Older guys

[justin 13]

Hey guys, I'm Keith. I know I'm gay, no doubts about it, I like boys since ages. But I am not sexually interested in boys around my age like 12 or 13, I like olders. I just had one sexual experience with a friend my age, we did some stuff and was cool but what really get me curious is older guys, and older guys think that I’m way too young. It is normal?:what:

[xXl0sth0peXx]

This fits better here.

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[justin 13]

Oh ok, thank you!

[fast8]

yea it happens nothing wrong with it

[JonasBe]

Yeah it happens. I prefer a little bit younger than myself. (not too young of course!)
But I know a lot of gay/bi friends who also prefer older than themselves, so yeah, it's normal and it's just taste :)

Like when it comes to straight people it also happens, young guys having relationships with older women (Madonna, Demi Moore) and vice versa.
So it's absolutely normal, and not even a gay thing.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Yes it happens, completely normal. the first boyfriend I ever had was about 6 years older than me.

The one (I used to have) was 3 years older.

[teen.jpg]

I kind of feel the same way. Not too big of an age gap though.(no more then 2 years) I never had a relationship, so I dont really think it matters As long as its legal.

[naglfari]

i like guys my age but also a bit older up to maybe 20

[johnsmith1]

There is nothing wrong in the way you feel. Legaly given your current age, it depends on what age gap you're looking at. Going with someone in their 20s would get them in a lot of trouble, if caught.

[Jamesison]

That some times happens... I think

[Second Chance]

Whether you're gay or straight what you describe is normal because there are a lot of folks who feel more comfortable with folks older than them because they're more mature for their age. On the flip side, the older person may not want to go out with the younger person because they feel they may not have much in common with them. I know that when a person is 18+ a couple of years difference is not a big deal, but when we are talking about someone who is in junior high trying to go out with someone in high school or even among the different levels of high school, each year is a big difference. For example, most junior high schools are really different than high schools in every way such as the kinds of classes folks take and the maturity level. Among high schoolers a freshman is going to be a lot different than a senior in terms of their priorities because a senior is thinking about college or work while a freshman is simply looking at fitting in at high school. Basically, don't feel bad if an older person doesn't go out with you because they just are in a different stage of life, and their circle of friends might be totally different than you even if the person him/herself is just like you.

I would say be really careful about going out with someone who is older than you especially if they are not a virgin and you are. Even if you're not a virgin you still should be careful because the older person is going to have a lot more experience than you mentally and physically, and they might make you do things that you're not ready for. For example, a senior in high school might be used to getting full blown sex regularly unlike a junior high school kid who is just learning how to masturbate, and putting those two in a relationship is not a good idea especially if the senior in high school wants to do a lot with the junior high school kid.

I'm sorry for this being so long, but I guess what I'm trying to say is try to stick with someone in your school or age group if you're in junior high because if you start looking for high school kids, then there might be too much of an age and experience gap. Going with anyone older than a high school kid is a no-go area because that person is just using you for your body and nothing more. If you do go with someone who is older (i.e. sophomore or older), then be careful because the first thing you need to ask yourself is why the person is going for someone who's 13 (according to your post) and why they're not going with someone their age. Remember, you don't have to go out with someone, and it is far better to stay single and be safe than go out with someone who might not be clean or who would take you to places where you're not ready.

[justin 13]

Whether you're gay or straight what you describe is normal because there are a lot of folks who feel more comfortable with folks older than them because they're more mature for their age. On the flip side, the older person may not want to go out with the younger person because they feel they may not have much in common with them. I know that when a person is 18+ a couple of years difference is not a big deal, but when we are talking about someone who is in junior high trying to go out with someone in high school or even among the different levels of high school, each year is a big difference. For example, most junior high schools are really different than high schools in every way such as the kinds of classes folks take and the maturity level. Among high schoolers a freshman is going to be a lot different than a senior in terms of their priorities because a senior is thinking about college or work while a freshman is simply looking at fitting in at high school. Basically, don't feel bad if an older person doesn't go out with you because they just are in a different stage of life, and their circle of friends might be totally different than you even if the person him/herself is just like you.

