Anxiety
April 20th, 2013, 10:59 PM
I have a co worker, who is also my best friend.
We've only known each other for six months, he was the first person I met at work and since then we've been inseparable. We hang out as often as our schedules allow, and everyone at work is convinced we're dating.
Thing is, he's been in a long distance relationship for a year. He's embarrassed of being in a relationship with someone he's never met, and so he doesn't tell anyone at work, which is why we can't come up with a solid reason to co workers that we're not dating.
We made out once, and the next day he told me we should stop, yet in further days he would continue to touch me sexually, mainly my breasts, nothing hard core just a little feeling, not like it makes a difference..I asked him last week why he would do that if he has a girlfriend and his response was "I forgot what it feels like to be held and touched by someone, that it's hard to hold back" but he said this has never happened with him and another girl, and he's a terrible liar so I believe him.
Tonight, he told me he was going to break up with her. He said she hasn't talked to him in 4 days, (not the other way around, he'll text her every day and she wont respond for days) which isn't unnatural for their relationship, but the last time they spoke he asked her if she still wanted to be in a relationship with him and she replied that sometimes she thinks they should break up, but there's still a "Small" part of her that thinks they should be together, so he figures since there are so many problems in their relationship, she's halfway across the country and the fact that they've never met, that it's better to just walk away.
My mom thinks, because he isn't saying he wants to date me (he said when we first met he would date me if the circumstances were different, aka if he didn't have a girlfriend, but he hasn't said that for months) that he's just playing games, which is making me paranoid..Then again she's also convinced he's gay because he "Hasn't made a move yet" but she doesn't know the whole story, because she'd outcast him if she knew..
My mom is just making me confused as to what he really wants, because before I started telling her things about him, I saw both the good and bad in him, but now I'm starting to think he's the person my mom sees and not the person I originall saw him as..
Insight on what his intentions could possibly be?
We've only known each other for six months, he was the first person I met at work and since then we've been inseparable. We hang out as often as our schedules allow, and everyone at work is convinced we're dating.
Thing is, he's been in a long distance relationship for a year. He's embarrassed of being in a relationship with someone he's never met, and so he doesn't tell anyone at work, which is why we can't come up with a solid reason to co workers that we're not dating.
We made out once, and the next day he told me we should stop, yet in further days he would continue to touch me sexually, mainly my breasts, nothing hard core just a little feeling, not like it makes a difference..I asked him last week why he would do that if he has a girlfriend and his response was "I forgot what it feels like to be held and touched by someone, that it's hard to hold back" but he said this has never happened with him and another girl, and he's a terrible liar so I believe him.
Tonight, he told me he was going to break up with her. He said she hasn't talked to him in 4 days, (not the other way around, he'll text her every day and she wont respond for days) which isn't unnatural for their relationship, but the last time they spoke he asked her if she still wanted to be in a relationship with him and she replied that sometimes she thinks they should break up, but there's still a "Small" part of her that thinks they should be together, so he figures since there are so many problems in their relationship, she's halfway across the country and the fact that they've never met, that it's better to just walk away.
My mom thinks, because he isn't saying he wants to date me (he said when we first met he would date me if the circumstances were different, aka if he didn't have a girlfriend, but he hasn't said that for months) that he's just playing games, which is making me paranoid..Then again she's also convinced he's gay because he "Hasn't made a move yet" but she doesn't know the whole story, because she'd outcast him if she knew..
My mom is just making me confused as to what he really wants, because before I started telling her things about him, I saw both the good and bad in him, but now I'm starting to think he's the person my mom sees and not the person I originall saw him as..
Insight on what his intentions could possibly be?