I'm horrible at talking to girls ...

[cincibearcats11]

I'm going on a cruise this summer and will be going to the teen club, of course. I plan on making some good friends, etc.; but I just can't talk to girls. It's not that I'm scared of rejection, or I get nervous around girs, it's just I don't know what to say. Would you say I should just get used to the people at the club and gradually become friends, or go up to a girl immediately and start a conversation? Explain, please. Talking to girls = rocket science for me (partly because I go to an all guys school...lol).

[Kevin Bacon]

I say just strike up a conversation about random things and eventually you'll find something in common.

[LouBerry]

Don't treat them like they're girls. Just act like they're one of the guys.

[JoeHillsTSD]

First off, avoid word-vomit. That's when things are said without being thought outand you say them just for the sake of saying them. Try to not force a conversation, because word vomit will be the product.

Talking to girls is not hard; there are thousands of topics to choose from. Pick one and discuss it. Being on the cruise is a great topic, because it is something you both can have in common and can branch to other topics (the activities you done, where you're from, your past experiences with cruises, etc).

Don't make the conversation one-sided. She should be doing 80% of the talking do ask her questions that will get her talking.

If you have to, start by talking to any random stranger in the club, preferably a guy. Then if it's successful, go talk to a girl and use the same strategies from the previous conversation

[gipsy danger]

when I talk to girls I point out the little things like eyes, smile, dimples, freckles, and beauty marks and compliment them. and use my magic ice breaker line. "do you know how much a polar bear weight?.... enough to break the ice" :3
and after that it is easy to talk to a girl

[Hank Hill]

First of all, I've never been on a cruise.
Secondly, I didn't know cruises has teen clubs, as I've never been on a cruise.
Thirdly, I'm insanely jealous of you going on a cruise with a teen club. You lucky punk. :D

Anyway, the thing that helped me the most, because at one time I also had an extremely difficult time talking to girls, and I still do sometimes, but the thing that helped me the most was just talking to them with other guys. If you and another guy friend go up to a group of girls, or just a couple girls, and have a group conversation, I think it might make it easier on you because you can talk to the group, or a specific girl in it, or both.

I think that was the biggest confidence builder for me, and once you have more confidence, talking to girls is a LOT easier, trust me!

Hopefully this helps, and good luck on your cruise that has me insanely jealous! :D

~Tyler