Friend situation

[tomfelix]

Ok so I have a friend who came out as gay to me about 2 weeks ago and said I'm the only person he's told, which I posted about when it happened, I was kinda feeling awkward about it, which I still am but I'm getting used to it.

So anyway today I went round his after school as I do all the time and knocked on the door but it no-one answered so I went round the back and climbed up onto his balcony-type thing (I wasn't breaking in, it's just where we chill out) to knock on his window to see if he was there. When I got up there I looked in and HE WAS HAVING SEX WITH A 16YR OLD GUY! so I went back home straight away before they saw me.

So a few questions:

- What the hell do I do? Do I talk to him about it or what?
- If he only came out 2 weeks ago, why is an older guy having sex with him?

I'm just really weirded out by it I don't how to react...

[Rayquaza]

Firstly, what they do is their business, you should pretend like you never saw it and move on. If he chooses to have sex, so be it.

Secondly, how did you know he was 16? He could have been any age, you can't judge by appearance.

If you really want to talk to him, maybe tell him that he shouldn't mess around, but that could really annoy him as you shouldn't have been looking, maybe he's experimenting or enjoying it. Either way, if he think's that's right it's what he'll do. Even if it's at a young age.

[johnsmith1]

Firstly, well done for not openlt talking about him and telling other people at school -that would be a terrible thing to do.
Secondly, unless you know the other person, it may be difficult to know how old the other person was. Assuming the act was willing (and not rape, as I hope you would have got help for your friend at the time if that was the case), then yes it technically is their business.
If you feel the need to talk to him, do it in the same private place as he told you. Take it slow and easy. It may also depend on weather or not, you going round to the balcony like you did, is a normal way for you to go round and speak to him. If you do talk to him, you have to have that understanding in yourself, and the knoledge that he may initially freek out.

[Sph2015]

Look at it this way, if you caught one of your straight friends having sex with a girl, how would you react? If it were me, I'd shrug it off and pretend it didn't happen. It's his life, so it's not my business.

[brodyk15]

Keep it to yourself and appreciate that you friend entrusts you with his "secret"

[Meh Guy]

Firstly, what they do is their business, you should pretend like you never saw it and move on. If he chooses to have sex, so be it.

Secondly, how did you know he was 16? He could have been any age, you can't judge by appearance.

If you really want to talk to him, maybe tell him that he shouldn't mess around, but that could really annoy him as you shouldn't have been looking, maybe he's experimenting or enjoying it. Either way, if he think's that's right it's what he'll do. Even if it's at a young age.

Agreed

[teen.jpg]

Don't bring it up! Just let it go. Probably shouldn't have climbed up to his window in the first place.

[justin 13]

Dude, If I were u, I wont bring it to him. Is his private stuff.

[likemike]

His life is his life dont bring it up unless he does

[FergusDunn]

ok I guess its like this - but well done you for just getting away and respecting thier privacy - so thats cool you accept he is gay and you are a good friend - a really good friend - so just feel you did the right thing and be happy with that.

[xmojox]

He trusts you enough that he told you he's gay, so that must mean that he really trusts you. Good job being such a good friend. If it's bothering you badly, or, if you're worried about him, then, yes, talk to privately and calmly about your feelings and fears. Just be ready to accept that what he tells you is what you have to accept. You are being a good friend by being concerned for him, but, if you try to dictate what he can and can't do, that would be overstepping the boundaries of trust and friendship.

Good luck to you, and congratulations on being such a good friend!

[josepht]

If I were you I'd ask him if he was seeing anyone and if he is a good, honest friend he would tell you right? Either that or slowly bring up the conversation

[The_Hunger_Games]

Pretend like u never saw it its their business lol

[xXl0sth0peXx]

This will fit better here.

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[Hermes96]

it's not up to you what he dose. But if you do bring it up be prepared for him to have a go at you for snooping.