my boyfriend

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my boyfriend likes to do weed and alcohol (especially when hes with his family)but hes not as bad as he use to. i understand doing it every once in a while but i really would love it for him to stop doing these things. its messing him up and i dont like talking to him like that. i want to tell him to stop and we talked about it he said he calmed down but he seems as if he wants to do it. i dont want to upset him i just would rather him calm down cuz hes been doing weed and stuff for a LONG TIME... and it messing up his heart and i just worry about him im scared for him :( what should i do i want him to be ok.

[kolte]

I know this is the last thing that you want to here. But just let him live his life. Thats just the person he is and if you want him to quit then you asking him to change and thats somthing he can just drop. It may take time and care. Just tell him that you feel bad when he abuses the durgs and for him to not do them around you. Then at least you and he are together without the durgs.

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yeah ur absolutely right

every once in a while im cool w/ but i know that hes pretty messed up cause of it physically (and its good hes keeping in shape with sports) but its just scary. i dont want him to hurt himself. the most ill do is talk to him about it. which i do already..
i cant say i dont do drugs i do like once or twice a month or something...
but ur so right. if thats what he wants to do.. i cant force him into something else. just as long as hes ok and wont hurt me or anybody. especially himself

[<-Dying_to_Live->]

and if he does start hurting himself? ull just let him live his life out wont u :/

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no :(
i cant do that..
but what else can i do?
i dont want to FORCE him into stop drugging. i want him to calm down ALOT... before anything gets worse

[Elokyn]

you need to CALMLY talk to him.....there's only so much you can do but honestly if he cares about you as much as you care about him he would stop...even if he didnt give a shit about himself he would do it for you. he should do it for you. Don't lecture him..that's the last thing you need to do...dont tell him the effects dont try to explain that...just tell him why you're worried. again, don't lecture..talk. Let him know how much it bothers you. I stress not makin it sound like lecture because I know..not from drugs but other things and stuff when people try to lecture you out of it you tend to get rebelious is all. I wish you luck :hug:

~Nykole

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thank you elokyn :)
dang i always spell ekolyn i dont know why. my typing sucks lol

edit::
i love ur pic :) ur pretty

[serial-thrilla]

it would probably be hard for him to just stop. maybe suggest for him to do it less often as a start

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yeah thats what i mean by calming down..which he has been doing :)

[CrAzY-TBonE]

well thats good :) best of luck

[blue_berry_icecream]

I almost had the same problem with my ex he smokes alot of weed because he gets it for free he does it every night I just had to let him live his life because I couldn't tell him what to do with it.But the problem was weed also split us up.

[<-Dying_to_Live->]

if he doesnt stop on his own u have to be the better person and get help for him

[serial-thrilla]

i think if it becomes an occasional thing there nothing to worry about

[<-Dying_to_Live->]

smoking weed and drinking alcohol on an occasional basis arent very good matt :/

[serial-thrilla]

well no its not good but it could definatly be worse. i think if he enjoys it and does it every once in awhile its not a big deal.

[Elokyn]

well this was more than a month ago now, any updates with your bf on this matter?

[dmeek7]

well start out telling him that you dont like it then if he says he will trie to stop then tell him youll help him get through it with him. start by breaking down slightly and if he lights one up then only let him smoke have of it. then if he gets better at that then tell him he can only smoke a quarter of it. and so on and so on. if he does that and he is calm about not smoking and drinking then give him a reward maybe a long kiss(with a clean mouth) or maybe a date. by i ve done my work