bf wants me to squirt

[Twizzler]

so heres my problem...my bf saw girls squirting in porn videos and he wants to make me do that when he fingers me because its hot or a boys job to make us orgasm hard or something. anyways, ive never actually done that before with him or by myself, so im uncomfortable because its new like i don't know what to expect and i sometimes start to feel like im not satisfying him when i cant because i feel like hes disappointed for thinking he didn't do well
So here are my questions:
Is it possible to control it when i orgasm or help it happen like a special way to do it or something?
what about the feeling it causes?
Is it really as messy as it is in videos?
If he admits hes only seen it in porn, is it even normal to expect that from a real girl/non-actress?

Thanks
sorry if its tmi

[Taryn98]

Most girls can never accomplish it in their entire life, so there's not really a way for him to make you squirt. Unless you know that you can from masturbating, it's not likely that you can do it. Feel free to try all you want but it doesn't just magically happen.

[Wanderer_]

Tell him to grow up and stop watching so much porn and tell him you don't want him to treat you like you are one of those sluts with a limited shelf life
Tell him you are happy with what you do together and that squirting is nothing you care about and that it's gross and messy anyway

Actually, just get a new bf, he sounds poor quality if he wants you to be a porn chick

[TinyDancer]

Most of those porn videos are fake. Peeing is not the same as squirting and is just plain gross. Not a good example to follow.

[kayleethegray]

I find squirting sexy to watch, but I know it's unrealistic. If you really feel like you have to squirt for him, drink a ton of water all day, so when you orgasm, you can just release really light colored piss.

[NotShortButFunsized]

yeah I agree with everyone else, I cant, so I just think its a normal thing whether you can or cant.
tell him making you squirt isn't the only way to do a good job and you enjoy it a lot whether you can do it or not since he sounds like he's using it like a measuring stick for how successful he is
I wont tell you to leave him if you're in love because that's your decision, but take a look at how the overall relationship is going if he expects you to be like a personal pornstar. he should accept and enjoy you the way you are not expect an impossible standard from you

[abbie]

All those stoopid movies are fake, anyone should know that (even your b/f). :O

[Anxiety]

Tell him to grow up and stop watching so much porn and tell him you don't want him to treat you like you are one of those sluts with a limited shelf life
Tell him you are happy with what you do together and that squirting is nothing you care about and that it's gross and messy anyway

Actually, just get a new bf, he sounds poor quality if he wants you to be a porn chick

^ this

He sounds really immature. Unless he's 12, he should understand that not everyone can do what pornstars do. And even at that - I have had a ton of female friends come and go in the past year alone, with lots of gossip. and through the 35+ friends I have had that talked in sexual detail with me, and the probably 60+ girls they talked to me about, I only heard of one being able to squirt. And the reason I heard about her was because her boyfriend broke up with her because she squirts during sex and he thought i was weird and all the other girls thought it was hilarious.

it's just a fetish, and probably a temporary one. Most guys don't think it's cool when a girl squirts, at least the guys I've talked to.

[graci]

hey there this is my first post lol :) squirting is actually pretty easy if you get the technique down lol just look up how to vids thats how i learn but if it is something you are not comfortable with doing it then you need to talk to your bf about it and plus at your age it is prolly unrealistic anyways. hope this helped C:

[RealWorldGirl]

Hey Girl,

I can understand why most of the above are telling you leave him BUT I can also see why you wanna please him and play out his fantasies.

With the squirting thing, actually only 10% of girls can do it - and that's when their G-spot is hit properly... so first you need a great lover or some good quality masturbation!

If u think that you can't / don't wanna do it - tell him to go find some other girl if he wants it so bad... and if he does, whatttadick and if not, he'll get over it :)

X

[kitten13]

fuck him and i'm talking about as in sex. tell him take you as you are and go buy a porn dvd. for the rest.

[giggles2]

He should treat you much better than that.

[Sharona]

What a loser - tell him you don't want him to squirt and see if he can control that

[GigglyAbby]

I agree that it's not that common and he needs to know that porn is likely enhanced or edited. If he can't accept you for you or you feel pressured by him -- then maybe it's time to send him fishing.

[Maria_Lopez]

^ the reason I heard about her was because her boyfriend broke up with her because she squirts during sex and he thought i was weird and all the other girls thought it was hilarious.

I agree with what everyone is saying about it being stupid that the BF is wanting this or causing her any concern if she is unable to do it. You shouldn't even be trying to do this unless you desire it.

however, this statement above hurts my feelings a lot. It is possible that this girl was part of that small percent and was unable to control whether she squirts and is now made fun of. This is sad to me.

