he's getting a little too close

[mynameisjane]

i've been hanging around this one friend of mine more, and lately it seems as though he's kinda flirting with me. like i put up my hood and he says, "jane looks sexy with her hood up, doesnt she?" or he walked up behind me today and starts giving me a backrub and says, "jane smells good". but he has a girlfriend, and theyve been together for almost a year and theyre in love. and he says stuff like, "if i didnt have a girlfriend, you'd like me, wouldnt you?" but of course i looked him in the eyes and said, "no, i wouldnt". but lately ive started feeling kinda attracted to him just because my self esteem has been kinda low lately and hes making me feel good about myself. i havent flirted back at all, aside from letting him give me a backrub i guess, but im wondering if i should tell him to back off, or if its just harmless flirting?

[Gumleaf]

if this continues, then i would suggest making it clear to him that you don't appreciate his flirting. this could get messy if his girlfriend found out, even if there really isn't anything going on.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Yeah, I agree with Trigger. Its best to let him know now that you dont feel the same way he does

[Serenity]

Yeah you def need to make it clear that whatever feelings either of you have for each other, he has a gf. He needs to respect the girl he's dating and he needs to respect you- ie not flirting behind her back and not leading you on. You don't want to be the "other woman" and you don't want to be the "man stealer" so yeah you need to let him down.

[mynameisjane]

okay. thanks :]

[blank_07]

Back off def. This guy seems like he wants YOU, not his girl. He should think about how the other girl feels before he comes on to you.