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Britanian11
April 20th, 2013, 09:25 PM
This probably goes hand in hand with the next thread I am about to make, but I split them up because I felt it would get to long and complicated as one post.

Back in eleventh grade, I met this really awesome teacher who I was forunate enough to have for two classes, one of which was an AP Course. I did really well in the class, and I always thought that this teacher and I had a really good relationship. I would always go to her for advice or about my personal problems and she was always happy to listen and offer advice. She was really nice, and a really great teacher. One of the assignments she gave our class one day was to write about an event in our past. She already knew about my painful past and instead of making me write it, she gave me an exception on the condition that I spend my time in class working on my novel, which she knew I would.

About half way through the year, through a series of events, I decided to take up cyber school for the remainder of the year. On the day I told her this, she told to me email her every week and expressed how sad she was to see me go.

I had similar relationships with many other teachers in my school, though none I think as successful as this one.

Now, as a result of certain actions on my part, I was removed from public school and placed into alternative education. While I argue harshly that my actions did not justify that, that isn't what this is about. While I there, I tried very hard to return to my high school and 90% of the reason for this was because I wanted to see my teachers again.

While there, I fell into a depressed and hopeless state and wrote thank you letters to three of my teachers, including the one I began with, to express how much I appreciated what they did for me and to say goodbye. None of them responded to me. Not only this, but each refused to write me a letter of recommendation to college or even allow me to use them as references. This I found, and still do find, very hard to believe and it convinced me that my teachers were never forwarded my requests and were instructed not to speak to me.

Awhile back I wrote to the superintendent of my district about the situation and how I wanted back into my school. While I was not allowed to return to my school, he did authorize me to be able to graduate early because of my academic achievements. At the meeting to discuss my graduation, I requested to speak with this teacher. I was informed that my previous assumption, that they were not allowed to speak to me, was wrong. They were never instructed anything of the sort. The principal of my school did assure me however that my request to speak with her would be brought to her attention, and she would be provided with my new email address.

As everything comes together, I am getting some serious conflicting messages. I feel like there is some piece of the puzzle I am missing and my teachers have it. I'm feeling really betrayed, upset, angry and mislead right now. I simply don't know what to think. I need advice.

Thanks for reading.

Britanian11
May 3rd, 2013, 07:25 PM
I would really appreciate various people's opinions on this issue. This is a serious issue for me.

naglfari
May 3rd, 2013, 08:25 PM
Call one of them maybe?

endorfin
May 6th, 2013, 05:13 PM
You have to learn to find strength in yourself. It's a teachers job to help you regardless of liking you and you should be happy that you had a teacher who fulfilled their role properly. Most teachers I've had were straight-edge losers who thought they could sum up the world they never experienced in a single phrase. Their pretentiousness and bias was reflected in their marking and their advice was always condescending. This is typical of people who are payed to teach. Remember that the greatest teachers are your friends.