I know for me I am a squirter. I have been since I started to have real orgasms. When I do squirt I can't control it at all. It just is happening if I orgasm. I become so embarrassed by it that it was a part of what made me move toward being with girls. I never try to do it or force it. It just happens to me. So to hear that I am gross or discussing because of this makes me sad. I just want to say this. :(

[candi]

Tell him to be happy with what he is getting and tell him if he can stop squirting you will try to squirt that should shut him up

[CassieWTF]

Tell your boyfreind that what he sees in porn is bullshit, all that they are doing is pissing. that should clue him in that you can't just squirt because he wants you to. But if you think the truth is too fucking much for him to take, just drink a shitload of water, and piss on him when he fingers you. If he can't tell that it's fucking fake from porn, he probablty won't know it was fake from you either.

[giggles2]

I agree with what everyone is saying about it being stupid that the BF is wanting this or causing her any concern if she is unable to do it. You shouldn't even be trying to do this unless you desire it.

however, this statement above hurts my feelings a lot. It is possible that this girl was part of that small percent and was unable to control whether she squirts and is now made fun of. This is sad to me.

I know for me I am a squirter. I have been since I started to have real orgasms. When I do squirt I can't control it at all. It just is happening if I orgasm. I become so embarrassed by it that it was a part of what made me move toward being with girls. I never try to do it or force it. It just happens to me. So to hear that I am gross or discussing because of this makes me sad. I just want to say this. :(
I am so sorry that you feel sad! It is not gross at all and is something special that you can do! Don't feel bad at all! You have helped me so much by the way! Thanks!

[Anxiety]

I agree with what everyone is saying about it being stupid that the BF is wanting this or causing her any concern if she is unable to do it. You shouldn't even be trying to do this unless you desire it.

however, this statement above hurts my feelings a lot. It is possible that this girl was part of that small percent and was unable to control whether she squirts and is now made fun of. This is sad to me.

I know for me I am a squirter. I have been since I started to have real orgasms. When I do squirt I can't control it at all. It just is happening if I orgasm. I become so embarrassed by it that it was a part of what made me move toward being with girls. I never try to do it or force it. It just happens to me. So to hear that I am gross or discussing because of this makes me sad. I just want to say this. :(
I just want to make it clear, I don't think squirting is weird or anything, to each their own, right? I've just never met a guy who liked squirting. Until now.
My boyfriend is cool with squirting, and even likes it but he doesn't mind that I can't. A lot of people are really picky in the bedroom, he's one of the few I know that isn't.
I'm really sorry my statement made you upset :(

[Sharona]

Ditched that loser yet?

[KrystalBear98]

don't let him force you into doing something you don't want to do. in my opinion, I think it's kinda gross that some girls can squirt

[Luminous]

Tell him that you can't do it, just be honest, who knows maybe he'll take it really well. I think it's hot when a girl does it but idc if she can't.

[teenyweeny]

Okay, once you really got the blood flowing it’s time for some good G-Spot stimulation. Now where is that dreaded thing? Easy, it’s on top of the vaginal wall. If you were to put one hand on the female pubic area and with the other try to touch the palm of your hand from inside the vagina you have the area of that G-Spot. By stimulating this area (that means just touching it) there will build up a spongey knob and that’s the actual G-Spot.

This may sound complicated in text but it’s really no rocket science. Further stimulation of this spongey tissue will feel very good to the woman and if you did everything right and you got the right bloodflow going, the coming orgasm will wet bedsheets.

When stimulating the G-Spot you ought to be quite rough. There’s not much to fear, the vaginal area was build to resist very strong stimulation and going to weak on the process won’t bring any results. And next thing you know, you are back on the internet and searching for even more information on how to squirt when you were actually really close. Inside of there there’s no need to be very romantic. You need a strong stimulus to achieve a strong response. But make sure your fingernails are cut!

[princesscutie]

Is it possible to control it when i orgasm or help it happen like a special way to do it or something? No, you can control it. It just comes out in gushes.

What about the feeling it causes? Its very sensitive in which your whole body twitches into a big orgasm.

Is it really as messy as it is in videos? Yes, its very messy.

If he admits hes only seen it in porn, is it even normal to expect that from a real girl/non-actress? No, most girls cant squirt. They can try but it wont happen.

Note: Tell your boyfriend stop watching porn and stop seeing if you can do the same thing she does in the video.

[ElliEvens]

Note: Tell your boyfriend stop watching porn and stop seeing if you can do the same thing she does in the video.

Ha, ikr why does your BF want you to do this, or be able to do this, so bad? Seems kinda strange he's asking you for this? Just curious.

[laurakoller0815]

well tell your bf what you think honestly:)