i know i shouldnt be jelous but...

[XdaneyO]

So my bf of 8 months has an obession with a model. I understand that that is completely normal for a guy to have but it just annoys me so much! he tells me about dreams he has with her all the time, how he stares at her pictures, and how hot she is. I know this shouldn't annoy me but it does so much!! i understand that in real life he will never get with her, and he knows that it annoys me but just keeps doing it! i cant have a conversation with him about it becuase hell just think its my jelousy acting up which causes us a lot of problems...
Soo how can i convince myself that this model is nothing to him!?

[Hyper]

What? bs.. IT SHOULD annoy you..

If you're his girl he shouldn't be fantasizing about some other woman..

And most of all telling you about it..

[XdaneyO]

so what do i say to him then

[MAXD88]

Ugh, if this was my gf I would be really upset :(

Idk what sort of person your bf is, but I think he dosen't love you that deeply if he can have such a strong interest in another person. However, if your really into this person (and you probably are after 8 months) you might want to try reminding him why he likes you. Be subtle about it so he dosen't get the wrong idea.

[Lifesreject]

Yer a mean every teen guy has their fantasies thats just part of life but man they shunt talk to their gf about it. I would want to have a serious talk with him if i was you. Tell him all though you understand hes a guy n they do have fantasies you would just rather not here about them. And if he talks about jelously just give him some sort of ultimatum.

[XdaneyO]

nonoonono by model i mean a supermodel

[need_of_help]

just tell him how you feel and try to be as calm and as nice as you can when you tell him

[mynameisjane]

i agree with princesseyes, next time he brings her up, you should talk to him seriously and give him an ultimatum, because you should never put up with your boyfriend saying stuff to make you feel less attractive than another girl.

[Gumleaf]

i agree with princesseyes, next time he brings her up, you should talk to him seriously and give him an ultimatum, because you should never put up with your boyfriend saying stuff to make you feel less attractive than another girl.


couldn't agree more. i think its ok to have fantasies and what ever, but i don't think its ok to be obsessed.

[Serenity]

couldn't agree more. i think its ok to have fantasies and what ever, but i don't think its ok to be obsessed.

Or talk to your gf about it, thus making her feel inferior. Way not cool.

[XdaneyO]

yea you guys are right...at first i thought it wasn't a big deal but u made me realzie it was....i dont think i'm going to say anything unless he brings her up again...but ty ty all of you!!

[R_master]

I have to disagree with giving him an ultimatum. its probably the worst thing to do in a relationship and only ends in disaster. you should accept your bf for the way he his, or he may begin to resent you.

[Serenity]

There's a difference between accepting someone for who they are and letting them be an asshole without objecting.

[R_master]

well we don't know for a fact hes an asshole.

this is her view which which clearly shows her bias/feelings. she didn't even think it was a big deal until everyone here started saying it was.

sorry that i gtg and don't have much time to finish the reply/stick around. but its like saying to somone they cant follow their role model or be friends with somone jsut because the other party doesnt like him/her

[boeder]

You tell him straight. (whilst being sensitive to his feelings)

Thats the way you can only get through to people

[mynameisjane]

even if he's the nicest guy in the world. i dont anyone should have to accept their boyfriend or girlfriend constantly reminding them that they think this other person is much more attractive.

[Titlacauan]

dump him, he's a douche bag, and the fact that he's talking to u about this shows that he probably thinks of u moar as a friend and is probably "in the closet" because he seems to be trying too hard to be straight.

[lucy_loo]

well you should just sit him down somewhere where you two eill
be alone and tell him how you feel.
You shouldn't be hidding those feelings
from him. Just tell him how you feel. He should understand.

[janman1]

Tell him plain that he doesn't have to say it in your face or talk about her and if he continues, then you would leave cuz it would mean he doesn't love you. If he loves you, then he would stop and if he doesn't then he doesn't care that much. I wont do that to my gf.

[Josh from SoCal]

1. totally normal to fantasize about other people, regardless of relationships or not. even more normal to fantasize about celebrities.

2. total dick to throw it in your face. *maybe* he doesnt realize it and telling him will shock him back into reality. id be kinda angry about it when i confronted him about it. he needs to learn about boundaries. its a douche thing to do and he not only needs to learn to stop that with you but to know that in the future its totally the wrong thing to do.

[Lost in the Echo]

Tell him plain that he doesn't have to say it in your face or talk about her and if he continues, then you would leave cuz it would mean he doesn't love you. If he loves you, then he would stop and if he doesn't then he doesn't care that much. I wont do that to my gf.

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