses will be useful.

Ellie_J
April 30th, 2013, 09:06 AM
I think you should tell her how you feel about your friendship. Let her know that you would like to be her close friend again. You should also try getting to know some of your acquaintances better and to make other friends. Just remember that if she has a boyfriend you probably won't be able to get as close to her as you were before

FergusDunn
May 1st, 2013, 05:40 PM
seems like it s kinda this - do not try and be her friend and hope for more -
be her friend and make the moves - like you say you never followed thru - so you got to make it happen - just tell her how it is for you -