I would say be really careful about going out with someone who is older than you especially if they are not a virgin and you are. Even if you're not a virgin you still should be careful because the older person is going to have a lot more experience than you mentally and physically, and they might make you do things that you're not ready for. For example, a senior in high school might be used to getting full blown sex regularly unlike a junior high school kid who is just learning how to masturbate, and putting those two in a relationship is not a good idea especially if the senior in high school wants to do a lot with the junior high school kid.

I'm sorry for this being so long, but I guess what I'm trying to say is try to stick with someone in your school or age group if you're in junior high because if you start looking for high school kids, then there might be too much of an age and experience gap. Going with anyone older than a high school kid is a no-go area because that person is just using you for your body and nothing more. If you do go with someone who is older (i.e. sophomore or older), then be careful because the first thing you need to ask yourself is why the person is going for someone who's 13 (according to your post) and why they're not going with someone their age. Remember, you don't have to go out with someone, and it is far better to stay single and be safe than go out with someone who might not be clean or who would take you to places where you're not ready.


Dude thank you. First, yeah I'm virgin, second I'm not even in High School, I am not sure to have a real sex experience with an older guy, but I'm curious and by older yeah I mean guys like 15 to 17. I do like boys my age, I'm dying of finding a gay or even BI boy in my school but so far none comes out. You are right bro. I have to think about what u said.

[nice]

Yeah it's not really that weird I turn 15 this year and I like people that are anywhere from 16-22. I know another girl at my school she just turned 15 this year and if I rembere right her boyfriend is either 19 or 20

[Second Chance]

Dude thank you. First, yeah I'm virgin, second I'm not even in High School, I am not sure to have a real sex experience with an older guy, but I'm curious and by older yeah I mean guys like 15 to 17. I do like boys my age, I'm dying of finding a gay or even BI boy in my school but so far none comes out. You are right bro. I have to think about what u said.

No problem about giving you advice because it is tough for you being in junior high and being gay. Listen, there is no sense in coming out or putting yourself in a hard position in junior high especially if you are in a place that is not gay friendly. Whether or not you come out now or when you're older the reality is that you're still going to like guys. It is not like by waiting you are missing out on something.

When older gay guys start going after young guys like you, then that sets off red flags for me because those guys probably have something wrong with them like a STD or something else that the others their age know about which is why they go after young guys like you who wouldn't know any better. I am not saying all older guys are bad or have some problem, but if someone beyond junior high wants to go out with someone in 7th/8th grade, then that seems dodgy to me especially since in high schools there are things like gay/straight alliances where folks are out in the open unlike in junior high. Especially with junior high school kids being right out of elementary school it seems kind of creepy to me if a high school kid wanted to do something with someone that young.

I'm not saying all older guys going out with younger ones are bad news, and there are definitely examples of couples that work out. However, in the cases that work out generally the age gap between the people is not really that great. Face it, a junior high school kid is going to be in a totally different world than a high schooler, and it would be tough for two to fit into each other's worlds and friendship groups. The same can be said about a relationship between a college person and a high schooler, too. While there are older guys who are decent and who would mentor a younger person in a relationship, my experience is most older guys are not very patient especially when it comes to sex which is why you have to be really careful since you're a virgin and are an appealing target to someone who wants to be your first.

You're going to have sexual needs and stuff, and my thinking is that stick to jacking off and looking at porn (if that's not against your religion or beliefs) so that you can deal with your feelings. More than anything, you need to build up your support structure and get involved in positive things so that when you do come out you will have folks who are there for you. If this means anything, there were guys who I had known who were involved in a lot of positive things such as volunteering, sports teams, and community stuff, and when they did come out people generally didn't care because the person was pretty okay and folks didn't want to loose being friends with the person. As long as you have a good group of friends and don't do anything stupid like getting sexually active before you're old enough to handle it, then you'll feel better. There's a lot of pressure on gay guys to get sexually active young, and don't do it to seek out love, attention, and to be around folks who are like you. Remember, you are a lot more than your sexuality, and if focus on other things besides that, then you won't feel so bad.

I think by the time you get to high school you'll find someone. Just take it slow for now. I would also avoid going out with anyone older than junior high because you won't have anything in common with them, and they're going to run circles around you especially if they are more experienced sexually.

[JonasBe]

Yeah man, you have all the time, don't rush things.
But I do want to add something.

Not every time an older guy who dates a younger guy is in it for the sex.
I wouldn't advise on dating and having sex with older guys right away, but sometimes it's really a matter of love.
I know a couple who started out at 15-20 and now 3 years later they are still together.

Yes the 20yo wasn't a virgin and the 15yo one was, but they took things slow and even waited a long time with having sex.

So yes, it's ok to have a relationship with an older guy, I mean thats love right, it can happen to anyone. And if the guy really loves you he doesn't care about not being able to have sex yet, trust me.

But dating older ones who are expecting sex when you can't really speak of love yet, well thats not a great idea...

[countryboi9]

yes thats normal, older guys tend not to go for younger, how ever younger guys like older guys

[Jack230]

Yeah that happens some times and I think it's not really wrong.

[darkdude41]

Hey guys, I'm Keith. I know I'm gay, no doubts about it, I like boys since ages. But I am not sexually interested in boys around my age like 12 or 13, I like olders. I just had one sexual experience with a friend my age, we did some stuff and was cool but what really get me curious is older guys, and older guys think that I’m way too young. It is normal?:what:


its pretty normal, considering i have a few friends who are into guys a few years older than them, even like 5 years age difference. And i also have some friends who are into guys like 4 or even 5 years younger (legal of course)

Its pretty natural, it just means you're a little more adventurous with your taste in guys lol

[Convoluted one]

im 15 and find guys up to about 19 attractive, but still a virgin and not really looking at this point

[ItsJustJack]

Its perfectly normal, myself though, i like guys my age or 1 year younger

[johndjdrummer12]

When you think of it..guys always date older women like 5+yrs older sometimes.so why should it be different for guys who like guys..I feel that as long as both parties are comfortable with each other and are safe about what happens then go for it. Just don't force someone to like you.

[Atonement]

I don't think it's weird. However, I don't see men under 25 date that far up very often. Age differences become less relevant as people get older. Therefore, at my age (19), my max I would date upward is 30. That's where I feel like I am in my stage of life. I'm mostly on my own, making my own life, doing my thing. I don't want to settle done. I want to date around. I like this time of my life. Cool. However, liking men, it makes the pool to choose from much smaller. Therefore, I widen my criteria for partners from what I would prefer (19-23) up to 30.

[wish_master_TWA]

It's perfectly normal :) I prefer boys about 14-18 :D

[NikosamA98]

Hey guys, I'm Keith. I know I'm gay, no doubts about it, I like boys since ages. But I am not sexually interested in boys around my age like 12 or 13, I like olders. I just had one sexual experience with a friend my age, we did some stuff and was cool but what really get me curious is older guys, and older guys think that I’m way too young. It is normal?:what:


Yep. Completely normal and ill tell you why in a way no one did before: scientifically. Unlike girls who start producing the female hormone "estrogen" at a young age, boys starts being produced later, at 15 years old. That hormone makes the teens grow in height and, basically, makes em be adults. It means older guys are more attractive because they are more developed and the human brain sees that as a healthy prepared for reproducing person. The testosterone or boys hormone, in the other hand, starts being produced at a young age in boys, sooner than girls. That's why you see boys of 13 years old who can cum, but are not physically developed and girls who are physically developed at 13 years old but still doesn't have their menstruation.

Sorry if this was boring :B

[Harley Quinn]

Please don't bump old threads. :locked: